Looksmaxxing is holding you back

[lurkingserpent]

I have no problem with the pursuit of looks improvement, but this community is characterized by mental illness. The main problem is hypervigilance. Your not rationally applying your ideology, your being emotional, when you ruminate about your superficial position relative to other people. Virtually everyone I've seen here does that as well. Leave looksmaxxing at home. It's so cringe, and insufferable. Everyone can see how weak you are if you think like that. It will make you so fragile, and you won't get any bitches anyway.

When your in public, is your brain constantly comparing? if so break that habit, change your focus every time you do that. If we all did this, then the looksmaxxing community wouldn't be clowns for everyone else to spit on.

 

[vampi]

you are a fucking idiot

 

[sherry12]

I have no problem with the pursuit of looks improvement, but this community is characterized by mental illness. The main problem is hypervigilance. Your not rationally applying your ideology, your being emotional, when you ruminate about your superficial position relative to other people. Virtually everyone I've seen here does that as well. Leave looksmaxxing at home. It's so cringe, and insufferable. Everyone can see how weak you are if you think like that. It will make you so fragile, and you won't get any bitches anyway.

When your in public, is your brain constantly comparing? if so break that habit, change your focus every time you do that. If we all did this, then the looksmaxxing community wouldn't be clowns for everyone else to spit on.

didnt read to many large words

 

[Pay]

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[Pay]

I have no problem with the pursuit of looks improvement, but this community is characterized by mental illness. The main problem is hypervigilance. Your not rationally applying your ideology, your being emotional, when you ruminate about your superficial position relative to other people. Virtually everyone I've seen here does that as well. Leave looksmaxxing at home. It's so cringe, and insufferable. Everyone can see how weak you are if you think like that. It will make you so fragile, and you won't get any bitches anyway.

When your in public, is your brain constantly comparing? if so break that habit, change your focus every time you do that. If we all did this, then the looksmaxxing community wouldn't be clowns for everyone else to spit on.

You do get that "not rationally applying your ideolog"
applies to anything.
in theory if a human has unlimited motivation and emotionless anything is possible
dnr

 

[avgsub5human]

ADOONNISSS.SS...S.SSSS.SSSSssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss

 

[bIackpill]

I have no problem with the pursuit of looks improvement, but this community is characterized by mental illness. The main problem is hypervigilance. Your not rationally applying your ideology, your being emotional, when you ruminate about your superficial position relative to other people. Virtually everyone I've seen here does that as well. Leave looksmaxxing at home. It's so cringe, and insufferable. Everyone can see how weak you are if you think like that. It will make you so fragile, and you won't get any bitches anyway.

When your in public, is your brain constantly comparing? if so break that habit, change your focus every time you do that. If we all did this, then the looksmaxxing community wouldn't be clowns for everyone else to spit on.

hop off whatever you on bro

 

[Peco]

I have no problem with the pursuit of looks improvement, but this community is characterized by mental illness. The main problem is hypervigilance. Your not rationally applying your ideology, your being emotional, when you ruminate about your superficial position relative to other people. Virtually everyone I've seen here does that as well. Leave looksmaxxing at home. It's so cringe, and insufferable. Everyone can see how weak you are if you think like that. It will make you so fragile, and you won't get any bitches anyway.

When your in public, is your brain constantly comparing? if so break that habit, change your focus every time you do that. If we all did this, then the looksmaxxing community wouldn't be clowns for everyone else to spit on.

I wouldn't say it's the biggest problem but I do agree with you on the rest

 

[nwed]

I have no problem with the pursuit of looks improvement, but this community is characterized by mental illness. The main problem is hypervigilance. Your not rationally applying your ideology, your being emotional, when you ruminate about your superficial position relative to other people. Virtually everyone I've seen here does that as well. Leave looksmaxxing at home. It's so cringe, and insufferable. Everyone can see how weak you are if you think like that. It will make you so fragile, and you won't get any bitches anyway.

