My girlfriend broke up

[iheartgoyslop]

We tried for a long time. She has ptsd due to severe trauma. She sometimes gets flashbacks when I'm with her, she can focus on anything good. I genuinely trust her from the bottom of my heart.

was she deployed to fucking iraq

 

[neckhurt]

“With nothing to back it up”

This is the first instinct i got as i read his story

If you think im wrong then tell me another reason why she would push him away when hes her comfort

I have been thinking the same. Why tf push me away when I can help you. But some people respond like that. My mother told me she responded like that too, when her parents got divorced. She pushed everyone away even though she didn't really want to. Remember they are girls, they may respond different from us men

 

[emogymmaxx]

I have been thinking the same. Why tf push me away when I can help you. But some people respond like that. My mother told me she responded like that too, when her parents got divorced. She pushed everyone away even though she didn't really want to. Remember they are girls, they may respond different from us men

nah i’m ngl i do that shit too, but i actively know i’m burning that bridge and most people who are “mentally ill” or “push ppl away” also know they are doing that

 

[vs1120]

Her mother died and she isn't capable of anything. She can't be happy. We tried but it didn't work. She told me she still loves me, and maybe we can get back togheter when things get better. She really means everything to me. I have 96 photos of her in my cameraroll. I feel sick. She has been my world, how am I supposed to let go?

First off, worst possible place to ever post anything like this. Second, just find yourself and what you want, Third, just try to maxx out every part of your life

 

[topology]

LMFAOOOOO you haven’t argued shit to me, i don’t know this dudes life, i’m using common sense and real world knowledge on how normies get new fuck buddies

No argument needed when your statement has linked 0 studies or theories.

"Common sense" isn't an argument as this is a real and documented trauma response.

I personally know I would push away my partner if something very traumatic happened. It's not a mind blowing theory..

 

[neckhurt]

Ok my bro

Ur welcome back here when u find out shes talking to someone else

Stfu

 

[5’4 Copium Maximus]

Her mother died and she isn't capable of anything. She can't be happy. We tried but it didn't work. She told me she still loves me, and maybe we can get back togheter when things get better. She really means everything to me. I have 96 photos of her in my cameraroll. I feel sick. She has been my world, how am I supposed to let go?

Bruh, wanna bet when you guys meet again she will have fucked other guys with the excuse of “I was so sad and lonely”

 

[Quetila]

She has been my world, how am I supposed to let go?

That’s retarded and on you, you shouldn’t see anybody like that

 

[neckhurt]

First off, worst possible place to ever post anything like this.

True but at least people can relate to my loneliness

Second, just find yourself and what you want, Third, just try to maxx out every part of your life

 

[joke]

was she deployed to fucking iraq

LMFAOOOOO

 

[neckhurt]

Bruh, wanna bet when you guys meet again she will have fucked other guys with the excuse of “I was so sad and lonely”

I'll come back when I know anything jfl

 

[vs1120]

True but at least people can relate to my loneliness

just ignore all these faggots and dont let shit get to you, u matter bro

 

[emogymmaxx]

No argument needed when your statement has linked 0 studies or theories.

"Common sense" isn't an argument as this is a real and documented trauma response.

I personally know I would push away my partner if something very traumatic happened. It's not a mind blowing theory..

if you’d push away your partner ever you simply don’t love them, that’s a tell tale sign that you no long want to engage with that person regardless of the outcome. common sense is a argument when we’re talking about a 17 yr olds relationship LMFAO, you’ve also linked no studies

 

[neckhurt]

That’s retarded and on you, you shouldn’t see anybody like that

I suppose you have never had a real girlfriend before

 

[Iblame2023]

Fuck her mom

 

[Quetila]

I suppose you have never had a real girlfriend before

You’re retarded as fuck that’s the only bullshit you could’ve resorted too because you know that I’m right

 

[tomahawk]

The replies under this thread are God awful
Just stick with her, don't leave her, try to help her through the hard times and you'll win

 

[neckhurt]

was she deployed to fucking iraq

Nigger ptsd can come without having to go to war. She was diagnosed by a psychologist

