my gf has bpd

[NVM_Ignacio]

how long have you been managing it?

Hows ur experience tho

 

[Deleted member 22511]

Like dropping people I knew for like a few days or so is not a issue but if you're close with me for a month or so It's gonna be hard already.

Yeah I've essentially dropped my own family who I've known my whole life without much of a sweat, makes me feel a little bad I don't have a classical, close, loving relationship with them, but I simply don't feel that way with them. Not that I hate them or have a negative relationship, I simply do not feel close to them, I feel apathetic to their existence. Same thing with friends I had known most of my life.

Fuck that must be fucking hell bro, I wish the best for you.

Thank you, although I don't like to wallow in self pity, I wouldn't say it's "hell", it's got its pros and cons being like this.
I kind of like the idea of falling head over heels, obsessively in love with a girl, but I realize that that would also bring many problems with it.
It's unlikely this will ever happen for me again though. I've been diagnosed as a schizoid. A "secret schizoid", but still a schizoid.

 

[8.75 demon]

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[5OuttaTen]

nah ur all good man it's some specific shit, don't really wanna say it all on here but it's some bullshit.

Stay strong soldier if she doesn’t change her ways remember u can leave

 

[NVM_Ignacio]

oh man it's so fucking good when it's going great but a true horror story when it isn't, these last few days have most deffo taken 10 years off my life span

Yeah the stress it causes its the worst, I can relate to almost everything you say twin

 

[bosnian]

Almost a year but Ive known her for much more than a year

Hows ur experience tho

Yeah I've known mine for 2 years now, we were talking a lot as friends in 2024 when we first met for a couple of months and we just randomly stopped talking then around august last year she hit me up because I just got out of prison and from there on we kicked it off and started talking, hanging out, calling, and basically doing everything together all day every day.

It's been a rollercoaster man I used to joke around a bit about it 'new day new mood' but she is pretty stable if I say so myself.

 

[bosnian]

Yeah I've essentially dropped my own family who I've known my whole life without much of a sweat, makes me feel a little bad I don't have a classical, close, loving relationship with them, but I simply don't feel that way with them. Not that I hate them or have a negative relationship, I simply do not feel close to them, I feel apathetic to their existence. Same thing with friends I had known most of my life.


Thank you, although I don't like to wallow in self pity, I wouldn't say it's "hell", it's got its pros and cons being like this.
I kind of like the idea of falling head over heels, obsessively in love with a girl, but I realize that that would also bring many problems with it.
It's unlikely this will ever happen for me again though. I've been diagnosed as a schizoid. A "secret schizoid", but still a schizoid.

I can relate to this shit so fucking much, yeah I've basically made her the center of attention too and only wanted to spend all my time of day with her, and shit man I hope you can work everything out with your diagnosis that's fucked man.

 

[bosnian]

Stay strong soldier if she doesn’t change her ways remember u can leave

Last thing I wanna do boss, it'll be her who leaves if anyone does.

 

[NVM_Ignacio]

Yeah I've known mine for 2 years now, we were talking a lot as friends in 2024 when we first met for a couple of months and we just randomly stopped talking then around august last year she hit me up because I just got out of prison and from there on we kicked it off and started talking, hanging out, calling, and basically doing everything together all day every day.

It's been a rollercoaster man I used to joke around a bit about it 'new day new mood' but she is pretty stable if I say so myself.

The truth about being with a girl with bpd from my experience is that you will have to endure and do 4 times more as a bf than any other person you know in a relationship. Its much harder to stay in good terms, Im taking care of my girl correctly, Im taking her on a trip in brasil soon so she will get better.

Also get her to be healthier, some exercise, good food, and tell her to go to a psychologist. That overall helped her a lot and ended up helping me in my daily life

 

[bosnian]

The truth about being with a girl with bpd from my experience is that you will have to endure and do 4 times more as a bf than any other person you know in a relationship. Its much harder to stay in good terms, Im taking care of my girl correctly, Im taking her on a trip in brasil soon so she will get better.