When your in public, is your brain constantly comparing? if so break that habit, change your focus every time you do that. If we all did this, then the looksmaxxing community wouldn't be clowns for everyone else to spit on.

dnr a single molecule, delete your account

 

[iwannasleeponurlap]

I have no problem with the pursuit of looks improvement, but this community is characterized by mental illness. The main problem is hypervigilance. Your not rationally applying your ideology, your being emotional, when you ruminate about your superficial position relative to other people. Virtually everyone I've seen here does that as well. Leave looksmaxxing at home. It's so cringe, and insufferable. Everyone can see how weak you are if you think like that. It will make you so fragile, and you won't get any bitches anyway.

When your in public, is your brain constantly comparing? if so break that habit, change your focus every time you do that. If we all did this, then the looksmaxxing community wouldn't be clowns for everyone else to spit on.

 

[iflookscouldk1ll]

Muh Muh I’m a faggot Muhhhhhhh

 

[Pennywise109]

I have no problem with the pursuit of looks improvement, but this community is characterized by mental illness. The main problem is hypervigilance. Your not rationally applying your ideology, your being emotional, when you ruminate about your superficial position relative to other people. Virtually everyone I've seen here does that as well. Leave looksmaxxing at home. It's so cringe, and insufferable. Everyone can see how weak you are if you think like that. It will make you so fragile, and you won't get any bitches anyway.

When your in public, is your brain constantly comparing? if so break that habit, change your focus every time you do that. If we all did this, then the looksmaxxing community wouldn't be clowns for everyone else to spit on.

Did you seriously make this as a response to my thread? Do you not understand that someone can be aware of their looks in relation to others without being insecure? And that looks obviously play a large role in how you are treated so it's not unreasonable to consider that the way people act around you may potentially correlate to both your looks and their own?

 

[Brava]

unfortunately for a lot fo people here this is what life will be for the rest of their young years. not much things that will change that

 

[Peco]

You do get that "not rationally applying your ideolog"
applies to anything.
in theory if a human has unlimited motivation and emotionless anything is possible
dnr

So you do agree with him then

 

[Pennywise109]

The looksmaxxing community is looked won upon because of people who go around blurting terms they don't even understand to people who don't even care about self-improvement.

 

[lurkingserpent]

You do get that "not rationally applying your ideolog"
applies to anything.
in theory if a human has unlimited motivation and emotionless anything is possible
dnr

I think you can rationally apply your ideology even with a somewhat emotional basis, but comparative thought is purely emotional, there's nothing practical, or rational about it. I mean in an acute sense, because obviously there's utility in understanding where you stand broadly, without it dominating all your thoughts.

 

[TajManzoor]

I have no problem with the pursuit of looks improvement, but this community is characterized by mental illness. The main problem is hypervigilance. Your not rationally applying your ideology, your being emotional, when you ruminate about your superficial position relative to other people. Virtually everyone I've seen here does that as well. Leave looksmaxxing at home. It's so cringe, and insufferable. Everyone can see how weak you are if you think like that. It will make you so fragile, and you won't get any bitches anyway.

When your in public, is your brain constantly comparing? if so break that habit, change your focus every time you do that. If we all did this, then the looksmaxxing community wouldn't be clowns for everyone else to spit on.

How MFs under a 100 posts be posing Low IQ takes like there Einstein

 

[lurkingserpent]

hop off whatever you on bro

Be open minded man. I'm saying this from a place of love bro.

 

[infra.nizar]

I have no problem with the pursuit of looks improvement, but this community is characterized by mental illness. The main problem is hypervigilance. Your not rationally applying your ideology, your being emotional, when you ruminate about your superficial position relative to other people. Virtually everyone I've seen here does that as well. Leave looksmaxxing at home. It's so cringe, and insufferable. Everyone can see how weak you are if you think like that. It will make you so fragile, and you won't get any bitches anyway.

When your in public, is your brain constantly comparing? if so break that habit, change your focus every time you do that. If we all did this, then the looksmaxxing community wouldn't be clowns for everyone else to spit on.

compared to other, I think you are partly right, but you are overstating it.
you are right that constant comparison and hypervigilance can mess people up mentally. If someone is always scanning the room, comparing faces, height, status, or thinking about where they rank, that can make them anxious, insecure, and socially awkward. at that point, it stops being self improvement and becomes obsession.

where I disagree is that you treat looksmaxxing itself like it is irrational or useless. improving your looks is not some delusion. better grooming, fitness, skin, style, posture, and body composition clearly affect attraction and first impressions. that is just reality.

you are also exaggerating when you say everyone who thinks about this is weak or fragile. plenty of people improve their appearance without becoming mentally ill or obsessed. the issue is not caring about looks. the issue is when it turns into doom thinking and constant self ranking.

