My dad is giving me hope in finding a nice girl!

[ItsOVERBuddyBoyos]

@ItsOVERBuddyBoyos how is this a bad idea?

The only girls willing to meet a guy through their method are looking for betabuxx
The very fact you use this method will make you look low value in her eyes

If you go this route you need to have a elongated getting to know each other phase where you can build the natural attraction as is done usually through dating.

 

[Xangsane]

I mean its basically an arranged marriage. Nobody has proof that the girl is going to have a low count. And how will they test virginity? I personally do not like arranged marriages since they seem like a business to me. It is the antithesis of whatever this site is about.

Any guy can marry via an arranged marriage. Lots of curries do. I wrote a post about my manager few days ago. I personally won't get any validation from an arranged marriage. You never know if the girl is actually into you. Girls marry anyone in an arranged marriage setup.

But that is my take. It maybe the ideal arrangement for you based on what your preferences are.

I just feel that many girls who are single here in the uk don't really fit the criteria in what I'm looking for in a long term partner values and personality wise. I get plenty of matches on these apps but I nuked them because I know they aren't a good fit, and I do not do casual dating or hookups.

I'm not hugely picky with looks levels but traits and values I definitely am.

 

[Xangsane]

The only girls willing to meet a guy through their method are looking for betabuxx
The very fact you use this method will make you look low value in her eyes

Would anything I have redeem me?

 

[Xangsane]

From what I understand he will just make them meet up and then Xangsane(and the girl) will decide if they want to continue together. He can tell if the girl is actually into him or if she is promiscuous by simply getting to know her. Vetting basically

It’s honestly no different than if his dad was Tinder/Hinge/whatever and Xangsane was swiping on girls. The difference is that on those dating apps Xangsane might never find the kind of woman he wants. He could swipe until his thumb hurt in England and never come across the kind of woman he wants. While the women his father will introduce him to are more likely to actually be the HQNP kind he wants. To make sure of that he just has to vet

That's how it will be like. Based on what I have to offer plus my looks level how successful do you think this would be? I'm looking to be married by 27 or so, and hopefully by 25 I should be meeting this new girl and getting to know her. I'm 24 now.

Oh, my dad actually told me that his methods isn't any different from apps. He said meet ups from modern dating apps are technically arranged but just aren't seen that way because they're not exclusively associated with brown people.

 

[Xangsane]

You deny your British heritage despite being as much British as you are Lebanese

I feel closer to my dad if I'm gonna be honest.

 

[Xangsane]

it's gonna be real though for you tbh, I'm the same though like every other man too.

but to find a girl with low body count and good personality in 2022 is pretty much impossible imo

Even with the method my dad is proposing?

 

[Xangsane]

chadlite my ass

I was rated so...

 

[Xangsane]

@Br0sk1 in what way is this a good idea?

 

[bogii]

Even with the method my dad is proposing?

that is basically arranged marriage? wouldn't it be weird for you?

 

[StrangerDanger]

I feel closer to my dad if I'm gonna be honest.

Why

 

[ItsOVERBuddyBoyos]

Would anything I have redeem me?

You have good looks + doctor=money/status.
So you fit the checkboxes and will have offers.

But you are more than your checkbox criteria.

You want to find a girl who appreciates the things that actually make you, you.
One that appreciates your softer personality and respects the fact you live your life with an honour code.

Dating is the stage where you normally vet the girl and figure this stuff out. So if you go this route you need to long out the talking stage as much asp possible and try to spend as much time facetoface with her as possible.

You don't want a girl who just likes you as a trophy/betabuxx
You want one who will actually admire you.

 

[Xangsane]

that is basically arranged marriage? wouldn't it be weird for you?

How does this seem to be an arranged marriage?

 

[Xangsane]

Why

Long story, but he made me the person I am today much more than my mum.

 

[Manu le coq]

The only girls willing to meet a guy through their method are looking for betabuxx
The very fact you use this method will make you look low value in her eyes

Cope

Seem good slay untill your early thirties depraved western girls, then marry a good one when you’re ready to start a family. This way you get the best of both world.

Unnironically my father told the same thing like a week ago aha

why did you hmmed my post @Xangsane
You wanna fight?
We’ll settle this like men give me your adress

 

[bogii]

How does this seem to be an arranged marriage?

because if you're getting a girl outside of UK she'll probably come not only for your personality but because you could be wealthy?

