Losing my erection during sex

[prettyboycel]

I have a serious problem I need advice.

i just got a gf. She is very attractive, exactly my type with a bubble butt. When we started having sex, the first sessions were good and she kept telling me I was good at sex. However, one time i lost my erection during sex. I dont know if it was because her pussy got loose and I wasnt feeling anything, but since then I kept thinking about it and it happened twice again. Every time, she made me feel super bad, telling me I was gay and asking me what the problem was.
i don't think it is due to low test. I work out 4 times a week, i used to be on test, and every time she touches me I have an erection.
I also used to jerk off and watch porn a lot but stopped completely about 1 month ago.

i have 2 theory: performance anxiety or death grip. Either i get too nervous thinking about my erection which makes me lose it, or I am too used to masturbate with my hand that i dont feel the pussy that much.

Anybody experienced something similar?

 

[noobeater]

yeah 100%

last girl i was with, i completely gave up on sex after that. i can't fucking stay hard and i also can't nut

sessions were 3 hours long and i was exhausted and blueballed but nothing happens

I thought it was death grip for me but didn't change anything, maybe i'm just low T

 

[one job away]

I have a serious problem I need advice.

i just got a gf. She is very attractive, exactly my type with a bubble butt. When we started having sex, the first sessions were good and she kept telling me I was good at sex. However, one time i lost my erection during sex. I dont know if it was because her pussy got loose and I wasnt feeling anything, but since then I kept thinking about it and it happened twice again. Every time, she made me feel super bad, telling me I was gay and asking me what the problem was.
i don't think it is due to low test. I work out 4 times a week, i used to be on test, and every time she touches me I have an erection.
I also used to jerk off and watch porn a lot but stopped completely about 1 month ago.

i have 2 theory: performance anxiety or death grip. Either i get too nervous thinking about my erection which makes me lose it, or I am too used to masturbate with my hand that i dont feel the pussy that much.

Anybody experienced something similar?

ever heard if viagra ? or all that other shit forgot the name ? ppl do it all the time especially in club scene where drugs fck your dick up. there are natural alternatives . you should try viagra jelly, it's pretty awesome

 

[Deleted member 7753]

you suffer from performance anxiety and her shitting on you isnt doing you any favours. ask her to be a bit more understanding and youll pull through after some time. i used to ejaculate very quickly when i first started having sex but my ex was very understanding and i overcame it after a couple of months.

 

[Cali Yuga]

performance anxiety + porn + masturbation

performance anxiety is a killer tbh

masturbating to porn since childhood will wire patterns in the brain hard encoding sexuality with porn behaviours and porn stimuli, these associations and patterns can take a while to break tbh

no porn (more important) and nofap (less important) long term will definitely help with sexual performance

do you have any history of depression or anxiety?

 

[Deleted member 4054]

I'd say try some cialis till you get out of your own head.

But more importantly, bro you can't just be letting her tease you and call you gay ffs. You should've checked her right then and there. Girls will do shit like that hoping to be put back in their place, and if you don't she'll resent you for being weak. Personally I wouldn't even bother with a girl if they talked to me that way, but you absolutely can't just let her do it.

 

[Cali Yuga]

I'd say try some cialis till you get out of your own head.

But more importantly, bro you can't just be letting her tease you and call you gay ffs. You should've checked her right then and there. Girls will do shit like that hoping to be put back in their place, and if you don't she'll resent you for being weak. Personally I wouldn't even bother with a girl if they talked to me that way, but you absolutely can't just let her do it.

this too

her badmouthing you is probably contributing bigly to the performance anxiety

you should never allow a woman to talk to you that way my dude

 

[Renaissance.Chad]

Chads.me

 

[MedMaxxing]

You probably gave yourself death grip. I have/had the same problem. Masturbating for so long gets your dick used to your hand and the force you apply and pussy doesn't feel the same. Just stop watching porn and fapping and sensitivity will slowly come back. Also try using Cialis once in a while.

 

[prettyboycel]

this too

her badmouthing you is probably contributing bigly to the performance anxiety

you should never allow a woman to talk to you that way my dude

I know but when it happens i have no idea what to say i am just so ashamed. First time I said that I drank some wine, second time that i had allergies, but the third time i just didnt know what to say i just felt so bad. Now when she says shes coming over and she starts getting horny i just get really anxious and find reasons to avoid sex. In life in general I am extremely confident, it seems like its my only weakness and I lose all my means.

i just ordered cialis, i will try it next time i see her. it should give me the confidence to fuck her a few times and get rid of the anxiety.

 

[Deleted member 8080]

I have a serious problem I need advice.

i just got a gf. She is very attractive, exactly my type with a bubble butt. When we started having sex, the first sessions were good and she kept telling me I was good at sex. However, one time i lost my erection during sex. I dont know if it was because her pussy got loose and I wasnt feeling anything, but since then I kept thinking about it and it happened twice again. Every time, she made me feel super bad, telling me I was gay and asking me what the problem was.
i don't think it is due to low test. I work out 4 times a week, i used to be on test, and every time she touches me I have an erection.
I also used to jerk off and watch porn a lot but stopped completely about 1 month ago.

i have 2 theory: performance anxiety or death grip. Either i get too nervous thinking about my erection which makes me lose it, or I am too used to masturbate with my hand that i dont feel the pussy that much.