I would say the healthy approach is simple : improve your looks, but do not let it consume your brain every time you go outside.

 

[cookiekingglazer]

You do get that "not rationally applying your ideolog"
applies to anything.
in theory if a human has unlimited motivation and emotionless anything is possible
dnr

mirin avi

 

[lurkingserpent]

compared to other, I think you are partly right, but you are overstating it.
you are right that constant comparison and hypervigilance can mess people up mentally. If someone is always scanning the room, comparing faces, height, status, or thinking about where they rank, that can make them anxious, insecure, and socially awkward. at that point, it stops being self improvement and becomes obsession.

where I disagree is that you treat looksmaxxing itself like it is irrational or useless. improving your looks is not some delusion. better grooming, fitness, skin, style, posture, and body composition clearly affect attraction and first impressions. that is just reality.

you are also exaggerating when you say everyone who thinks about this is weak or fragile. plenty of people improve their appearance without becoming mentally ill or obsessed. the issue is not caring about looks. the issue is when it turns into doom thinking and constant self ranking.

I would say the healthy approach is simple : improve your looks, but do not let it consume your brain every time you go outside.

I'm not denigrating looksmaxxing. I think it's good. I was only directly calling hypervigilant thought fragile. I like looksmaxxing, it's all just applied badly, so I feel the need to criticize this community. I agree bro the solution is stop allowing it to consume your brain when you go outside, that's all I'm saying

 

[infra.nizar]

I'm not denigrating looksmaxxing. I think it's good. I was only directly calling hypervigilant thought fragile. I like looksmaxxing, it's all just applied badly, so I feel the need to criticize this community. I agree bro the solution is stop allowing it to consume your brain when you go outside, that's all I'm saying

fair enough then, I misunderstood your point. I thought you were criticizing looksmaxxing itself, not the hypervigilant mindset around it.

I actually agree with you on that. I have seen people get way too obsessive, constantly comparing themselves to every guy outside, doom posting, overanalyzing every flaw, and letting it ruin their confidence. at that point it becomes counterproductive.

I think looksmaxxing works best when it is practical. improve what you can, then go live your life instead of mentally ranking yourself every time you step outside.

 

[lurkingserpent]

How MFs under a 100 posts be posing Low IQ takes like there Einstein

Ya bro wasting time in a immature, autistic, scientifically inept lifestyle forum makes you high IQ.

 

[lurkingserpent]

fair enough then, I misunderstood your point. I thought you were criticizing looksmaxxing itself, not the hypervigilant mindset around it.

I actually agree with you on that. I have seen people get way too obsessive, constantly comparing themselves to every guy outside, doom posting, overanalyzing every flaw, and letting it ruin their confidence. at that point it becomes counterproductive.

I think looksmaxxing works best when it is practical. improve what you can, then go live your life instead of mentally ranking yourself every time you step outside.

Great we agree. You can see though how this community is riddled with this type of hypervigilant thought though right? It's not just some of you, it's like every single post I've come across, saying stuff like I was in public, and a htn came up al;ag...a.dfaj;sdf;aj.

 

[TajManzoor]

Ya bro wasting time in a immature, autistic, scientifically inept lifestyle forum makes you high IQ.

 

[Foreverbrad]

You can’t help but compare yourself to others.

Even if you’re not analysing his gonial angle and midface ratio, you still know subconsciously you’re getting mogged by that muscle-bound 6’5” Chad you crossed paths with.

I think a lot of us have nothing else going on in our lives and looksmaxxing seemed like a way to get back in control of our lives and have something going for us so it feels very hard to get mogged despite best efforts.

 

[Peco]

I think you can rationally apply your ideology even with a somewhat emotional basis, but comparative thought is purely emotional, there's nothing practical, or rational about it. I mean in an acute sense, because obviously there's utility in understanding where you stand broadly, without it dominating all your thoughts.