Also get her to be healthier, some exercise, good food, and tell her to go to a psychologist. That overall helped her a lot and ended up helping me in my daily life

Good fucking stuff man, good to hear that it isn't always a complete shitshow and you're fully fucking right with the '4 times more' part bro I'm being deadass I've done so much for her but also feel like that there's slight under appreciation y'know? But then there's or well was days where she would bring up some things I did/do which she found nice and loved etc and that used to be really good to hear.

Hope that trip works out for you bro, make sure to have fun brah

 

[NVM_Ignacio]

Good fucking stuff man, good to hear that it isn't always a complete shitshow and you're fully fucking right with the '4 times more' part bro I'm being deadass I've done so much for her but also feel like that there's slight under appreciation y'know? But then there's or well was days where she would bring up some things I did/do which she found nice and loved etc and that used to be really good to hear.

Hope that trip works out for you bro, make sure to have fun brah

It is not all bad, at the end of the day our gfs is who we love the most and we are usually obsessed with her so its good if you work it together but as Im saying, ull have to work 4 times more than any other person in a relationship.
If you actually love that girl it will be 100% worth it.

And yes that part about the underappreciation is totally normal, I almost broke up with her bc I was in a trip with my friends where I partied a lot and I was gone for 8 days, in those 8 days I wrote her a letter for everyday Im there so she can calm down when shes having a breakdown bc of the jealousy, I sent her money everyday so she could eat wtv she wants and I sent her videos all the time so she could see I wasnt with any other girls. After that we fought bc one day I got a little too drunk and she forgot everything I did and got mad asf, thats when I almost broke up with her bc she wasnt letting me enjoy my trip when I was clearly doing everything possible for her to be okay while Im gone.

And those sudden moments when she bring up things that she liked and loved that I did also happens to me sometimes but is usually just manipulation that I dont tell her I notice, but yeah, dont let it fool you.

Thanks btw, I will have fun

I hope you can endure and work things up with her.

 

[bosnian]

It is not all bad, at the end of the day our gfs is who we love the most and we are usually obsessed with her so its good if you work it together but as Im saying, ull have to work 4 times more than any other person in a relationship.
If you actually love that girl it will be 100% worth it.

And yes that part about the underappreciation is totally normal, I almost broke up with her bc I was in a trip with my friends where I partied a lot and I was gone for 8 days, in those 8 days I wrote her a letter for everyday Im there so she can calm down when shes having a breakdown bc of the jealousy, I sent her money everyday so she could eat wtv she wants and I sent her videos all the time so she could see I wasnt with any other girls. After that we fought bc one day I got a little too drunk and she forgot everything I did and got mad asf, thats when I almost broke up with her bc she wasnt letting me enjoy my trip when I was clearly doing everything possible for her to be okay while Im gone.

And those sudden moments when she bring up things that she liked and loved that I did also happens to me sometimes but is usually just manipulation that I dont tell her I notice, but yeah, dont let it fool you.

Thanks btw, I will have fun

I hope you can endure and work things up with her.

Preciate the kind words bro, yeah mine always wanted me to have my location on, show me where I was outside, show my snap, show that I'm not around any girls etc and I'd always show her proof and get her food etc etc.

Hope so too man, hope so too...

 

[NVM_Ignacio]

Preciate the kind words bro, yeah mine always wanted me to have my location on, show me where I was outside, show my snap, show that I'm not around any girls etc and I'd always show her proof and get her food etc etc.

Hope so too man, hope so too...

Thats totally normal bro, everything will be alright at the end

 

[bosnian]

Thats totally normal bro, everything will be alright at the end

I hope so too man, I really hope this bad period ends I'll try my best to fix and get over it.

 

[lurkerbeserker]

Oh man I know, but what can you do if you love the person with your whole heart so much, you're always together and she's done so much good for me until recently.

