meeting women irl is cope and overrated

[Deleted member 303625]

i was talking with my friens the other day, they meet like 1 woman every 6 months, they jester for weeks and nothing happens in the end.

OLD and instagram are the norm in my country. think about t, the cute girl you meet irl has like 100 better loooking niggas on instagram why do you think you have a chance? you dont, you just waste your time.

but if she likes you first on tinder it means you have some level of priority. at least i can go out with girls, have a drink and maybe get a hug in the end meanwhile these guys got nothing and had to put 10x more effort.

noone meets women irl. even my old itis' sister sai she explicitly uses instagram to pick guys up, what else do you want???

 

[Deleted member 345435]

Bump

 

[Whatever]

No, meeting them in real life is better, and I don't think someone who calls themself virgin/incel/etc. 24/7 can speak from experience on this. But for best results you need a good setup in life for meeting them, like a college social circle or killing it with your hobbies in scenes that attract women. Dating apps are better than meeting "1 woman every 6 months" but both are unacceptable, there used to be stigma around the apps before everyone became lazy and brainrotted.

One thing I will say though is the girls you pull on the apps are the same girls as you would pull in real life, I used to think otherwise but I just wasn't presenting myself on the apps correctly. People are coping when they say they can't get their looksmatch on the apps. But girls tend to use the apps when they're in ratchet phases. Versus meeting them through a social circle when you're seeing them on a regular basis, you know a lot of the same people, that's so much more natural and healthy.

 

[Deleted member 303625]

, like a college social circle or killing it with your hobbies in scenes that attract women

redditor tier deulsions

One thing I will say though is the girls you pull on the apps are the same girls as you would pull in real life

yep. in fact, a lot of girls i matched with on dating apps are girls that used to follow me on instagram lol

People are coping when they say they can't get their looksmatch on the apps

i usually meet above my looksmatch

 

[Deleted member 380382]

I don’t jester and I don’t seek. I have women approach me seeking relations and if they meet my standards so much that doing anything with them won’t lower my value, I accept them. If you do not have women seeking you, you most likely have work to do and do not deserve pussy.

 

[Deleted member 303625]

I have women approach me seeking relations and if they meet my standards so much that doing anything with them won’t lower my value, I accept them. I

i never had women approach me, i always have to put all the work and nothing happens in the end

If you do not have women seeking you, you most likely have work to do and do not deserve pussy.

im a worthless loser

 

[Deleted member 301467]

i was talking with my friens the other day, they meet like 1 woman every 6 months, they jester for weeks and nothing happens in the end.

OLD and instagram are the norm in my country. think about t, the cute girl you meet irl has like 100 better loooking niggas on instagram why do you think you have a chance? you dont, you just waste your time.

but if she likes you first on tinder it means you have some level of priority. at least i can go out with girls, have a drink and maybe get a hug in the end meanwhile these guys got nothing and had to put 10x more effort.

noone meets women irl. even my old itis' sister sai she explicitly uses instagram to pick guys up, what else do you want???

Oooouuu shiii based W take

 

[2s2f]

Bump

lol why did you bump this

 

[Whatever]

redditor tier deulsions


yep. in fact, a lot of girls i matched with on dating apps are girls that used to follow me on instagram lol


i usually meet above my looksmatch

I don't mean the way Redditors say that, I mean something like being a relatively high status singer or rapper, photographer or other artist, semi pro athlete. That beats dating apps by a mile. Also some of the most attractive girls I've known actually aren't that big on social media, and not having it as a guy is now becoming a halo if you can pull it off. You have to be pretty brainrotted not to be sick of the apps and Insta.

 

[Chadeep]

I don't mean the way Redditors say that, I mean something like being a relatively high status singer or rapper, photographer or other artist, semi pro athlete. That beats dating apps by a mile. Also some of the most attractive girls I've known actually aren't that big on social media, and not having it as a guy is now becoming a halo if you can pull it off. You have to be pretty brainrotted not to be sick of the apps and Insta.

No, meeting them in real life is better, and I don't think someone who calls themself virgin/incel/etc. 24/7 can speak from experience on this. But for best results you need a good setup in life for meeting them, like a college social circle or killing it with your hobbies in scenes that attract women. Dating apps are better than meeting "1 woman every 6 months" but both are unacceptable, there used to be stigma around the apps before everyone became lazy and brainrotted.

One thing I will say though is the girls you pull on the apps are the same girls as you would pull in real life, I used to think otherwise but I just wasn't presenting myself on the apps correctly. People are coping when they say they can't get their looksmatch on the apps. But girls tend to use the apps when they're in ratchet phases. Versus meeting them through a social circle when you're seeing them on a regular basis, you know a lot of the same people, that's so much more natural and healthy.

How did you meet them if they aren't in social media. Cold approach?