Completly agree with you. A lot of people are asking people to rate them or worse use shit like face iq as if knowing your "objective" rating is gonna help you improve in any way. You should just focus on getting better from day to day, where you started or where you are compared to others doesn't really matter. The only worthy comparison is with your past self. Constantly wanting to know your objective value is only gonna make you anxious and awkward in social interactions.

 

[lurkingserpent]

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Oh looks like someone dominated me. You've displayed your massive testicles, and put me to shame.

 

[iwannasleeponurlap]

Oh looks like someone dominated me. You've displayed your massive testicles, and put me to shame.

ayo bro

 

[iwannasleeponurlap]

Oh looks like someone dominated me. You've displayed your massive testicles, and put me to shame.

i agree i am too obsessive about it
i cant help myself

 

[BatemanNigga]

you are a fucking idiot

 

[just_foidslayer]

your so retarded

 

[lurkingserpent]

You can’t help but compare yourself to others.

Even if you’re not analysing his gonial angle and midface ratio, you still know subconsciously you’re getting mogged by that muscle-bound 6’5” Chad you crossed paths with.

I think a lot of us have nothing else going on in our lives and looksmaxxing seemed like a way to get back in control of our lives and have something going for us so it feels very hard to get mogged despite best efforts.

Your brain will always track in the background to some extent. Putting that to the center of your mind will amplify it emotionally. That's where it gets unhealthy. Allowing it to possess you. Constantly needing to define everything.

 

[lurkingserpent]

your so retarded

Another productive contribution. I love it here, such good people

 

[Pay]

mirin avi

your avis entire purpose is to goon to, no kidding, pony > humans

 

[lurkingserpent]

ayo bro

i agree i am too obsessive about it
i cant help myself

Jesus you must be a very resentful person, attaching shooting material to your account. Life doesn't have to be painful if you keep fighting, don't give up man, even if it seems impossible. I believe in you bro.

 

[iwannasleeponurlap]

Jesus you must be a very resentful person, attaching shooting material to your account. Life doesn't have to be painful if you keep fighting, don't give up man, even if it seems impossible. I believe in you bro.

it really is painful and its really hard to cope

 

[iwannasleeponurlap]

Jesus you must be a very resentful person, attaching shooting material to your account. Life doesn't have to be painful if you keep fighting, don't give up man, even if it seems impossible. I believe in you bro.

bro i genuinely let out a tear reading this post. i usually never cry bro

 

[lurkingserpent]

it really is painful and its really hard to cope

I have been resentful in my past, wanting to reject the world that rejected me. I have a chronic pain condition. My social issue was too much to handle as well. Eventually I let go of my resentment, and assumed a hopeful attitude. It was inevitable that I would fail to fix it, and endure more pain. The same pattern repeated despite desperate intervention. I never gave up though. I was deprived of a healthy childhood, isolated the entire time. I'm 20 now, and things that seemed impossible have now opened up. It's true, it's a ridiculously complex problem. Unless your literally terminally ill, or severely disfigured. It's not hopeless. It's just complex. Don't allow the complexity to overwhelm you, start as simply as you can. If all you do is improve your skin a little bit, that's a good first step, or practice talking to people. Lurking on these forums all day will make you miserable, because it will constantly overcomplicate the issue. You should make a plan for your life, leave this forum and don't come back. Personally I had years of no progress and immense pain. Sometimes the best you can do is wait, and if your young you have no idea what that can bring, but it's worth it, because I think life is profoundly exciting when your healthy. I'm not like fully ascended or anything, but I have started to go out on weekends, talk to girls, for whatever reason I get a decent amount of attention from them. I usually fuck it up afterwhile, but I'm getting past the superficial stage somehow. I walked into a bar like a week ago, and this beautiful girl, out of my league, asked outrightly to get with me. Such a surreal experience. I'm making progress with my pain condition, and addictions, and anxiety disorder, and I cured the dpdr that I got from doing shrooms, because of that retard in botb. Things are finally changing for me. You have no fucking idea how hopeless my condition was. I'm beating the odds. You can do it to. If you give up or lash out your allowing the world to beat you. For me, even in the worst of it it was like even I fail, at least I can look at myself when I'm old, and say I fucking tried, then I can reject life from a position of authority. I really do believe in you bro, and I sympathize with the absolute torment of it.