I literally know I'm practically torturing myself but realistically what can I do

You don’t actually love her though and she doesn’t love you. you’ve likely just trauma bonded with her and have anxious attachment. The attachment you feel is just your brain manufacturing fake emotions. This is why relationships with bpd people don’t last very long. Any normal self respecting individual dumps them within a couple months. You have realize that people with bpd are so starved for intimacy and deprived of validation they will instantly find another person to anxiously attach to try and fill the void of their internalized inferiority complex. They will even get with someone that treats them like shit. It’s a trauma based response. You have to understand unless these individuals are medicated 24/7 they CAN NOT function like normal humans. They are pretty much operate 100% off emotion and have zero impulse control.

 

[bosnian]

You don’t actually love her though and she doesn’t love you. you’ve likely just trauma bonded with her and have anxious attachment. The attachment you feel is just your brain manufacturing fake emotions. This is why relationships with bpd people don’t last very long. Any normal self respecting individual dumps them within a couple months. You have realize that people with bpd are so starved for intimacy and deprived of validation they will instantly find another person to anxiously attach to try and fill the void of their internalized inferiority complex. They will even get with someone that treats them like shit. It’s a trauma based response. You have to understand unless these individuals are medicated 24/7 they CAN NOT function like normal humans. They are pretty much operate 100% off emotion and have zero impulse control.

I get what you're saying but I actually do love her deeply it really isn't fake emotions atleast not from my side.

 

[lurkerbeserker]

I get what you're saying but I actually do love her deeply it really isn't fake emotions atleast not from my side.

Okay man but when in inevitably ends it’s just going to hurt worse

 

[bosnian]

Okay man but when in inevitably ends it’s just going to hurt worse

I get that too bro but I can't help it.

 

[NVM_Ignacio]

I hope so too man, I really hope this bad period ends I'll try my best to fix and get over it.

It will end sooner than you think bro, keep it up man

 

[bosnian]

It will end sooner than you think bro, keep it up man

appreciate the positivity but sadly it's not predictable could be soon could be later god knows.

 

[lurkerbeserker]

appreciate the positivity but sadly it's not predictable could be soon could be later god knows.

You’re just prolonging your suffering

 

[bosnian]

You’re just prolonging your suffering

Then so be it man, I don't give up easily fuck it

 

[Deleted member 13158]

She deffo had a few, I remember she said two ended with her losing feelings and the other one cheating on her.

Yeah she wasn't a complete whacko obviously but the bpd was really obvious especially her getting mad and bursting out at the most random shit or her saying outrageous stuff and then a hour later apologizing completely for everything and saying she didn't mean it, also always being horny as fuck it's was obvious since the start and I loved it.

Crazy chicks are never a good idea, for fun only

 

[bosnian]

Crazy chicks are never a good idea, for fun only

It's hard when you truly can't see it like that man, I legit want her for her not just for fun only

 

[Deleted member 13158]

It's hard when you truly can't see it like that man, I legit want her for her not just for fun only

You say that, but if she stopped fucking u how long would u stick around ?

 

[bosnian]

You say that, but if she stopped fucking u how long would u stick around ?

Obviously not just with her to fuck, I love spending time with her and love her with my whole heart for who she truly is & I don't specifically view her as 'crazy'.

Shit might sound corny but she means the world to me brah and as I said I don't just wanna lose her.

 

[Deleted member 13158]

Obviously not just with her to fuck, I love spending time with her and love her with my whole heart for who she truly is & I don't specifically view her as 'crazy'.

Shit might sound corny but she means the world to me brah and as I said I don't just wanna lose her.

Love is blind

 

[valorious]

nah ur all good man it's some specific shit, don't really wanna say it all on here but it's some bullshit.

my gf has bpd and we've been on an off for 8 months but on for about 4 now and all of the talk about how it never lasts just puts bad thouhts into my head bro

 

[bosnian]

my gf has bpd and we've been on an off for 8 months but on for about 4 now and all of the talk about how it never lasts just puts bad thouhts into my head bro

Facts, we've been on and off for 2 then completely on for 4 and we've been pretty off this week although it's very slowly improving, just hope it'll work out.