 

[filthycurrycel]

cause cold approaching is BANNED

 

[filthycurrycel]

How did you meet them if they aren't in social media. Cold approach?

nih ive literally cold approached 2 girs in my entire life, once in 6th and once in 12th

the first one idek what happened dont remember

second one her orbiter dmed my friend and asked me to back off

nigga was legit spastic

 

[Centurion Hunter]

i was talking with my friens the other day, they meet like 1 woman every 6 months, they jester for weeks and nothing happens in the end.

OLD and instagram are the norm in my country. think about t, the cute girl you meet irl has like 100 better loooking niggas on instagram why do you think you have a chance? you dont, you just waste your time.

but if she likes you first on tinder it means you have some level of priority. at least i can go out with girls, have a drink and maybe get a hug in the end meanwhile these guys got nothing and had to put 10x more effort.

noone meets women irl. even my old itis' sister sai she explicitly uses instagram to pick guys up, what else do you want???

If they dont want to ONS they dont want you

 

[Deleted member 303625]

mean something like being a relatively high status singer or rapper, photographer or other artist, semi pro athlete.

most people arent like that and have no troubles pulling

Also some of the most attractive girls I've known actually aren't that big on social media

most attractive girl i know posts like once a year or so

 

[The Grinch]

i was talking with my friens the other day

You mean your discord friends?

 

[Deleted member 303625]

If they dont want to ONS they dont want you

all they do is go for cofee with me

 

[Deleted member 303625]

You mean your discord friends?

you are back....

 

[Centurion Hunter]

all they do is go for cofee with me

They go with you?

 

[Deleted member 303625]

They go with you?

who else will they go with?

 

[Centurion Hunter]

who else will they go with?

Taller men I guess?

 

[Deleted member 303625]

Taller men I guess?

they dont go out with them. they go in

 

[Whatever]

How did you meet them if they aren't in social media. Cold approach?

Girls I went to high school and college with, knew in social circles from college and work and houseshares, also some that I matched with on the apps. I can think of probably 10-15+ HTB+ who don’t have Insta or don’t use it much and pick guys who don’t either.

And this is just their looks, the girls with the best personalities definitely avoid social media. So meeting them in person becomes the only way.

 

[Deleted member 345435]

Girls I went to high school and college with, knew in social circles from college and work and houseshares, also some that I matched with on the apps. I can think of probably 10-15+ HTB+ who don’t have Insta or don’t use it much and pick guys who don’t either.

And this is just their looks, the girls with the best personalities definitely avoid social media. So meeting them in person becomes the only way.

So friends groups? Is approaching cope?

 

[Peco]

Girls I went to high school and college with, knew in social circles from college and work and houseshares, also some that I matched with on the apps. I can think of probably 10-15+ HTB+ who don’t have Insta or don’t use it much and pick guys who don’t either.

And this is just their looks, the girls with the best personalities definitely avoid social media. So meeting them in person becomes the only way.

Well said

 

[Whatever]

So friends groups? Is approaching cope?

Yes. When she's in your friend groups you know a lot of the same people, you go to the same parties, she knows and trusts you and this is not jestering because girls prioritize and initiate with guys in their friend groups long before they'll bother with all the NPCs on the apps. Things happen in friend groups that can't really play out any other way. So honestly, almost anything other than social circle is dumpster diving.

Cold approach isn't impossible, I've fucked a girl who cold approached me. But it seems like it has very low odds, I just don't see most girls following through with one except for under certain narrow circumstances in her life.

 

[Deleted member 303625]

s, she knows and trusts you and this is not jestering because girls prioritize and initiate with guys in their friend groups long before they'll bother with all the NPCs on the app

yes but you still have to pass a certain looks threshold. no friend group will save a subhuman

 

[shandingo]

Yes. When she's in your friend groups you know a lot of the same people, you go to the same parties, she knows and trusts you and this is not jestering because girls prioritize and initiate with guys in their friend groups long before they'll bother with all the NPCs on the apps. Things happen in friend groups that can't really play out any other way. So honestly, almost anything other than social circle is dumpster diving.

Cold approach isn't impossible, I've fucked a girl who cold approached me. But it seems like it has very low odds, I just don't see most girls following through with one except for under certain narrow circumstances in her life.

Yes but practically how do you get foids in your social circle , after university it’s impossible ?

Hence why most couples meet through apps (70%) , and that’s why the whole dating market is fucked.

 

[Whatever]

Yes but practically how do you get foids in your social circle , after university it’s impossible ?

Hence why most couples meet through apps (70%) , and that’s why the whole dating market is fucked.

Yes, it can be difficult after university. Which is why when you do have a social circle you need to hang onto it. But it's not impossible, I had something of a social circle with HTB-Stacies in it before covid through a shared house I lived in, also what I said earlier about high status hobbies and jobs where you're publicly known as athletic or musical/artistic talented, women orbit around that. Any goal for status or proximity maxxing can revolve around that.

And I don't think 70% of couples are meeting through apps. Maybe during the pandemic and the few years after but just about anyone who could get a relationship out of the apps already got one, in 2026 they're for hooking up only. You can look at Insta pages like Cruxcompatible where they go around cities asking couples how they met and especially with the better looking girls, it's usually through friends or some work function, not the apps.