 

[Xangsane]

You have good looks + doctor=money/status.
So you fit the checkboxes and will have offers.

But you are more than your checkbox criteria.

You want to find a girl who appreciates the things that actually make you, you.
One that appreciates your softer personality and respects the fact you live your life with an honour code.

Dating is the stage where you normally vet the girl and figure this stuff out. So if you go this route you need to long out the talking stage as much asp possible and try to spend as much time facetoface with her as possible.

You don't want a girl who just likes you as a trophy/betabuxx
You want one who will actually admire you.

Oh, I think it would be fine. My dad told me that me and the girl can be given a while, let's say a year or two, to date before being engaged if we like each other then we get married. If I don't like her at the early stages I can tell my dad to move onto the next girl.

 

[Xangsane]

because if you're getting a girl outside of UK she'll probably come not only for your personality but because you could be wealthy?

He'll also send my pics to her too and all my other details

 

[bogii]

He'll also send my pics to her too and all my other details

if you're in for it why not, do what you feel like is right tbh

 

[Xangsane]

if you're in for it why not, do what you feel like is right tbh

I hope it'll work out.

 

[Anchor_Ship]

You are too light triad It's over.

 

[Xangsane]

You are too light triad It's over.

Why?

 

[Erik-Jón]

It's honestly exhausting swiping through dating apps finding women that I know I won't be compatible with. That's why despite getting plenty of matches and likes, I nuked all my accounts. It's frustrating

Ye you’ll never find the girl your looking for on tinder tbh most girls are on there to get piped but this could be a much better path

 

[Anchor_Ship]

Why?

Women won't respect you because you are a pushover, you have femboy personality like @8PSLcel

 

[ItsOVERBuddyBoyos]

Cope

I'm muslim.

If you want a HQNP muslim girl and are good looking the better route is to go through the apps/dating sites specifically catered to muslims.

I have more matches than i could possibly speak to and i'm sure @Xangsane would do even better than me with his prince charming pheno + blue eyes.

Getting introduced through family is for guys who can't handle the competition, the bottom 80%.
Not for a 5'10 Handsome Doctor like him.

 

[Xangsane]

Ye you’ll never find the girl your looking for on tinder tbh most girls are on there to get piped but this could be a much better path

Not even hinge or bumble and many girls linked to my social circle with good personalities are taken

 

[11gaijin]

From what I understand he will just make them meet up and then Xangsane(and the girl) will decide if they want to continue together.

I am actually from India so I know how arranged marriages work. In arranged marriages women do not care about attraction. If they did, a lot of Indians would be incel. Same applies to guys elsewhere.

He can tell if the girl is actually into him or if she is promiscuous by simply getting to know her. Vetting basically

Do you really think a girl will tell her about her past experiences in an arranged marriage setup? Arranged marriages involve families and parents so girls are never open about anything. She will try to hide as much as possible. Because if someone comes to know, she will get a good beating from her dad and the family name will go to shit. A girl you meet yourself has a higher chance of being honest with you since it doesn't involve any bs like family respect etc.

And women, from my experience, are very good at showing that they are interested. Just see posts on the internet about failed first date where guys say "We had great chemistry, she was interested etc" only to get no second dates. Guys can never tell if they are into you or not.

It’s honestly no different than if his dad was Tinder/Hinge/whatever and Xangsane was swiping on girls.

If it was no different then everybody would be getting laid on tinder just like everybody gets an arranged marriage.

The difference is that on those dating apps Xangsane might never find the kind of woman he wants. He could swipe until his thumb hurt in England and never come across the kind of woman he wants.

Fair point. That is upto the person to decide.

While the women his father will introduce him to are more likely to actually be the HQNP kind he wants. To make sure of that he just has to vet

HQNP is a meme. This is a hot take but I think women who are virgins especially in conservative cultures like India and middle east (Africa) etc would be pathetic in bed and just boring all around. And if she is not into you (which arranged marriages can never guarantee) , imagine how pathetic she would be. A girl who has never had sex, fucking a guy she is not into. If the soul aim is to pump a starfish and make her pop children then this virgin "HQNP" girl would be ideal.

But women who are actually fun to be around, good in bed do not fit this criteria. Girls in conservative cultures who fit this criteria are usually the ones who have been controlled all their life by their family and strict parents. These girls do not have any interesting life experiences because they have spent all their life at home. I cannot imagine spend my life with such a girl. I have gone on dates with such girls (at least one) and man it was boring as fuck. The reality is different than the kind of virgin hoor you would expect.

