My depressive thought patterns are blocking me from looksmaxing [need help]

[LusterToLow]

I am fat and I stuggle to lose weight only because of my depression.I need to lose 30kg to not be fat and have abs.I have done it many times before I know how to do it,I can do it when I make myself to.

I have analyzed myself deeply and wrote in my ultimate strategy for improving smv ,that I have a repeating pattern of negative thoughts and doubt in myself, which comes in cycle and breaks off my diet.

I have those thoughts that bother me of me being virgin of dying alone,I start to remember my failures with women those things come up to me during my diet and make it fail.Not only diet but any plan in life that is moving me into good direction.I then stop taking care of myself completly.I have bought creams for face and skin that I have completly stopped using,I stopped brushing my teeth.

When I lose that musch weight and get jacked its not like women trough themselves at me,but I think I women find me way more attractive,For example when I lost weight and reached 10% and got jacked from working out,washed hair that day, a women at the store told me that I look really young and handsome.I also had on separate ocassion ,I found out another women was talking behind my balk to her friends about me how cute I am.One girl when she saw me without shirt was amazed and said that I look really good.I notice also girls staring at me in bus.I mean not all and not always but it happens from time to time while I am riding in bus,I see sometimes them checking me out,while I am fat no girls look at me twice.Dont get me wrong,while I am lean and jacked there are also girls that treat me like a crap or dont pay attention to me,but I belive that its still better to be lean than fat,at least for confidence because on tinder I get nothing.

I dont know how to become more mentaly stable,its so easy for me to get driven by emotion and to start eating just because I feel sad,angry or stressed.

I think that here on looksmaxing there isnt enough topic on mental side of looksmaxing that will help you to get trough that and not fail or get demotivated.Any suggestions or ideas?

 

[Deleted member 21182]

 

[Brazitard]

I am fat and I stuggle to lose weight only because of my depression.I need to lose 30kg to not be fat and have abs.I have done it many times before I know how to do it,I can do it when I make myself to.

I have analyzed myself deeply and wrote in my ultimate strategy for improving smv ,that I have a repeating pattern of negative thoughts and doubt in myself, which comes in cycle and breaks off my diet.

I have those thoughts that bother me of me being virgin of dying alone,I start to remember my failures with women those things come up to me during my diet and make it fail.Not only diet but any plan in life that is moving me into good direction.I then stop taking care of myself completly.I have bought creams for face and skin that I have completly stopped using,I stopped brushing my teeth.

When I lose that musch weight and get jacked its not like women trough themselves at me,but I think I women find me way more attractive,For example when I lost weight and reached 10% and got jacked from working out,washed hair that day, a women at the store told me that I look really young and handsome.I also had on separate ocassion ,I found out another women was talking behind my balk to her friends about me how cute I am.One girl when she saw me without shirt was amazed and said that I look really good.I notice also girls staring at me in bus.I mean not all and not always but it happens from time to time while I am riding in bus,I see sometimes them checking me out,while I am fat no girls look at me twice.Dont get me wrong,while I am lean and jacked there are also girls that treat me like a crap or dont pay attention to me,but I belive that its still better to be lean than fat,at least for confidence because on tinder I get nothing.

I dont know how to become more mentaly stable,its so easy for me to get driven by emotion and to start eating just because I feel sad,angry or stressed.

I think that here on looksmaxing there isnt enough topic on mental side of looksmaxing that will help you to get trough that and not fail or get demotivated.Any suggestions or ideas?

Depression is caused by poor nutrition, read We Want To Live by renowned nutritionist Aajonus Vonderplanitz who had +30 years of experience and cured hundreds of patients of hundreds of "incurable" diseases with his diet if you want to understand it...

 

[anoncell]

maybe stop basing your life about impressing women

 

[Brazitard]

Also I don't give a fuck about women anymore (maybe because I had sex with a handful of different women?) but I understand why that's bothering you... Please read the book, it will blow your mind, I got more sources on his work too if you are interested.

 

[Deleted member 24777]

Have you checked your vitamin D status? Are you taking any supplements or medication?

 

[LusterToLow]

Depression is caused by poor nutrition, read We Want To Live by renowned nutritionist Aajonus Vonderplanitz who had +30 years of experience and cured hundreds of patients of hundreds of "incurable" diseases with his diet if you want to understand it...

I agree on that one mediterian diet is the best for not having depression,while western diet with ratio of 6:1 omega6 fats to omega 3 fats make a significatn impact on depression.
However,I wouldnt say that just diet or genetics cause depression,often there are outside enviroment circumstances in life that impact us but arent under our control.

 

[LusterToLow]

maybe stop basing your life about impressing women

Easier said than done

 

[JohnDoe]

Depression is caused by poor nutrition, read We Want To Live by renowned nutritionist Aajonus Vonderplanitz who had +30 years of experience and cured hundreds of patients of hundreds of "incurable" diseases with his diet if you want to understand it...

I am also of the belief that Depression is not caused by a chemical imbalance and even if it was, it's a lot more complex than just "low serotonin levels".
OP you seem very emotional like a woman, your hormones test/estrogen ratio is probably fucked. Do you exercise regularly/lift and eat a good diet? Start taking vitamin d3+k2 atleast 5000 iu, it's a super hormone vitamin and helps with everything. Whatever you do, don't ever take SSRIs.

 

[LusterToLow]

Have you checked your vitamin D status? Are you taking any supplements or medication?

No I would say that I am functionaly depressed.
Also I noticed that I am rarely depressed during summer,but it starts in the autumn and winter.It is related with sun.I have the most motivation to diet and work out when its sunny but the least on autumn and winter.

