My dad is giving me hope in finding a nice girl!

[currylightskin]

Good idea

 

[currylightskin]

Imagine being told by your dad to grow a bit at age 24

 

[Xangsane]

You should do well imo

Thank you

 

[Xangsane]

Yes this would be an arranged marriage

Probably the best for you as well bro

I could have this too but it would be a UK curry girl which I'm not keen on really

Oh I see. How does this meet the criteria for an arranged marriage, even though my dad is allowing me to interact with and date the woman and if I don't like her, then pass?

I hope so. How does this seem good for me?

Who are you ideally looking for?

 

[Xangsane]

Good idea

Thank you!

Imagine being told by your dad to grow a bit at age 24

Yep, only a bit.

 

[Racky]

I am actually from India so I know how arranged marriages work. In arranged marriages women do not care about attraction. If they did, a lot of Indians would be incel. Same applies to guys elsewhere.

It's not really arranged marriage, it's matchmaking with his father as an intermediary. In arranged marriages they do not care about attraction because there is a pressure from the family to get married for practical reasons. But in this case it just seems like matchmaking by families without necessarily much pressure.
Also I'm African. Where I'm from in my culture we don't really have forced arranged marriage(we used to though, and it's still exists in some very remote areas). There is similar matchmaking with the parents as intermediaries but in the end the parties involved decide if that's what they want. I have seen and heard of men getting rejected in those instances. Not even a few weeks ago I heard about a girl who should have been married to the "prince" of her local town but she rejected him. In the past maybe she would have been forced or pressurized but the way "arranged marriages" are set in the modern day in my culture people don't care that much even if it involves traditional "royal" institutions. It's really just matchmaking with parents as intermediaries. So no different than dating apps unless there is serious pressure from the families, in which case you would be right.

Do you really think a girl will tell her about her past experiences in an arranged marriage setup? Arranged marriages involve families and parents so girls are never open about anything. She will try to hide as much as possible. Because if someone comes to know, she will get a good beating from her dad and the family name will go to shit. A girl you meet yourself has a higher chance of being honest with you since it doesn't involve any bs like family respect etc.

And women, from my experience, are very good at showing that they are interested. Just see posts on the internet about failed first date where guys say "We had great chemistry, she was interested etc" only to get no second dates. Guys can never tell if they are into you or not.

Fair point.

HQNP is a meme. This is a hot take but I think women who are virgins especially in conservative cultures like India and middle east (Africa) etc would be pathetic in bed and just boring all around

imo on the short term you are right, but on the long term it doesn't necessarily matter. Sex is something that can be learnt later on and a wife of good character who is into her husband will be willing to learn and experiment as long as it's vanilla and/or halal. On the other hand there are certain things that are 1) inherent to you 2) you are supposed to learn in early life from your parents, and later on in adult life it's impossible to change anything about it when it becomes ingrained in you. But yeah if he wants a girl similar to his ex that will give him batty wash and all kind of crazy things it would be a bad option and "boring" to him but I don't think that's what is prioritized here.

 

[Xangsane]

It's not really arranged marriage, it's matchmaking with his father as an intermediary. In arranged marriages they do not care about attraction because there is a pressure from the family to get married for practical reasons. But in this case it just seems like matchmaking by families without necessarily much pressure.
Also I'm African. Where I'm from in my culture we don't really have forced arranged marriage(we used to though, and it's still exists in some very remote areas). There is similar matchmaking with the parents as intermediaries but in the end the parties involved decide if that's what they want. I have seen and heard of men getting rejected in those instances. Not even a few weeks ago I heard about a girl who should have been married to the "prince" of her local town but she rejected him. In the past maybe she would have been forced or pressurized but the way "arranged marriages" are set in the modern day in my culture people don't care that much even if it involves traditional "royal" institutions. It's really just matchmaking with parents as intermediaries. So no different than dating apps unless there is serious pressure from the families, in which case you would be right.

