looksmaxing is easy, but reframing your appearance in the eyes of those who already know you?

[johnny4612]

We often change, grow, and improve as people, yet our reputation within a certain environment seems to stay the same.
(Others continue to see us through an old version of ourselves, even when that version no longer reflects who we are.)
It feels like reputation/status only changes when we encounter new people. But that is not really possible to change that in an existing circle or your old friends
This raises an interesting question: is it really possible to change your reputation without changing your environment? Or do people need a clear action, moment, or proof before they're willing to update how they see you?
I'm pretty sure here on looksmax we have the right "blackpilled" answer to this.



Basically, you change, and people you know will actually see your growth, but they will either accept it (they're smart and secure enough), or refuse it (you're seen like a treat), or they will be undecided and look at what others do in the group (like if they're insecure, they'll listen to the other group member with higher status to determine their position).
For many men, you'll be a treaty, since there are many insecure man out there that they will think you'll steal their woman or their reputation, so they will start talking baldy about you, and insecure women will believe to them. (you will see groups and antipathies forming against you)

In other cases, but very rare, I have seen people recognize you. These are the people who have confidence and a good opinion of themselves and do not depend on others for approval of themselves.

 

[badorb]

We often change, grow, and improve as people, yet our reputation within a certain environment seems to stay the same.
(Others continue to see us through an old version of ourselves, even when that version no longer reflects who we are.)
It feels like reputation/status only changes when we encounter new people. But that is not really possible to change that in an existing circle or your old friends
This raises an interesting question: is it really possible to change your reputation without changing your environment? Or do people need a clear action, moment, or proof before they're willing to update how they see you?
I'm pretty sure here on looksmax we have the right "blackpilled" answer to this.



Basically, you change, and people you know will actually see your growth, but they will either accept it (they're smart and secure enough), or refuse it (you're seen like a treat), or they will be undecided and look at what others do in the group (like if they're insecure, they'll listen to the other group member with higher status to determine their position).
For many men, you'll be a treaty, since there are many insecure man out there that they will think you'll steal their woman or their reputation, so they will start talking baldy about you, and insecure women will believe to them. (you will see groups and antipathies forming against you)

In other cases, but very rare, I have seen people recognize you. These are the people who have confidence and a good opinion of themselves and do not depend on others for approval of themselves.

This is very true ngl. I was a big clown years ago and nobody still takes me seriously too this day. It’s hard changing old thoughts in peoples head

 

[Orka]

Well said

 

[accinr]

the "better lookiing" i exponentially got the better treatment i gradually received even from those who know me (friends/family). But this is just an anecdote not reliable in large scale obviously, just stating my personal experience. I agree with everything youve mentioned.

 

[sadcel]

Very interesting subject bhai .
As I’ve had a mini ascension by going to the gym and fashionmaxxing, I feel like I now get treated far better by girls (and people in general) at social events such as parties, at work, etc. However, I feel like I’m treated the same by people who knew me before my “mini ascension.”
Sadly, sometimes it makes me feel like I haven’t ascended at all, I think if you didn't have a crazy ascension the people you know will still treat you the same way

 

[bddcoper]

Very interesting subject bhai .
As I’ve had a mini ascension by going to the gym and fashionmaxxing, I feel like I now get treated far better by girls (and people in general) at social events such as parties, at work, etc. However, I feel like I’m treated the same by people who knew me before my “mini ascension.”
Sadly, sometimes it makes me feel like I haven’t ascended at all, I think if you didn't have a crazy ascension the people you know will still treat you the same way

i also feel this way. it's like people who don't know me very well/don't know me at all are just nicer or ask me how im doing and shit which never happened before. random people (especially dining hall workers at my uni) were literally rude to me at my lowest, now this never happens and i get random girls talking to me in the elevator and shit, and even managed to get back into dating and have her ask me out again herself before i fumbled.

basically i never anticipated any of this happening despite only being mtn now (compared to subhuman - low ltn over a year ago), but people ive known are more tolerant of stuff i do though it's more or less the same since they see you every day, so they don't really notice the change over time.

 

[sadcel]

i also feel this way. it's like people who don't know me very well/don't know me at all are just nicer or ask me how im doing and shit which never happened before. random people (especially dining hall workers at my uni) were literally rude to me at my lowest, now this never happens and i get random girls talking to me in the elevator and shit, and even managed to get back into dating and have her ask me out again herself before i fumbled.

basically i never anticipated any of this happening despite only being mtn now (compared to subhuman - low ltn over a year ago), but people ive known are more tolerant of stuff i do though it's more or less the same since they see you every day, so they don't really notice the change over time.

You're right, people see you everyday so it's harder also to be honest many people cannot really tell you had an ascension except if you show them pictures or it's like a crazy ascension ( same soul; different person).

 

[ChioMaxiMix2025]

Even if you change you will still be seen as a loser ngl you need to meet new people and start all over

 

[johnny4612]

Even if you change you will still be seen as a loser ngl you need to meet new people and start all over

I figured the people who really care won't do that.

 

[NEET_Emperor]

you need to disappear for a long time and then return imo