Madly fallen in love with a girl, but she lives two hours away from me. Should I give her a chance?

[emeraldglass]

I've been video chatting with this girl my friend introduced me to, and I think I've fallen in love (and she seems to really like me too).
I want to have a chat with her father and maybe go to see her in person very soon.
She is originally from my father's country but the family lives in the UK in a major city where she is working. She has completed university.
She is 25 years old (a few months older than me), HQNP and HTB, neither skinny nor overweight, so far so good she ticks off the majority of my boxes and we vibe so well.
Curly 3B brown hair, light brown skin, brown eyes (she can pass as lightskin) but really cute soft features. She is very healthy-looking.

If you're sure it clicks, and you've asked everything you wanted to know and you're reassured. Then the only step left is just to go talk to her parents. I hate to say it but usually you won't be able to find out everything about a person beforehand, it's almost impossible. All you can do is ask the most important questions and observe, based on her answers you will make a choice. Sometimes you only find out what someone is like when living together under 1 roof, when you are already married. Then if you don't like her and it doesn't work out, you can still divorce her best before you have children together, it's not optimal but it's completely normal.

 

[john2]

Thank you so much. I think she's also got feelings for me.
I'm thinking about asking to contact her father and afterwards, I'll go and meet her physically.
What matters is how she feels about me beyond looks.

She'll feel good about you even if you beat her to a pulp, don't' stress over this part too much. Your looks will be to your advantage when you meet her father as well as he should be impressed, assuming he isn't blackpilled and jealous of your looks.

 

[Deleted member 7580]

Inb4 she has cancer

 

[Xangsane]

She'll feel good about you even if you beat her to a pulp, don't' stress over this part too much. Your looks will be to your advantage when you meet her father as well as he should be impressed, assuming he isn't blackpilled and jealous of your looks.

Thank you so much, I'd never beat her (or any girl for that matter) to a pulp.

 

[Xangsane]

If you're sure it clicks, and you've asked everything you wanted to know and you're reassured. Then the only step left is just to go talk to her parents. I hate to say it but usually you won't be able to find out everything about a person beforehand, it's almost impossible. All you can do is ask the most important questions and observe, based on her answers you will make a choice.

I'm gonna ask Mum to come along with me when I go to visit her and her father.

Sometimes you only find out what someone is like when living together under 1 roof, when you are already married. Then if you don't like her and it doesn't work out, you can still divorce her best before you have children together, it's not optimal but it's completely normal.

I hope this wouldn't be the case.

 

[john2]

Thank you so much, I'd never beat her (or any girl for that matter) to a pulp.

Indeed. We won't beat women to a pulp.

We are men after all, we are not the cruel gender.

 

[Xangsane]

Indeed. We won't beat women to a pulp.

We are men after all, we are not the cruel gender.

What I hope is that she hasn't had other men before me, or she'll have an affair with someone else after marriage.

 

[emeraldglass]

I'm gonna ask Mum to come along with me when I go to visit her and her father.

Good, dress nicely and speak confidently to them, especially her father. Show them that their daughter is safe with you and that you can maintain her and take care of her, that way they will be reassured.

I hope this wouldn't be the case.

I hope not, but this is the worst case scenario. Chances are it won't come to that.

 

[john2]

What I hope is that she hasn't had other men before me, or she'll have an affair with someone else after marriage.

Let's hope so. She will only have an affair with someone who mogs you if she ever will have an affair. But this is unlikely at your looks level.

 

[Xangsane]

Let's hope so. She will only have an affair with someone who mogs you if she ever will have an affair. But this is unlikely at your looks level.

What about when I get old and wrinkly?

 

[Xangsane]

Good, dress nicely and speak confidently to them, especially her father.

I think we could have a meet up in public; me, mum, her dad, her.

Show them that their daughter is safe with you and that you can maintain her and take care of her, that way they will be reassured.

Should I dress very smartly?

I hope not, but this is the worst case scenario. Chances are it won't come to that.

I hope she won't ever break my heart.

 

[emeraldglass]

I think we could have a meet up in public; me, mum, her dad, her.

It is certainly possible, it depends on their culture most often it happens in the house of the father of the bride.

Should I dress very smartly?

You can dress smartly or smart casual, but dress not to formal. Just dress neat and nothing too provocative.

I hope she won't ever break my heart.

Chances are slim that that will happen, don't worry too much about such thoughts otherwise it may sabotage your marriage. Just be confident in the marriage and be there when needed, be it to lead, assist or correct her.

 

[Xangsane]

It is certainly possible, it depends on their culture most often it happens in the house of the father of the bride.

I think we're gonna meet in public first as it's just a meeting, nothing too serious right now since we're just in the getting to know stage. She isn't my girlfriend yet.

You can dress smartly or smart casual, but dress not to formal. Just dress neat and nothing too provocative.

Thanks. I think I'll go with smart casual.
I hope I don't come off as a big nerd/non NT if I choose to dress smart casual for a families outing.

Chances are slim that that will happen, don't worry too much about such thoughts otherwise it may sabotage your marriage. Just be confident in the marriage and be there when needed, be it to lead, assist or correct her.

Thank you so much.

 

[emeraldglass]

I think we're gonna meet in public first as it's just a meeting, nothing too serious right now since we're just in the getting to know stage. She isn't my girlfriend yet.

perfectly fine

Thanks. I think I'll go with smart casual.
I hope I don't come off as a big nerd/non NT if I choose to dress smart casual for a families outing.

nahh you will come across as a respected person, someone who knows what he wants. Especially older people like more neat attire.

Thank you so much.

You got this champ.

 

[Xangsane]

perfectly fine

nahh you will come across as a respected person, someone who knows what he wants. Especially older people like more neat attire.

You got this champ.

Thank you so much.
Also, what do you think are clues that she might have been with other men?

 

[emeraldglass]

Thank you so much.
Also, what do you think are clues that she might have been with other men?

It's hard to tell. I would just ask about it and see how she answers it.
For example: does her text sound rehearsed, are there inconsistencies in her story, did she panic when you asked her,
did she get angry when you asked, are there too many or too few details.

This can usually indicate that she is lying or has something to hide, but finding out 100 percent is difficult.

 

[Gengar’s Ghost]

Haven't asked her yet.

Did you ask already? Phrase it like “have you had experiences with men before me?” Rather than asking “did you have sex already?” Or something since she may lie about it when you phrase it so directly.

 

[Xangsane]

Did you ask already? Phrase it like “have you had experiences with men before me?” Rather than asking “did you have sex already?” Or something since she may lie about it when you phrase it so directly.

I haven't, but I'll ask her sometime in the week.

 

[Deleted member 21661]

I haven't, but I'll ask her sometime in the week.

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