bluebandz
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My goal with this thread it to help you both learn from my experience and possibly apply the things you learned to your life within your teenage years. Keep in mind this is most likely inaccurate for people out of school.
Section 1 - My general experience and a rundown of my relationships/How everything is going now
Section 2 - How real is hypergamy and how could it affect you?
Section 3 - General takeaways and conclusion
Each section will be identified by the color of the text that corresponds with the table of contents. Keep in mind, I will use the word mainstream instead of popular as the word popular is cringe af.
My first relationship was 2/3 years ago (2 school years at the time of making this, going to be 3 soon)My goal with this thread it to help you both learn from my experience and possibly apply the things you learned to your life within your teenage years. Keep in mind this is most likely inaccurate for people out of school.
Section 1 - My general experience and a rundown of my relationships/How everything is going now
Section 2 - How real is hypergamy and how could it affect you?
Section 3 - General takeaways and conclusion
Each section will be identified by the color of the text that corresponds with the table of contents. Keep in mind, I will use the word mainstream instead of popular as the word popular is cringe af.
Sec. 1Stats of the girl -
/hmtb (one of the most attractive girls at the school and was slim)
Fairly Mainstream
Got with almost any guy and for some reason kept getting with the least popular people despite being mainstream at the time.
Latina
Stats of me: sub-3, not that overweight comparatively (roughly 146 lbs, mostly fat, very rarely worked out. I wore some bullshit clothes (things like neon green shorts, never showered in the morning despite having curly hair, resulting in completely fucking unattractive hair)
Not popular at all, still hung out with a few friends and had fun.
I don’t even know what the fuck was going on. She essentially like told her friends to go to me and bring me or wtv. This shit is extremely fucking uncommon. Anyway she wanted me to ask her if whatever which completely ruined the fucking point of bringing me over. We dated for like 5 days and broke up. We never ever talked. I guess it was technically a relationship. This goes against female hypergamy, as she was leagues above me. It has been proven that most females are hypergamous in terms of money (which i do not see much of a problem with) which likely translates to looks as well. This was the first year of that school, so everything was being figured out. Overall, I believe that if i had simply thugmaxxed the relationship would have been decent and i would have got cheated on, but maybe we would have spent some time together. She is no longer mainstream, but still looks pretty good imo. We had a talking stage but it was for 2 weeks and this was much later. We never texted at all. She was chill though very nice person overall although she thugmaxxed which usually doesn’t go hand in hand with attractiveness.
Second relationship -
Her stats - Indian, ltb, slim, dated in the same year as the prior relationship. Mid year. Not mainstream at all, even i was much more mainstream.
My stats - Same as before.
We met in a class, we were friends for a bit. Then we had this weird situation ship thing going on when we were gonna get tg. She was really really hesitant about dating me, likely because i was fat as fuck. She said she didn’t wanna ruin the friendship if we broke up. I don’t think she would be saying that if i was mtn. Anyway we dated, i didn’t wanna ever hang out with her didn’t want to get caught with her n shi. Her being so un mainstream (and being indian, not tryna be racist or nun that’s just personally not my preference) i didn’t wana be caught around her ykwim
We broke up eventually, when we dated we texted and like played roblox n shi. Never talked irl like ever no hugs nun. Similar to last relationship however last one had no texting. This felt like more of a friendship. We had a label of dating but just did friendship stuff.
Third relationship was during summer.
My stats are the same. don’t know what the fuck i was doing
Girls stats - Widely Considered the most attractive girl at the school, very popular. I do not agree at all with the most attractive thing. Idk why so many people thought that. Unlike other girl wasn’t slim, however, she still had a nice face. Ll-ltb imo.
We had been talking about mental health n shi. I was sadmaxxing for some reason and hadn’t realized that ultimately if i don’t tell myself to be sad or happy I’ll be chilling. She trusted me with a lot and i did with her too. I was more mainstream but still very niche. So ig personality in some way played a key role there. We texted a lot and said ily and shi. Rarely hung out, when we did it was cuz we bumped into eachother. I got cheated on with another guy who had wanted her for a while really bad within a week of dating. I’m now friends with him and thinks that he deserved her, ultimately and is a better candidate for her. He also mogged and still mogs me. I found out about it she apologized and kept doing it throughout the 2 months we were dating. We then broke up when they were together. Goes to show looks matter, would have hung out more if i didn’t keep getting cheated on, however she’s still very kind and a nice person.
My last relationship was last year.
I was so fucking ugly and fat. 180 lbs 5’8 ish. Because of this i had to get w someone a year younger than me.Tall ish for the time. I forgot to mention i was tall for my age back then. I’m now still the same height and my plates are closed. Jfl.
Her stats - ltb, kinda mainstream, pretty decent looking
my stats - sub 3, mainstream, way fatter
i js made it obvious i wanted her on snap and she made it obvious back so i asked her out or wtv, we hung out a lot and it was a great relationship, she was prolly only going out with me at first cus i was a year older but it was a great relationship, i eventually got bored so i stopped texting as much and stuff until she broke up with me
How it’s going now
I hopped on reta, i’m now 18.4% bf roughly, which is still a bit fat however i kinda look skinny fat so it’s hard to tell i’m fat
tried to get with a girl and then my friend got with her jfl haven’t gotten with anyone since then, at older ages i think you need to ascend way more. I’ve also been going for the same person for like a year and a half jfl but last time she saw me i was fat af.
What does this say about hypergamy?
It’s ultimately hard to say. In a lot of situations before, i had some type of advantage that didn’t have to do with looks. However, now, it’s difficult to find a looks match who would get with me, as they all get with mtns despite me being an ltn and am willing to get with an ltn.
Conclusion
It’s difficult to find a looksmatch, however, it is possible. Confidence is important, as even if you get rejected, if you ask them out confidently and go on confidently, nothing will happen to you socially.
It’s ultimately hard to say. In a lot of situations before, i had some type of advantage that didn’t have to do with looks. However, now, it’s difficult to find a looks match who would get with me, as they all get with mtns despite me being an ltn and am willing to get with an ltn.
Conclusion
It’s difficult to find a looksmatch, however, it is possible. Confidence is important, as even if you get rejected, if you ask them out confidently and go on confidently, nothing will happen to you socially.