 

[iwannasleeponurlap]

I have been resentful in my past, wanting to reject the world that rejected me. I have a chronic pain condition. My social issue was too much to handle as well. Eventually I let go of my resentment, and assumed a hopeful attitude. It was inevitable that I would fail to fix it, and endure more pain. The same pattern repeated despite desperate intervention. I never gave up though. I was deprived of a healthy childhood, isolated the entire time. I'm 20 now, and things that seemed impossible have now opened up. It's true, it's a ridiculously complex problem. Unless your literally terminally ill, or severely disfigured. It's not hopeless. It's just complex. Don't allow the complexity to overwhelm you, start as simply as you can. If all you do is improve your skin a little bit, that's a good first step, or practice talking to people. Lurking on these forums all day will make you miserable, because it will constantly overcomplicate the issue. You should make a plan for your life, leave this forum and don't come back. Personally I had years of no progress and immense pain. Sometimes the best you can do is wait, and if your young you have no idea what that can bring, but it's worth it, because I think life is profoundly exciting when your healthy. I'm not like fully ascended or anything, but I have started to go out on weekends, talk to girls, for whatever reason I get a decent amount of attention from them. I usually fuck it up afterwhile, but I'm getting past the superficial stage somehow. I walked into a bar like a week ago, and this beautiful girl, out of my league, asked outrightly to get with me. Such a surreal experience. I'm making progress with my pain condition, and addictions, and anxiety disorder, and I cured the dpdr that I got from doing shrooms, because of that retard in botb. Things are finally changing for me. You have no fucking idea how hopeless my condition was. I'm beating the odds. You can do it to. If you give up or lash out your allowing the world to beat you. For me, even in the worst of it it was like even I fail, at least I can look at myself when I'm old, and say I fucking tried, then I can reject life from a position of authority. I really do believe in you bro, and I sympathize with the absolute torment of it.

i think brown 5'4 ? rating in netherlands counts as severely disfigured pluss bdd and very shy/ maybe social anxiety plus other stuff

 

[lurkingserpent]

i think brown 5'4 ? rating in netherlands counts as severely disfigured pluss bdd and very shy/ maybe social anxiety plus other stuff

I want to preface this by saying I'm not doubting the serious difficulty of your situation, but here is my practical evaluation.

Your probably quite normal looking if you didn't bring up your face, maybe a little below average. Most people below average can get above average, so that's not an impossible problem. Social anxiety is possible to overcome if you learn about your own psychology, and use pharmaceuticals to alter your nervous systems activity. Being brown, and living in netherlands... I mean just live somewhere else, especially where your race isn't a drawback of any kind, or plan too, demographic problems can be solved by just exposing yourself to lots and lots of people as well. Not that's it's easy to move, but it is possible. Regarding being 5'4, this is a real, and challenging deficiency, but it's not unmanagable. First of all, doing basics like wearing inserts, and fixing your posture. I mean like actually figure out spine correcting exercises and stuff, not just forcing your back straight. You could probably get to 5'6/5'7 from that. Beyond that you can really only compensate. I think you can reasonably expect a girl who is slightly better than your maximized self, if you maximize yourself. Your realistically not going to pull a 10/10 stacy, but you should be able to fulfill your desires to the point where they don't scream at you all day. People under weigh fixing the emotional stuff on here. You probably know people who are shorter, but with healthier minds, those guys should be your role models. There are short people who are respected, because they are genuinely internally secure. I've met them. I know you probably have. I'm not denying that you have a real superficial deficiency, maybe more than most on here, and for guys like you. I'd definitely say looksmaxxing is important, but be careful about it still. Small progress is still progress, don't become a botch job, that's life ruining no matter who you are. Over time if you improve your looks, so your above average, and like 5'6, and you are financially secure, and emotionally stable, and you have a network of friends around you, and your in the right places, and your a competent guy opportunities will arise my friend. The logistics don't matter as much as they immediately appear to, it's mostly about maintaining the right attitude. If you hope, and cope the most, your hoping and coping will pay off. I've never heard a story where someone's like "so I tried and tried for 10 years, unwavering persistence, and still failed". You might regard my specific prescriptions as insufficient, but you should regard your own potential as unknowable even so. Anyone who claims to know your potential is a retarded asshole, stop listening to them. I was told my potential in lots of ways that turned out to be wrong. Try this, give life your best for a whole year. If your addicted to something this won't be viable, and you need to overcome the addiction first, even if that's just your own social media use.

