Meeting a girl in real life

[iminawe]

Recently i had an experience that messed with my confidence.
I met a girl online. She was very energetic. Fast replies, compliments, flirting. She EVEN suggested meeting first. We talked about a month before meeting up.
When we met in person, her energy changed almost immediately. No eye contact, no flirting, no physical closeness. The date wasn’t bad but she was completely different from how she was online. After that, her replies got colder and eventually disappeared.
I didn’t catfish or use crazy different angles.
im starting to wonder is this an attraction drop due to looks not matching expectations? Just trying to figure out if this is fixeable or if i need to manage expectations better.

 

[primal141]

Recently i had an experience that messed with my confidence.
I met a girl online. She was very energetic. Fast replies, compliments, flirting. She EVEN suggested meeting first. We talked about a month before meeting up.
When we met in person, her energy changed almost immediately. No eye contact, no flirting, no physical closeness. The date wasn’t bad but she was completely different from how she was online. After that, her replies got colder and eventually disappeared.
I didn’t catfish or use crazy different angles.
im starting to wonder is this an attraction drop due to looks not matching expectations? Just trying to figure out if this is fixeable or if i need to manage expectations better.

how tall are you?

 

[iminawe]

how tall are you?

5’10

 

[primal141]

5’10

did you tell her that before you guys met?

 

[iminawe]

did you tell her that before you guys met?

Yes, she knew all along. Im not extremely tall but definitely not short either

 

[momoil]

She didn’t find you attractive enough

 

[primal141]

Yes, she knew all along. Im not extremely tall but definitely not short either

i guess she just had too high expectations

 

[Neph]

Recently i had an experience that messed with my confidence.
I met a girl online. She was very energetic. Fast replies, compliments, flirting. She EVEN suggested meeting first. We talked about a month before meeting up.
When we met in person, her energy changed almost immediately. No eye contact, no flirting, no physical closeness. The date wasn’t bad but she was completely different from how she was online. After that, her replies got colder and eventually disappeared.
I didn’t catfish or use crazy different angles.
im starting to wonder is this an attraction drop due to looks not matching expectations? Just trying to figure out if this is fixeable or if i need to manage expectations better.

Brutal reality pill. In just 13 MILLISECONDS she saw you and decided your face was not enough. She was probably dying to look for an excuse to leave any way possible.

 

[White_Bwoi]

Brutal reality pill. In just 13 MILLISECONDS she saw you and decided your face was not enough.

I had exact the same experience (most of us I guess), great talk, flirting, giga-responsiveness after 3 days we've met, and like OP said:
sudden change in energy at my sight, no broad smile, no nothing. Talk was great tho, but I knew it was over, day later I asked her and she told me ofcourse "she didn't felt the SPARK" JFL

She was super NT with piercings/tatoos/crazy/rich bitch, I was kinda depressed and dint have 'good energy' either, so maybe 13miliseconds or ASPIEness

 

[White_Bwoi]

Biggest mistake was talking to her that long, never go longer than few days / a week maybe TOPS (of sparse texting), if she don't wanna meet she's just playing with the food, want's attention & waste your god damn time

 

[Neph]

I had exact the same experience (most of us I guess), great talk, flirting, giga-responsiveness after 3 days we've met, and like OP said:
sudden change in energy at my sight, no broad smile, no nothing. Talk was great tho, but I knew it was over, day later I asked her and she told me ofcourse "she didn't felt the SPARK" JFL

She was super NT with piercings/tatoos/crazy/rich bitch, I was kinda depressed and dint have 'good energy' either, so maybe 13miliseconds or ASPIEness

I agree when they show this kind of “chad treatment” you need to go aggressive. No dates or anything cute, just get her to come over and fuck. Once you have fucked the power is in your hands anyways and you can just ghost her from there if you so please.

 

[derek928]

Did you smell like shit? Or not have any swag?

 

[White_Bwoi]

Im sorry tho, it always stings for a few days...
But It works both ways, I had the same feeling about girls (like 'not that interested) & they were clearly wanting to meet again -
like kiss you at a goodbye out of the blue & shiet

 

[Firstname.Lastname]

So sayth the manlet

 

[Raphael777]

From what you've said, you say you didn't catfish or use crazy angles, meaning it was only short videos or pictures. You probably should've FaceTimed so she could see you in a normal environment, and you could see what she looks like, as if you guys were to actually meet up. This is obviously not foolproof, but it probably would've helped.

 

[Frizbreeze]

did u pay for the date?

 

[derek928]

From what you've said, you say you didn't catfish or use crazy angles, meaning it was only short videos or pictures. You probably should've FaceTimed so she could see you in a normal environment, and you could see what she looks like, as if you guys were to actually meet up. This is obviously not foolproof, but it probably would've helped.

I agree with this smart nigga here always a FaceTime the bitch bro you’ll know if you got that chemistry you feel me?

 

[iminawe]

Biggest mistake was talking to her that long, never go longer than few days / a week maybe TOPS (of sparse texting), if she don't wanna meet she's just playing with the food, want's attention & waste your god damn time right

Did you smell like shit? Or not have any swag?

I think I smelled pretty amazing and looked decent too, I guess she didn’t like it

 

[iminawe]

did u pay for the date?

Ofc

 

[iminawe]

I agree with this smart nigga here always a FaceTime the bitch bro you’ll know if you got that chemistry you feel me?

True, would have saved my time

 

[Frizbreeze]

Ofc

she used u for a date

 

[unfortunatehobbies]

We talked about a month before meeting up.

too long, her attention was probably already waning. ideally you meet earlier on, otherwise you get reshuffled out of her attention deck.

 

[derek928]

she used u for a date

This happens