Fair point.

imo on the short term you are right, but on the long term it doesn't necessarily matter. Sex is something that can be learnt later on and a wife of good character who is into her husband will be willing to learn and experiment as long as it's vanilla and/or halal. On the other hand there are certain things that are 1) inherent to you 2) you are supposed to learn in early life from your parents, and later on in adult life it's impossible to change anything about it when it becomes ingrained in you. But yeah if he wants a girl similar to his ex that will give him batty wash and all kind of crazy things it would be a bad option and "boring" to him but I don't think that's what is prioritized here.

I'll give a proper reply to this when I get home but I absolutely do not view the offer my dad as making as arranged marriage, and the way he would like to go about it is quite similar to what you wrote.

I'm absolutely willing to learn more about sex but I do not want my future wife to whip out BDSM or some weird kinky stuff in front of me which would put me off my dinner. Women like that are too degenerate for my tastes, they remind me too much of my crazy ex I'd rather forget about. I'm happy to learn and experiment with my future gf/wife as long as she isn't crazy and stays vanilla. The way I like to do sex is sensual, emotionally fulfilling and should feel like a union between two lovers who want to spend the rest of their time with them. Communication and pleasuring the girl physically and emotionally is absolutely vital for me because I'd never want to be labelled a selfish lover, and I see sex as an act of love.

I guess my sheltered upbringing and the fact I feel closer to my dad than my mum (even though we live in the same house) made me the guy I am today.

 

[11gaijin]

It's not really arranged marriage, it's matchmaking with his father as an intermediary. In arranged marriages they do not care about attraction because there is a pressure from the family to get married for practical reasons. But in this case it just seems like matchmaking by families without necessarily much pressure.
Also I'm African. Where I'm from in my culture we don't really have forced arranged marriage(we used to though, and it's still exists in some very remote areas). There is similar matchmaking with the parents as intermediaries but in the end the parties involved decide if that's what they want. I have seen and heard of men getting rejected in those instances. Not even a few weeks ago I heard about a girl who should have been married to the "prince" of her local town but she rejected him. In the past maybe she would have been forced or pressurized but the way "arranged marriages" are set in the modern day in my culture people don't care that much even if it involves traditional "royal" institutions. It's really just matchmaking with parents as intermediaries. So no different than dating apps unless there is serious pressure from the families, in which case you would be right.

The setup is exactly what arranged marriage is, if I am to believe the text of the original post. Parents send photos of their kids to relatives to find girls/guys. That is exactly what happens these days. This is what my colleagues and friends did. Yes they have evolved a bit. In fact there are websites for the same these days eg: shaadi.com. So women are not literally held at gunpoint. But in such a scenario women's preferences take drastic shift.

In matchmaking women care about other things, primarily from a provider pov. Women also have to chose guys in their community, religion etc. Even his dad focused on things like junior doctor status. Since when did women start caring about that? What else do women care about? A car, degree, house, good job?

Whatever you say is what I would be told if I talked to the average Indian who does arranged marriage. But if these guys were asked to find a woman without arranged marriage they'd fail. The same girl who married them will reject them in a dating setup. I think this is the coping mechanism for most guys since arranged marriages in the end are something which help men more than women and especially in conservative cultures. Because women are the gatekeepers of sex. Women will lose nothing if arranged marriages ended tomorrow. But millions of men will be forced into inceldom.

But if one likes it then it is okay, it's their choice. I personally find it to be the opposite of what this forum is about. Arranged marriages are the most bluebell thing one can do imo. It is no different then JBW in SEA, betabuxxing, finding a mail order bride or escorting. Coz looks don't matter much in any of these cases.

 

[ropemax]

Don't you want to seed a white princess and claim her racial purity?

 

[Xangsane]

Don't you want to seed a white princess and claim her racial purity?

I'm alright thank you.

