Missing out on Social Milestones

[Bartarus]

I am a junior in high school and my time is coming to an end. I have had 0 partners, attended 0 parties, I can count the number of times I've been invited to something on one hand, I've never smoked or drank (not that that's something I really want to do but it's one of things that most people do), I have maybe 9 people I would consider my friends with only 2-3 of them even being close enough to hangout.

It's so over.​

 

[Minnie lacking]

Its alright bro

 

[brotato78]

I am a junior in high school and my time is coming to an end. I have had 0 partners, attended 0 parties, I can count the number of times I've been invited to something on one hand, I've never smoked or drank (not that that's something I really want to do but it's one of things that most people do), I have maybe 9 people I would consider my friends with only 2-3 of them even being close enough to hangout.

It's so over.​

i have 0 friends 0 girlfriend 0 parties and khhv and im also a junior u be aight

 

[brotato78]

i have 0 friends 0 girlfriend 0 parties and khhv and im also a junior u be aight

maybe like 1 friend but i dont talk to ppl much anymore

 

[Bartarus]

i have 0 friends 0 girlfriend 0 parties and khhv and im also a junior u be aight

That's rough bro

 

[Deleted member 32773]

Average in 2025

 

[Informationcapitali]

I didnt even go to prom jfl no worries bro

 

[Informationcapitali]

 

[Bartarus]

I didnt even go to prom jfl no worries bro

I only went to the first hoco because I bought the tickets before getting rejected

 

[brotato78]

That's rough bro

it was kind of self inflicted as i did have some friends before going into online school, but if they were actual friends they would have kept contact but i do enjoy being alone

 

[Bartarus]

it was kind of self inflicted as i did have some friends before going into online school, but if they were actual friends they would have kept contact but i do enjoy being alone

Online school really did fuck a lot of stuff up.

 

[brotato78]

Online school really did fuck a lot of stuff up.

i enjoy it, i sleep thru like half my classes and only focus on the ap ones and have A's stress free

 

[Bartarus]

i enjoy it, i sleep thru like half my classes and only focus on the ap ones and have A's stress free

Oh, you are currently attending an online school? I interpreted that as you referring to covid.

 

[brotato78]

Oh, you are currently attending an online school? I interpreted that as you referring to covid.

nah i switched just this year

 

[Saint Casanova]

If you missed it, you missed it. Focusing on your past, whether good or bad, will just make your future worse.

 

[Bartarus]

If you missed it, you missed it. Focusing on your past, whether good or bad, will just make your future worse.

Yea, I'm really trying my hardest to turn it around this year but damn it really hurts to be in a conversation where others are reminiscing and my mind is blank.

 

[Deleted member 168392]

I’m in the same situation. My only friends are the ones that I made in early high school before acne ravaged my face. I’m in my first year of uni now and I just go to class and then self isolate, eat, do HW the rest of the time. KHHV but I’m HLTN frauded w/ long hair to cover my acne scars. My forehead and temples look like they had multiple botched surgeries performed on em lmao.

 

[Outlander]

Brutal. Seems like you’re on the pipeline to ending up like I did as an adult multiple years after graduating high school with no gf, no social circle, and basically just my hobbies to entertain myself. Lots of people love to deny how important social milestones are when young. If you didn’t get these things back then when you were surrounded by peers your age and also when people where generally more open to forming new relationships, you are even less likely to as an adult.

Also as you get older and lack these things, the gap between your actual age and what social experiences the average person your age is supposed to have grows. At 16-17 (I assume that’s what you are if you’re a junior in high school), you already are late to the party so to speak compared to what social experiences most your age have, but get to my age of early 20s, and it’s so much worse. At this age even if I did somehow get a gf and friend group, it will never undo the lost social development in my formative years and I’ll always have more of that jaded side of me. People love to say you can live just as happy of a life with no friends or gf, but that is just not true and is basically them telling you to pound sand

 

[Bartarus]

It will never undo the lost social development in my formative years and I’ll always have more of that jaded side of me.

You are completely right man, I feel socially behind my peers, unable to relate to their lived experiences and struggle to communicate on the same level as them. I always assume the worst in others as well, I'm just a complete mess due to my lack of life experience.

Get to my age of early 20s, and it’s so much worse. At this age even if I did somehow get a gf and friend group

Your developmental years really determine who you are/become for the rest of your life. But, it can be overcome. My brother was cel and missed out on many of the same things I did because of covid-19 and ended up losing most of his friends after, but he managed to find friends and a gf during college. There's still a chance for you bro I wish the best for you.

Thank you opening up and preparing me for what might be to come in my own life.