pleasevanity
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i hate the people who reduce everything in life to "oh it's just a bunch of chemicals in your body" it's degrading and is a dissociative perspective, only saying that because they forget what life actually is, we're not video game characters. but regardless, i have to take a page from their book here to strengthen my point simply because i believe that in certain scenarios it can be true. love kind of is just a bunch of chemicals.
people overrate love because they’re seeking a comfort that wasn’t there when they were a child. maybe one is untraditionally submissive due to an absent father figure or maybe one is overly dominant due to a domineering father figure. your nurturing is responsible for a lot of your desires and cravings.
those cravings are natural, it’s normal for someone to want to be held and want to hold someone. it only becomes a problem when that’s all you want in life, as a means to deal with the turbulence or stillness of your life. love encapsulates both feelings and turns them around into something calm or fun but not a lot of us will have the luxury of a healthy relationship where boundaries and expectations are clearly established but the illusion of it keeps you going and chasing after it. it’s a harmful addiction, almost like a drug. once you notice that you’re in the jaws of false promise it becomes easier to slip free.
most of us aren’t finding the “love our lives” because she either doesn’t exist, or you don’t meet the sexual selective standards of today’s women. however turning around and viewing love as simply just chemicals to cope is somewhat disingenuous and definitely can be an unhealthy perspective on love. despite that, your incentive to even want to find love is linked to your biological desire to reproduce so how unhealthy could that really be? how you were nurtured contributes to what you crave out of said desire. … stop using your biological craving to cope with life. this is a way to say that you should start to find cravings outside of your biological desires as a replacement for that urge for love, it’s more productive (homosexuality isn’t what i’m referring to). it’s way more inspiring and courageous to dedicate your life to a purpose or craft and build yourself into the best man you could possibly be, creating a legacy.
trying to be volcel is law.
if you’re already ahead in life and still struggle i don’t really know what to say, this is honestly more about me. sorry.
people overrate love because they’re seeking a comfort that wasn’t there when they were a child. maybe one is untraditionally submissive due to an absent father figure or maybe one is overly dominant due to a domineering father figure. your nurturing is responsible for a lot of your desires and cravings.
those cravings are natural, it’s normal for someone to want to be held and want to hold someone. it only becomes a problem when that’s all you want in life, as a means to deal with the turbulence or stillness of your life. love encapsulates both feelings and turns them around into something calm or fun but not a lot of us will have the luxury of a healthy relationship where boundaries and expectations are clearly established but the illusion of it keeps you going and chasing after it. it’s a harmful addiction, almost like a drug. once you notice that you’re in the jaws of false promise it becomes easier to slip free.
most of us aren’t finding the “love our lives” because she either doesn’t exist, or you don’t meet the sexual selective standards of today’s women. however turning around and viewing love as simply just chemicals to cope is somewhat disingenuous and definitely can be an unhealthy perspective on love. despite that, your incentive to even want to find love is linked to your biological desire to reproduce so how unhealthy could that really be? how you were nurtured contributes to what you crave out of said desire. … stop using your biological craving to cope with life. this is a way to say that you should start to find cravings outside of your biological desires as a replacement for that urge for love, it’s more productive (homosexuality isn’t what i’m referring to). it’s way more inspiring and courageous to dedicate your life to a purpose or craft and build yourself into the best man you could possibly be, creating a legacy.
trying to be volcel is law.
if you’re already ahead in life and still struggle i don’t really know what to say, this is honestly more about me. sorry.
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