Anybody experienced something similar?

Wow thats brutal

 

[tyronelite]

CIALIS MY GUY

 

[bruhcel]

are you circumcised?

 

[ChangeOfHeart]

Performance anxiety can be a bitch. I was mentally ready to have sex the first time, but my armpits were dripping with sweat, and my dick refused to work.

Also STOP FUCKING WATCHING PORN. Shit is no good for you and contributing to the problem. Your girlfriend shitting on you isn't helping either. Sounds like a total bitch. Imagine me calling a woman gay because she couldn't take my big dick jfl.

 

[bruhcel]

If she calls you gay again just tell her that her pussy is too loose and you don't feel shit.

 

[.👽.]

You are not gay shes ugly for not making your PP hard

 

[Cali Yuga]

I know but when it happens i have no idea what to say i am just so ashamed. First time I said that I drank some wine, second time that i had allergies, but the third time i just didnt know what to say i just felt so bad. Now when she says shes coming over and she starts getting horny i just get really anxious and find reasons to avoid sex. In life in general I am extremely confident, it seems like its my only weakness and I lose all my means.

i just ordered cialis, i will try it next time i see her. it should give me the confidence to fuck her a few times and get rid of the anxiety.

i feel for you my guy

i had problems my first time with a girl because of porn dick from being a porn addict since like 11

it fucked with my head for a long time tbh but I got over it

 

[homo_faber]

do you get soft in certain positions? i had a phase where i couldnt get hard when i was laying down but i was standing it was all good

 

[onfiresems]

"i used to be on test"

explain itselfs

 

[EmilKing]

You have PFS.....

Just kidding, you need Viagra

 

[Uglyandfat]

masturbating to porn since childhood will wire patterns in the brain hard encoding sexuality

is it possible to re wire to be normal or no?

 

[Deleted member 5818]

AAAAAAAAAAA

 

[Dr. Greenberg]

yeah 100%

last girl i was with, i completely gave up on sex after that. i can't fucking stay hard and i also can't nut

sessions were 3 hours long and i was exhausted and blueballed but nothing happens

I thought it was death grip for me but didn't change anything, maybe i'm just low T

I have a serious problem I need advice.

i just got a gf. She is very attractive, exactly my type with a bubble butt. When we started having sex, the first sessions were good and she kept telling me I was good at sex. However, one time i lost my erection during sex. I dont know if it was because her pussy got loose and I wasnt feeling anything, but since then I kept thinking about it and it happened twice again. Every time, she made me feel super bad, telling me I was gay and asking me what the problem was.
i don't think it is due to low test. I work out 4 times a week, i used to be on test, and every time she touches me I have an erection.
I also used to jerk off and watch porn a lot but stopped completely about 1 month ago.

i have 2 theory: performance anxiety or death grip. Either i get too nervous thinking about my erection which makes me lose it, or I am too used to masturbate with my hand that i dont feel the pussy that much.

Anybody experienced something similar?

Circumsised?

 

[randomvanish]

i used to be on test

this is the problem

 

[Cali Yuga]

is it possible to re wire to be normal or no?

yeah

idk if youll get to as optimal a sexual function as if you never watched porn (esp if you watched a lot of porn super young) but you can get back to normal

noporn nofap for a few months solid is enough

 

[prettyboycel]

this is the problem

No i mean i used to be on test and it happened, and even now my test is high and it atill does it. The problem is 100% mental. The girl is hot, my dick works properly, and it still happen. Its a vicious circle.

 

[Deleted member 5185]

Its probably a mental issue, but bruh. You seriously gonna let that hoe talk to you like that? dump her lmao

 

[TsarTsar444]

You circumcised? This could be also a big reason

 

[Deleted member 9511]

You circumcised? This could be also a big reason

wtf

 

[TsarTsar444]

wtf

What?

 

[Deleted member 6908]

I have a serious problem I need advice.

i just got a gf. She is very attractive, exactly my type with a bubble butt. When we started having sex, the first sessions were good and she kept telling me I was good at sex. However, one time i lost my erection during sex. I dont know if it was because her pussy got loose and I wasnt feeling anything, but since then I kept thinking about it and it happened twice again. Every time, she made me feel super bad, telling me I was gay and asking me what the problem was.
i don't think it is due to low test. I work out 4 times a week, i used to be on test, and every time she touches me I have an erection.
I also used to jerk off and watch porn a lot but stopped completely about 1 month ago.

i have 2 theory: performance anxiety or death grip. Either i get too nervous thinking about my erection which makes me lose it, or I am too used to masturbate with my hand that i dont feel the pussy that much.

Anybody experienced something similar?

She is telling you you are gay, because she like all girlfriends are unable to disassociate herself from the equation.

She is attributing her "lack" of attractiveness to you not remaining hard. So in order to cope with this fear of believing it's her that is causing you to go soft, she needs to vocalise that it's not her and that it's something else, like you not being straight. When she knows you are.