 

[11gaijin]

It's not really arranged marriage, it's matchmaking with his father as an intermediary. In arranged marriages they do not care about attraction because there is a pressure from the family to get married for practical reasons. But in this case it just seems like matchmaking by families without necessarily much pressure.
Also I'm African. Where I'm from in my culture we don't really have forced arranged marriage(we used to though, and it's still exists in some very remote areas). There is similar matchmaking with the parents as intermediaries but in the end the parties involved decide if that's what they want. I have seen and heard of men getting rejected in those instances. Not even a few weeks ago I heard about a girl who should have been married to the "prince" of her local town but she rejected him. In the past maybe she would have been forced or pressurized but the way "arranged marriages" are set in the modern day in my culture people don't care that much even if it involves traditional "royal" institutions. It's really just matchmaking with parents as intermediaries. So no different than dating apps unless there is serious pressure from the families, in which case you would be right.

Fair point.

imo on the short term you are right, but on the long term it doesn't necessarily matter. Sex is something that can be learnt later on and a wife of good character who is into her husband will be willing to learn and experiment as long as it's vanilla and/or halal. On the other hand there are certain things that are 1) inherent to you 2) you are supposed to learn in early life from your parents, and later on in adult life it's impossible to change anything about it when it becomes ingrained in you. But yeah if he wants a girl similar to his ex that will give him batty wash and all kind of crazy things it would be a bad option and "boring" to him but I don't think that's what is prioritized here.

@Xangsane and Racky, I feel I may have been a bit rude or harsh with my replies but I think you can understand that this is a looksmaxing and blackpill forum. I would not say any of that if I met a person irl coz it is none of my business. Because I feel like @Xangsane likes this idea and I wish him all the best.

 

[Xangsane]

@Xangsane and Racky, I feel I may have been a bit rude or harsh with my replies but I think you can understand that this is a looksmaxing and blackpill forum. I would not say any of that if I met a person irl coz it is none of my business. Because I feel like @Xangsane likes this idea and I wish him all the best.

I honestly feel if I haven't been raised a sheltered young boy, I wouldn't have felt this way or think the way I do.

 

[Enfant terrible]

I talked to him, and he's offered to help me out with finding a girl. My dad believes that I'm not very well suited to the modern Western dating market given my behaviour and beliefs.

He said that in addition to Lebanese people, Gulf Arabs, North Africans and to a lesser degree people of the Caribbean and even the far East have married into his family, many of whom live in Europe, North America, Australia and the Gulf States (many have moved out of Lebanon). He said a few are in the UK. He told me all I have to do is to become more assertive, get to junior doctor status, grow up a bit (he thinks that I'm not quite ready for this yet) then he'll send my photo and details over to his relatives and inlaws to help me find a pretty, well-educated and low body count/virgin girl. He told me she doesn't have to be from the UK.

What do you think guys? What are your thoughts?

EDIT: Wait, this would be an arranged marriage?

do you speak arabic
i guess yes you do

 

[Xangsane]

do you speak arabic
i guess yes you do

I can only read, speak (while reading) and write it. I cannot communicate with it every well.

 

[Racky]

@Xangsane and Racky, I feel I may have been a bit rude or harsh with my replies but I think you can understand that this is a looksmaxing and blackpill forum. I would not say any of that if I met a person irl coz it is none of my business. Because I feel like @Xangsane likes this idea and I wish him all the best.

dw there was absolutely no problem with the way you talked.

 

[Pakicel]

I mean its basically an arranged marriage. Nobody has proof that the girl is going to have a low count. And how will they test virginity? I personally do not like arranged marriages since they seem like a business to me. It is the antithesis of whatever this site is about.

Any guy can marry via an arranged marriage. Lots of curries do. I wrote a post about my manager few days ago. I personally won't get any validation from an arranged marriage. You never know if the girl is actually into you. Girls marry anyone in an arranged marriage setup.

But that is my take. It maybe the ideal arrangement for you based on what your preferences are.

Pretty much. Most curries have the opportunity to forcibly marry some girl and get laid through rape but not everyone is comfortable with the idea. I mean. I am not a saint. But raping, abusing and all that shit ain't my cup of tea. I have some semblance of a conscience.