 

[iwannasleeponurlap]

I want to preface this by saying I'm not doubting the serious difficulty of your situation, but here is my practical evaluation.

Your probably quite normal looking if you didn't bring up your face, maybe a little below average. Most people below average can get above average, so that's not an impossible problem. Social anxiety is possible to overcome if you learn about your own psychology, and use pharmaceuticals to alter your nervous systems activity. Being brown, and living in netherlands... I mean just live somewhere else, especially where your race isn't a drawback of any kind, or plan too, demographic problems can be solved by just exposing yourself to lots and lots of people as well. Not that's it's easy to move, but it is possible. Regarding being 5'4, this is a real, and challenging deficiency, but it's not unmanagable. First of all, doing basics like wearing inserts, and fixing your posture. I mean like actually figure out spine correcting exercises and stuff, not just forcing your back straight. You could probably get to 5'6/5'7 from that. Beyond that you can really only compensate. I think you can reasonably expect a girl who is slightly better than your maximized self, if you maximize yourself. Your realistically not going to pull a 10/10 stacy, but you should be able to fulfill your desires to the point where they don't scream at you all day. People under weigh fixing the emotional stuff on here. You probably know people who are shorter, but with healthier minds, those guys should be your role models. There are short people who are respected, because they are genuinely internally secure. I've met them. I know you probably have. I'm not denying that you have a real superficial deficiency, maybe more than most on here, and for guys like you. I'd definitely say looksmaxxing is important, but be careful about it still. Small progress is still progress, don't become a botch job, that's life ruining no matter who you are. Over time if you improve your looks, so your above average, and like 5'6, and you are financially secure, and emotionally stable, and you have a network of friends around you, and your in the right places, and your a competent guy opportunities will arise my friend. The logistics don't matter as much as they immediately appear to, it's mostly about maintaining the right attitude. If you hope, and cope the most, your hoping and coping will pay off. I've never heard a story where someone's like "so I tried and tried for 10 years, unwavering persistence, and still failed". You might regard my specific prescriptions as insufficient, but you should regard your own potential as unknowable even so. Anyone who claims to know your potential is a retarded asshole, stop listening to them. I was told my potential in lots of ways that turned out to be wrong.

ok i think your a bluepilled fag

 

[freaky]

didnt read to many large words

Boiiii

 

[lurkingserpent]

ok i think your a bluepilled fag

Nooooo dude. Maybe I am. Regarding destiny I not a politically inclined person, I just enjoy listening to debates. My philosophys are optimistic, but I'm not denying the reality of the issue like blue pilled people do. I think it's a real problem. However, I would never put up hard lines though for like being brown, or being short. There's a big difference between those deficiencys, and actual disfigurement. I'm not lying, look at the outcomes in society. There's lots of people who are short and coloured, who have romantic relationships. Are these relationships with stacys? no, but your not going to be excluded from participating entirely like someone with a disfigurement. Moreover, we don't know the potential you have to mitigate these superficialy deficits. We don't. If your saying it's over, your just making a baseless assumption. I'm optimistic, if that makes me a bluepilled fag, I don't know what to say.

 

[iwannasleeponurlap]

Nooooo dude. Maybe I am. Regarding destiny I not a politically inclined person, I just enjoy listening to debates. My philosophys are optimistic, but I'm not denying the reality of the issue like blue pilled people do. I think it's a real problem. However, I would never put up hard lines though for like being brown, or being short. There's a big difference between those deficiencys, and actual disfigurement. I'm not lying, look at the outcomes in society. There's lots of people who are short and coloured, who have romantic relationships. Are these relationships with stacys? no, but your not going to be excluded from participating entirely like someone with a disfigurement. Moreover, we don't know the potential you have to mitigate these superficialy deficits. We don't. If your saying it's over, your just making a baseless assumption. I'm optimistic, if that makes me a bluepilled fag, I don't know what to say.

except me bro its all luck in the end and everything just boosts your luck

 

[Deleted member 342938]

I have no problem with the pursuit of looks improvement, but this community is characterized by mental illness. The main problem is hypervigilance. Your not rationally applying your ideology, your being emotional, when you ruminate about your superficial position relative to other people. Virtually everyone I've seen here does that as well. Leave looksmaxxing at home. It's so cringe, and insufferable. Everyone can see how weak you are if you think like that. It will make you so fragile, and you won't get any bitches anyway.