 

[Uglyandfat]

yeah

idk if youll get to as optimal a sexual function as if you never watched porn (esp if you watched a lot of porn super young) but you can get back to normal

noporn nofap for a few months solid is enough

fapping is the best drug i have so i will need to find something fufulling to replace it with tbh what you recommend?

 

[grimy]

Yo what the fuck... this just happened to me in November with my ex and it still hasn’t gone away... I think it’s because when I have sex now I subconsciously think “don’t go soft”.

 

[Deleted member 10536]

fapping is the best drug i have so i will need to find something fufulling to replace it with tbh what you recommend?

You should better never take drugs, if you consider fapping as the best drug...

 

[mgtowmadness]

Do you watch alot of porn..If you do cut it all out..cold turkey

 

[eduardkoopman]

d, telling me I was gay and asking me what the problem was.

 

[chasing aesthetics]

telling me I was gay

 

[LowTierNormie]

you suffer from performance anxiety and her shitting on you isnt doing you any favours. ask her to be a bit more understanding and youll pull through after some time. i used to ejaculate very quickly when i first started having sex but my ex was very understanding and i overcame it after a couple of months.

This, if shit like this starts getting in your head it will be very hard to overcome it.

 

[Uglyandfat]

You should better never take drugs, if you consider fapping as the best drug...

i don’t take hard drugs just life shit like nicotine and caffeine (in high amounts)

 

[noobeater]

Circumsised?

uncut

 

[Deleted member 10185]

If I WAS horny nobody could stop it.

 

[DicedFeta]

Having my mental game on point is really important for my performance during sex. Gotta be present which could be hard if you're anxious about anything. If you have had lots of sex recently some of the excitement could be gone. Getting mental game on point is quite hard and taking viagra, cialis or something is easy. Taking drugs could make your ED even worse after quitting tho. Could also be her being bad at sex just laying there as a stick.

 

[randomvanish]

i don't believe "mental" part of this problem. it occurs due to metabolic reasons.

 

[prettyboycel]

i don't believe "mental" part of this problem. it occurs due to metabolic reasons.

When you are anxious your body produces cortisol, which in turn blocks the blood circulation which means weak erection.

 

[randomvanish]

When you are anxious your body produces cortisol, which in turn blocks the blood circulation which means weak erection.

why you feel anxious ? i can understand first time sex but isn't she already your gf.

 

[Vitruvian]

This is the only advice you need going forward:

1. you are dating a whore. Only whores feel self conscious when a mans dick drops. She is extremely insecure and u actually have her hooked. She has no parents or bad relationship with them, prob shit at school too. My advice if u want to continue down this path, is make her feel insecure often, call her ugly, and then tell her u love her. This psychological control works best to establish dominance over insecure daddy issue whores

2. buy cialis. Go to a doctor to get a prescription, or ask a local gym roider, or order it online. It will make ur dick hard, when u want it hard, and keep it hard.

3. prepare to leave ur relationship if you dont read number 1

4. when you breakup eventually, seek god, ask forgiveness for ur sins

 

[Morpheus]

If a girl talked shit about me because I lost my erection I would never talk to her again.

It’s probably not because she actually thinks you’re gay but because she’s insecure over the fact that you went soft during sex with her and thinks it’s a reflection on her not being attractive enough or good enough at sex. Regardless it’s immature as hell and I wouldn’t want any part of that.

It’s happened to me plenty of times because I used to have major thyroid issues that lowered my testosterone and I also had a tight pelvic floor. But my two ex girlfriends and a couple other chicks it happened with were super cool and understanding about it. I don’t know where you guys are meeting these mean ass bitches. Luckily I fixed the issue. Yours could be for a variety of reasons. Try no porn/no fap for a while. Get your testosterone checked. Do you have trouble getting all the way hard when you’re fapping alone and do you get morning wood?

 

[Deleted member 1862]

If I WAS horny nobody could stop it.

thanks for sharing

 

[Dr. Greenberg]

If a girl talked shit about me because I lost my erection I would never talk to her again.

It’s probably not because she actually thinks you’re gay but because she’s insecure over the fact that you went soft during sex with her and thinks it’s a reflection on her not being attractive enough or good enough at sex. Regardless it’s immature as hell and I wouldn’t want any part of that.

It’s happened to me plenty of times because I used to have major thyroid issues that lowered my testosterone and I also had a tight pelvic floor. But my two ex girlfriends and a couple other chicks it happened with were super cool and understanding about it. I don’t know where you guys are meeting these mean ass bitches. Luckily I fixed the issue. Yours could be for a variety of reasons. Try no porn/no fap for a while. Get your testosterone checked. Do you have trouble getting all the way hard when you’re fapping alone and do you get morning wood?

How did you fix the issue?

 

[Morpheus]

How did you fix the issue?

Which issue?

For my thyroid I have hashimoto’s so to treat it I eliminated gluten/dairy from my diet and I take a lot of supplements for it my doctor ordered me. For my pelvic floor basically breathing exercises, reverse kegels, stretching, loosening up my hip flexors, and fixing the muscle imbalance between my core/glutes/legs. Also I went completely cold turkey on fapping and porn.