 

[anoncell]

Easier said than done

then keep contradicting yourself.

 

[Deleted member 21340]

dnr
depression isn't real
put the fork down and go into a calorie deficient otherwise you'll die alone

 

[Brazitard]

I agree on that one mediterian diet is the best for not having depression,while western diet with ratio of 6:1 omega6 fats to omega 3 fats make a significatn impact on depression.
However,I wouldnt say that just diet or genetics cause depression,often there are outside enviroment circumstances in life that impact us but arent under our control.

Yeah chemicals and radiation poisoning can also cause depression but you can detox from it with the right diet (Primal Diet)... The brain and nerves are made of saturated fat and you need them to heal, but you need to eat them RAW, including raw meat and raw eggs.

 

[LusterToLow]

I am also of the belief that Depression is not caused by a chemical imbalance and even if it was, it's a lot more complex than just "low serotonin levels".
OP you seem very emotional like a woman, your hormones test/estrogen ratio is probably fucked. Do you exercise regularly/lift and eat a good diet? Start taking vitamin d3+k2 atleast 5000 iu, it's a super hormone vitamin and helps with everything. Whatever you do, don't ever take SSRIs.

Yeah when you are fat,that produces more estrogen.I also dont work out,I wait to lose little bit weight.Excersise improves mood drasticaly.The reason I dont work out is because I am obese and I think that by excersising I make my blood presure even higher which is probbably very high from excess fat.I have 99kg and am tall 177cm.My plan is to reach 90kg with diet and then start ligtly working out and intensify as I get leaner.

 

[ifyouwannabemylover]

just starve yourself for a month or two and that's it

 

[JohnDoe]

No I would say that I am functionaly depressed.
Also I noticed that I am rarely depressed during summer,but it starts in the autumn and winter.It is related with sun.I have the most motivation to diet and work out when its sunny but the least on autumn and winter.

Order Vit d3+k2 5000-10000 IU and take it for a month and see if you see any changes.

 

[Deleted member 24777]

No I would say that I am functionaly depressed.
Also I noticed that I am rarely depressed during summer,but it starts in the autumn and winter.It is related with sun.I have the most motivation to diet and work out when its sunny but the least on autumn and winter.

I would suggest you get your levels checked then.

Consider purchasing and using a lightbox for an hour a day or so.

 

[LusterToLow]

Order Vit d3+k2 5000-10000 IU and take it for a month and see if you see any changes.

Ok,thanks

 

[LusterToLow]

I would suggest you get your levels checked then.

Consider purchasing and using a lightbox for an hour a day or so.

Intresting,I will definately order this one,thanks.I will just research it ,just in case to see how effective they are in imitating sunlight.

 

[LusterToLow]

Dude,this is disturbing.

 

[Brazitard]

Yeah when you are fat,that produces more estrogen.I also dont work out,I wait to lose little bit weight.Excersise improves mood drasticaly.The reason I dont work out is because I am obese and I think that by excersising I make my blood presure even higher which is probbably very high from excess fat.I have 99kg and am tall 177cm.My plan is to reach 90kg with diet and then start ligtly working out and intensify as I get leaner.

Any exercise helps, man, even Shadowboxing or Walking... I was 111kg (185.5cm morning height) in December 2021 and by February 2022 I was 93kg (I did nothing), now I'm down to 84.5kg and only then I started fasting and exercising.

 

[LusterToLow]

Any exercise helps, man, even Shadowboxing or Walking... I was 111kg (185.5cm morning height) in December 2021 and by February 2022 I was 93kg (I did nothing), now I'm down to 84.5kg and only then I started fasting and exercising.

So you have lost 9kgs per month.I think its very bad for your health and potentialy dangerous.

 

[LusterToLow]

Any exercise helps, man, even Shadowboxing or Walking... I was 111kg (185.5cm morning height) in December 2021 and by February 2022 I was 93kg (I did nothing), now I'm down to 84.5kg and only then I started fasting and exercising.

I have been doing that when I was 14,I would come from 100 to 70kg during summer holiday and no one could recognize me but looking back now I think I have pushing it too much.I have a goal of losing 5kg per month.

 

[Brazitard]

So you have lost 9kgs per month.I think its very bad for your health and potentialy dangerous.

Not at all, because it was all fat and I got plenty of muscle due to 4 years straight of heavy gymcelling so they burn a lot of calories just by existing and make it easier to lose weight...

Still have a lot to lose, I want to go back to 75kg because it was at that weight that I looked the BEST.

 

[Brazitard]

I have been doing that when I was 14,I would come from 100 to 70kg during summer holiday and no one could recognize me but looking back now I think I have pushing it too much.I have a goal of losing 5kg per month.

As long as it is excess subcutaneous fat/visceral fat you are good, it's only bad when the weight loss is due to muscle wasting (like me when I got to 59kg, I was a sack of bones but at least I had a 6-pack lol)

 

[Sub0]

I am also of the belief that Depression is not caused by a chemical imbalance and even if it was, it's a lot more complex than just "low serotonin levels".
OP you seem very emotional like a woman, your hormones test/estrogen ratio is probably fucked. Do you exercise regularly/lift and eat a good diet? Start taking vitamin d3+k2 atleast 5000 iu, it's a super hormone vitamin and helps with everything. Whatever you do, don't ever take SSRIs.

Yeah all the good nutrition and genetics goes out the window when you have to deal with sudden trauma of a beloved one dying

 

[JohnDoe]

Yeah all the good nutrition and genetics goes out the window when you have to deal with sudden trauma of a beloved one dying

Well that's normal, you have to grieve.