 

[bogii]

Ye you’ll never find the girl your looking for on tinder tbh most girls are on there to get piped but this could be a much better path

> coming from a 16 year old long time tinder slayer

 

[Xangsane]

I'm muslim.

If you want a HQNP muslim girl and are good looking the better route is to go through the apps/dating sites specifically catered to muslims.

I have more matches than i could possibly speak to and i'm sure @Xangsane would do even better than me with his prince charming pheno + blue eyes.

Getting introduced through family is for guys who can't handle the competition, the bottom 80%.
Not for a 5'10 Handsome Doctor like him.

I thought @FailedNormieManlet said that these apps will have mostly curries here in the uk. I am not into South Asian women, UNLESS she's pashtun

As a result my dad may be able to find a girl who is ethnic but not curry through this method who has the qualities I want

Would I be snapped up quickly if I went through the muslim app method?

 

[Erik-Jón]

> coming from a 16 year old long time tinder slayer

I actually use tinder a lot

 

[bogii]

I actually use tinder a lot

let me rate your tinder pics

 

[ItsOVERBuddyBoyos]

I thought @FailedNormieManlet said that these apps will have mostly curries here in the uk. I am not into South Asian women, UNLESS she's pashtun

As a result my dad may be able to find a girl who is ethnic but not curry through this method who has the qualities I want

Would I be snapped up quickly if I went through the muslim app method?

The main apps in west Muzmatch and Salams are mostly curry.

But you can find north africans / somalians.

There's a multitude of sites though so you can find ones that have arabs or w/e you want.

If you looking for a virgin hijabi there's lots of them you just need to be a believer, pray some namaz, eat halal etc, no drugs/smoking etc.

 

[11gaijin]

I just feel that many girls who are single here in the uk don't really fit the criteria in what I'm looking for in a long term partner values and personality wise. I get plenty of matches on these apps but I nuked them because I know they aren't a good fit, and I do not do casual dating or hookups.

I'm not hugely picky with looks levels but traits and values I definitely am.

If you think that you will find the woman you want via this approach then sure go for it. I just shared my opinions assuming I was in your place. But my preferences and needs are different. And my comments are based on that. If you think you'll find the right woman using this approach then you should go for it.

 

[CupOfCoffee]

You are self-hating. Stop it and accept the fact you're brown like me.

This is brown?

 

[Erik-Jón]

let me rate your tinder pics

started using mt2

 

[bogii]

View attachment 1699629started using mt2

I want to see Erik-Joncel not some garbage chadfish

 

[Erik-Jón]

I want to see Erik-Joncel not some garbage chadfish

*good chadfish

 

[johncruz12345]

From what I understand he will just make them meet up and then Xangsane(and the girl) will decide if they want to continue together. He can tell if the girl is actually into him or if she is promiscuous by simply getting to know her. Vetting basically

It’s honestly no different than if his dad was Tinder/Hinge/whatever and Xangsane was swiping on girls. The difference is that on those dating apps Xangsane might never find the kind of woman he wants. He could swipe until his thumb hurt in England and never come across the kind of woman he wants. While the women his father will introduce him to are more likely to actually be the HQNP kind he wants. To make sure of that he just has to vet

Let's be honest.

He's white looking chadlite. Many arab girls would be glad to have him as an arranged marriage husbando.

Mogs having some balding 30 year old arab manlet.

 

[Deleted member 17531]

yo bitch aint really bad she be catfishing

 

[Deleted member 18789]

He told me all I have to do

I would never let someone put standards on me for when I get i married, I remember being 13 thinking about marriage. And if i could marry back then I would have.

is to become more assertive

what? So if you're Non-NT You'll never get married?

get to junior doctor status

yes, wait for years upon years just to get married to someone you don't love

, grow up a bit (he thinks that I'm not quite ready for this yet)

Ah yes, because you're still a child who can't make decisions for himself.

then he'll send my photo and details over to his relatives and inlaws to help me find a pretty, well-educated and low body count/virgin girl.

That's the best you can do? Bro live your life and marry now. Tomorrow is never guaranteed.

 

[Xangsane]

I would never let someone put standards on me for when I get i married, I remember being 13 thinking about marriage. And if i could marry back then I would have.

what? So if you're Non-NT You'll never get married?

yes, wait for years upon years just to get married to someone you don't love

Ah yes, because you're still a child who can't make decisions for himself.