 

[Pakicel]

I think you should go along with it tbh. You don't need to careermax to get what you want. If you posted your profile on some marriage group, you would get stacy tier women proposing to you easy. You MIGHT have to pressure them a bit so IDK if you are comfortable with that. HTB-Stacylite ranges would not need to be pressured/forced.

 

[Xangsane]

I think you should go along with it tbh. You don't need to careermax to get what you want. If you posted your profile on some marriage group, you would get stacy tier women proposing to you easy. You MIGHT have to pressure them a bit so IDK if you are comfortable with that. HTB-Stacylite ranges would not need to be pressured/forced.

I will be.
I'm not bothering with mid tier stacylites or above. They're too much hard work and would often be demanding. Personality and long term compatibility traits matters a lot more to me.

 

[Pakicel]

From what I understand he will just make them meet up and then Xangsane(and the girl) will decide if they want to continue together. He can tell if the girl is actually into him or if she is promiscuous by simply getting to know her. Vetting basically

It’s honestly no different than if his dad was Tinder/Hinge/whatever and Xangsane was swiping on girls. The difference is that on those dating apps Xangsane might never find the kind of woman he wants. He could swipe until his thumb hurt in England and never come across the kind of woman he wants. While the women his father will introduce him to are more likely to actually be the HQNP kind he wants. To make sure of that he just has to vet

There is a catch tbh. In most cases, the girl is usually being pressured/forced especially if the dude is subhuman but has good money/status. This is why you see deformed niggas get HTB+ women through arranged marriage.

 

[Pakicel]

Before 30

Having kids is a massive cope. You will regret it. 100%

What if your kid grows up subhuman? or low IQ? Autistic? You don't want him to end up on .org once he grows up.

 

[Xangsane]

Having kids is a massive cope. You will regret it. 100%

What if your kid grows up subhuman? or low IQ? Autistic? You don't want him to end up on .org once he grows up.

It isn't. I do want my own kids and to spend time with them and my future wife, making them become the best people they could me.

 

[Pakicel]

if you're in for it why not, do what you feel like is right tbh

You are 100% a foid. You talk like one. If not, you need to check your t levels.

 

[Pakicel]

It isn't. I do want my own kids and to spend time with them and my future wife, making them become the best people they could me.

Every nigga says this. But when they actually have kids, they regret it 100%.

How would you ensure that they are at least chadlite level? Cause that is the looks level he is gonna need to be at if he wants to thrive in the coming decades.

You can't guarantee your kid won't be subhuman or low IQ or autistic.

 

[bogii]

You are 100% a foid. You talk like one. If not, you need to check your t levels.

why bruh my t levels are average 550 ng/dl

 

[Xangsane]

Every nigga says this. But when they actually have kids, they regret it 100%.

How would you ensure that they are at least chadlite level? Cause that is the looks level he is gonna need to be at if he wants to thrive in the coming decades.

You can't guarantee your kid won't be subhuman or low IQ or autistic.

I'll have to get them to stop sucking on their thumbs or mouthbreathing. My mum did exactly that as I was growing up.

I will feed them with all the best food I can find them.

 

[Pakicel]

why bruh my t levels are average 550 ng/dl

I sound higher t than you but I have high E soyboy face and skinnyfat body.

 

[Pakicel]

I'll have to get them to stop sucking on their thumbs or mouthbreathing. My mum did exactly that as I was growing up.

I will feed them with all the best food I can find them.

No guarantee even then bruh. They could get your and your wife's subhuman traits.

 

[Xangsane]

No guarantee even then bruh. They could get your and your wife's subhuman traits.

I'll teach them that looks aren't everything.

 

[bogii]

I sound higher t than you but I have high E soyboy face and skinnyfat body.

I can show you my high E body in pm if you like to see a gl foid body

 

[Pakicel]

I'll teach them that looks aren't everything.

Cope. Real life will blackpill them every single day. They will get bullied in school, get rejected by society and be forced to escortcel or something.

You could delusionmax them but they will just end up like devansh who has no friends because he is too annoying to be around.

 

[Pakicel]

I can show you my high E body in pm if you like to see a gl foid body

Yeah. You are a foid.