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Any copers, coming with examples/exception cases of mismatches.
They should read this.
Matching hypothesis and Mis-Matching. Is well researched documented!
The matching hypothesis (also known as the matching phenomenon) argues that people are more likely to form and succeed in a committed relationship with someone who is equally socially desirable, typically in the form of physical attraction.
Successful couples of differing physical attractiveness may be together due to other matching variables that compensate for the difference in attractiveness. For instance, some men with wealth and status desire younger, more attractive women. Some women are more likely to overlook physical attractiveness for men who possess wealth and status.
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Using data collected in the laboratory and from users of a popular online dating site, the authors found evidence for matching based on:
* self-worth,
* physical attractiveness, and
* popularity,
but to different degrees and not always at the same stage of the dating process.
"These findings should give proponents of the matching hypothesis something to cheer. Nevertheless, the current research also shows that the degree to which matching is apparently an important factor in dating behavior depends very much on (a) the way social desirability is measured and (b) the stage at which it is measured (abstract preferences vs. selecting among viable options vs. reciprocating another’s overture). For example, although we found no notable gender differences when examining matching based on physical attractiveness (Study 2) or popularity (Study 4), the findings from Study 3 suggest that self-worth might differently affect men’s and women’s dating behavior. Also, the findings of Study 2, along with a sizable extant literature, lead to the conclusion that matching based on physical attractiveness is not related to partner selection. Were researchers to focus on only physical attractiveness (as they largely have done, in fact), it would be reasonable to conclude that matching does not occur, but our studies using different assessments of social value suggest the opposite. Moreover, our data provide evidence that matching based on physical attractiveness becomes increasingly important at successive steps of dating initiation. This literature could benefit greatly from longitudinal studies in which couples are followed from the initial contact through later stages of their relationship to see whether individuals who are matched (or mismatched) on different dimensions tend to succeed and for how long"
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As far as MIS-Matching goes (in physical attractiveness). AKA, ugly dude with much hotter woman. Aka, she moggs dude in Looks.
That happens. Sometimes not explainebale. BUT, Often actually well explaineable (especially if you knw depper facts/info of the situation)
Firstly. Matching happens, largely based on a person self-assement off overall desireablity (people can miss-asses themselfes as lower than they are).
A particular attractive looking woman, dating down in looks may have commonly:
en.wikipedia.org
They should read this.
Matching hypothesis and Mis-Matching. Is well researched documented!
The matching hypothesis (also known as the matching phenomenon) argues that people are more likely to form and succeed in a committed relationship with someone who is equally socially desirable, typically in the form of physical attraction.
Successful couples of differing physical attractiveness may be together due to other matching variables that compensate for the difference in attractiveness. For instance, some men with wealth and status desire younger, more attractive women. Some women are more likely to overlook physical attractiveness for men who possess wealth and status.
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Using data collected in the laboratory and from users of a popular online dating site, the authors found evidence for matching based on:
* self-worth,
* physical attractiveness, and
* popularity,
but to different degrees and not always at the same stage of the dating process.
"These findings should give proponents of the matching hypothesis something to cheer. Nevertheless, the current research also shows that the degree to which matching is apparently an important factor in dating behavior depends very much on (a) the way social desirability is measured and (b) the stage at which it is measured (abstract preferences vs. selecting among viable options vs. reciprocating another’s overture). For example, although we found no notable gender differences when examining matching based on physical attractiveness (Study 2) or popularity (Study 4), the findings from Study 3 suggest that self-worth might differently affect men’s and women’s dating behavior. Also, the findings of Study 2, along with a sizable extant literature, lead to the conclusion that matching based on physical attractiveness is not related to partner selection. Were researchers to focus on only physical attractiveness (as they largely have done, in fact), it would be reasonable to conclude that matching does not occur, but our studies using different assessments of social value suggest the opposite. Moreover, our data provide evidence that matching based on physical attractiveness becomes increasingly important at successive steps of dating initiation. This literature could benefit greatly from longitudinal studies in which couples are followed from the initial contact through later stages of their relationship to see whether individuals who are matched (or mismatched) on different dimensions tend to succeed and for how long"
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As far as MIS-Matching goes (in physical attractiveness). AKA, ugly dude with much hotter woman. Aka, she moggs dude in Looks.
That happens. Sometimes not explainebale. BUT, Often actually well explaineable (especially if you knw depper facts/info of the situation)
Firstly. Matching happens, largely based on a person self-assement off overall desireablity (people can miss-asses themselfes as lower than they are).
A particular attractive looking woman, dating down in looks may have commonly:
- low self rating of herself. Either legit, because she has mental issues and is lower in overall LTR attractiveness due to that. OR she has mis-rating of herself due, being put down since child by parents for example.
AND/OR
- she is a loser in money, wealth, status, socially speaking. So she might be higher value in looks, but seen as low er in other ways. (For example I visted an older dude, very rich, last month. He was with a much younger and better looking woman. At fiorst sight looks at mis-match. Turns out she is from a trailerpark family whom is criminal and she was ashamed when it was brought up by him (aka, she sees herself (and is also true seen like that in society) as socially low class, because criminal trailer park trash backround. Combine that with that older dude, having wealth/money on top (which she likely can't make well legally, with her bad soico background. AND OVERALL, they are actually not mis-matched. She moggs him alot in looks, BUT he moggs her alot in social status, money, and society reputation).
AND/OR
- she is the exception, who values other stuff more than Looks. Like money, wealth, status, power, etc...
Matching hypothesis - Wikipedia
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