That's the best you can do? Bro live your life and marry now. Tomorrow is never guaranteed.

No no it is not that extreme. I will become a junior doctor at 25, and he already knows I have a shy disposition. He just wants me to wait a little because of that incident with that half indian girl then he'll find someone for me

I'm 24 at the moment. In fact he said it could even be a few months before I officially become a junior doctor

And don't worry, it's not arranged. He said if I don't like the girl I could tell him next

 

[Sigmamale]

No no it is not that extreme. I will become a junior doctor at 25, and he already knows I have a shy disposition. He just wants me to wait a little because of that incident with that half indian girl then he'll find someone for me

I'm 24 at the moment. In fact he said it could even be a few months before I officially become a junior doctor

And don't worry, it's not arranged. He said if I don't like the girl I could tell him next

Also you should finish looksmaxxing before you aim to marry to get the highest quality girl imo.

 

[Xangsane]

Also you should finish looksmaxxing before you aim to marry to get the highest quality girl imo.

How far off am I from being "very good looking"?

I could pass if I'm not into the girl dad said, and he'll find another

I also want to mog in my wedding pics

 

[Xangsane]

Let's be honest.

He's white looking chadlite. Many arab girls would be glad to have him as an arranged marriage husbando.

Mogs having some balding 30 year old arab manlet.

Thank you! I'll become a junior doctor at 25 and I'm 24, and I'm still at norwood 1. I'll be all good if I keep it up

 

[Xangsane]

This is brown?

View attachment 1699620

It's not just about skin colour, it's about background. Burning, peeling and having pale skin doesn't mean you're white. Many Pakistani and east Asian people can have your colour too. So stop trying to distance yourself from your ethnic side out of JBW desperation.

 

[Sigmamale]

How far off am I from being "very good looking"?

I could pass if I'm not into the girl dad said, and he'll find another

I also want to mog in my wedding pics

Idk you are already chadlite. You need to get down to 12-15 percent bodyfat, contacts, good fashion, and that is pretty much it for softmaxxing.

 

[Xangsane]

If you think that you will find the woman you want via this approach then sure go for it. I just shared my opinions assuming I was in your place. But my preferences and needs are different. And my comments are based on that. If you think you'll find the right woman using this approach then you should go for it.

I think it's gonna be okay, because I think if I go though the organic route here I may not get what I want, and many girls here may not be wanting to settle down until 30

 

[Xangsane]

The main apps in west Muzmatch and Salams are mostly curry.

But you can find north africans / somalians.

There's a multitude of sites though so you can find ones that have arabs or w/e you want.

If you looking for a virgin hijabi there's lots of them you just need to be a believer, pray some namaz, eat halal etc, no drugs/smoking etc.

I'll ask my dad for site recommendations.

It's all good. I do pray, always eat halal, and don't drink, do drugs or smoke at all. I believe in my religion a lot.

 

[Xangsane]

Idk you are already chadlite. You need to get down to 12-15 percent bodyfat, contacts, good fashion, and that is pretty much it for softmaxxing.

Thank you! I'm now starting to see the first signs of abs appearing, but they're very feint.

I've also booked an eye appointment with the opticians.

I'd love to mog in my wedding pictures

 

[Racky]

Based on what I have to offer plus my looks level how successful do you think this would be?

You should do well imo

 

[Chadethnic101]

I talked to him, and he's offered to help me out with finding a girl. My dad believes that I'm not very well suited to the modern Western dating market given my behaviour and beliefs.

He said that in addition to Lebanese people, Gulf Arabs, North Africans and to a lesser degree people of the Caribbean and even the far East have married into his family, many of whom live in Europe, North America, Australia and the Gulf States (many have moved out of Lebanon). He said a few are in the UK. He told me all I have to do is to become more assertive, get to junior doctor status, grow up a bit (he thinks that I'm not quite ready for this yet) then he'll send my photo and details over to his relatives and inlaws to help me find a pretty, well-educated and low body count/virgin girl. He told me she doesn't have to be from the UK.

What do you think guys? What are your thoughts?

EDIT: Wait, this would be an arranged marriage?

Yes this would be an arranged marriage

Probably the best for you as well bro

I could have this too but it would be a UK curry girl which I'm not keen on really