When you’re in public, is your brain constantly comparing? if so break that habit, change your focus every time you do that. If we all did this, then the looksmaxxing community wouldn't be clowns for everyone else to spit on.

Partially true

 

[lurkingserpent]

except me bro its all luck in the end and everything just boosts your luck

It's not luck. Your starting position is luck. You can strategize with it though. It's more like your a self reinforcing pattern, which is really hard to change, but you can if you keep trying relentelessly. It's more of a problem of executive function. This is why you shouldn't overcomplicate it, because if you do 1 thing which makes progress, your much more likely to do another, because you'll have the feedback, instead of thinking about your gonial angle, recessed maxilla, mid face ratio. That's too complex to deal with.

 

[iwannasleeponurlap]

It's not luck. Your starting position is luck. You can strategize with it though. It's more like your a self reinforcing pattern, which is really hard to change, but you can if you keep trying relentelessly. It's more of a problem of executive function. This is why you shouldn't overcomplicate it, because if you do 1 thing which makes progress, your much more likely to do another, because you'll have the feedback, instead of thinking about your gonial angle, recessed maxilla, mid face ratio. That's too complex to deal with.

yes i just said its luck wether you get a girlfriend but the more you imrpove your looks the more you imrpove your luck

 

[coastal]

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[coastal]

I want to preface this by saying I'm not doubting the serious difficulty of your situation, but here is my practical evaluation.

Your probably quite normal looking if you didn't bring up your face, maybe a little below average. Most people below average can get above average, so that's not an impossible problem. Social anxiety is possible to overcome if you learn about your own psychology, and use pharmaceuticals to alter your nervous systems activity. Being brown, and living in netherlands... I mean just live somewhere else, especially where your race isn't a drawback of any kind, or plan too, demographic problems can be solved by just exposing yourself to lots and lots of people as well. Not that's it's easy to move, but it is possible. Regarding being 5'4, this is a real, and challenging deficiency, but it's not unmanagable. First of all, doing basics like wearing inserts, and fixing your posture. I mean like actually figure out spine correcting exercises and stuff, not just forcing your back straight. You could probably get to 5'6/5'7 from that. Beyond that you can really only compensate. I think you can reasonably expect a girl who is slightly better than your maximized self, if you maximize yourself. Your realistically not going to pull a 10/10 stacy, but you should be able to fulfill your desires to the point where they don't scream at you all day. People under weigh fixing the emotional stuff on here. You probably know people who are shorter, but with healthier minds, those guys should be your role models. There are short people who are respected, because they are genuinely internally secure. I've met them. I know you probably have. I'm not denying that you have a real superficial deficiency, maybe more than most on here, and for guys like you. I'd definitely say looksmaxxing is important, but be careful about it still. Small progress is still progress, don't become a botch job, that's life ruining no matter who you are. Over time if you improve your looks, so your above average, and like 5'6, and you are financially secure, and emotionally stable, and you have a network of friends around you, and your in the right places, and your a competent guy opportunities will arise my friend. The logistics don't matter as much as they immediately appear to, it's mostly about maintaining the right attitude. If you hope, and cope the most, your hoping and coping will pay off. I've never heard a story where someone's like "so I tried and tried for 10 years, unwavering persistence, and still failed". You might regard my specific prescriptions as insufficient, but you should regard your own potential as unknowable even so. Anyone who claims to know your potential is a retarded asshole, stop listening to them. I was told my potential in lots of ways that turned out to be wrong. Try this, give life your best for a whole year. If your addicted to something this won't be viable, and you need to overcome the addiction first, even if that's just your own social media use.

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