 

[neckhurt]

The replies under this thread are God awful
Just stick with her, don't leave her, try to help her through the hard times and you'll win

God bless you

 

[neckhurt]

You’re retarded as fuck that’s the only bullshit you could’ve resorted too because you know that I’m right

I've probably been acting all loving like a bf should because I have bpd jfl, I've been waaaay too obsessed and posessive because I have bpd, yeahhh like no other bf is treating a girl right so I must be mentally ill and retarded

 

[Quetila]

The replies under this thread are God awful
Just stick with her, don't leave her, try to help her through the hard times and you'll win

He deserves it he lives in a rainbow bubble where unconditional love exists He’s only looking for a solution he likes and that he already knows

I told him that saying “She’s my world” is fundamentally flawed and all he could say was this:

I suppose you have never had a real girlfriend before

Fuck this dude he’s fucking retarded

Now he’s blabbering about a BPD like it ever came out of my mouth

 

[neckhurt]

if you’d push away your partner ever you simply don’t love them,

stfu

that’s a tell tale sign that you no long want to engage with that person regardless of the outcome. common sense is a argument when we’re talking about a 17 yr olds relationship LMFAO, you’ve also linked no studies

 

[emogymmaxx]

stfu

there’s certainly situations lmao, like if the other person is toxic or abusive. but you can’t chemically unlove someone, go learn about the chemistry behind the feeling of love

 

[neckhurt]

He deserves it he lives in a rainbow bubble where unconditional love exists He’s only looking for a solution he likes and that he already knows

Stfu

I told him that saying that “She’s my world” is fundamentally flawed and all he could say was this:

it's because if you ever had a real gf you would know how it feels to really love someone, if you have a real loving partner they should be your world. In nature, finding a partner is everything you have to do except survive, and that means they become the whole world, because thats the only thing that matters beside finding food and staying alive

Fuck this dude he’s fucking retarded

Now he’s blabbering about a BPD like it ever came out of my mouth

I'm sayin that you don't have to be retarded to be a good bf i just said bpd as an example because I actually do have it

 

[Quetila]

Stfu

it's because if you ever had a real gf you would know how it feels to really love someone, if you have a real loving partner they should be your world. In nature, finding a partner is everything you have to do except survive, and that means they become the whole world, because thats the only thing that matters beside finding food and staying alive

I'm sayin that you don't have to be retarded to be a good bf i just said bpd as an example because I actually do have it

dnr ur irreparably fucking stupid keep living in your fairy tale

 

[neckhurt]

there’s certainly situations lmao, like if the other person is toxic or abusive. but you can’t chemically unlove someone, go learn about the chemistry behind the feeling of love

We still love each other, the situation rn is just too hard for her to handle. We are still friends, and hopefully we will get back togheter after she feels better

 

[neckhurt]

dnr ur irreparably fucking stupid

Why exactly?

keep living in your fairy tale

Fairytale my ass nigger, I just genuinely believe in love

 

[emogymmaxx]

We still love each other, the situation rn is just too hard for her to handle. We are still friends, and hopefully we will get back togheter after she feels better

well i wish you the best
a lot of what i said wasn’t too you was just a argument about facts with the trucel btw

 

[neckhurt]

well i wish you the best
a lot of what i said wasn’t too you was just a argument about facts with the trucel btw

No worries, thanks bhai

 

[kisslessvirgin]

find another slut

preferably with an already dead mother so you don't have to go through this again

 

[Quetila]

Why exactly?

keep reading til you understand I guess

Fairytale my ass nigger, I just genuinely believe in love

Yeah and some people believe in holy books and alleged gods, that doesn’t change the reality of facts or make the law bend in their favor

“Fairy Tale my ass”
“I just genuinely believe in X”

YOU’RE RETARDED

 

[topology]

if you’d push away your partner ever you simply don’t love them, that’s a tell tale sign that you no long want to engage with that person regardless of the outcome. common sense is a argument when we’re talking about a 17 yr olds relationship LMFAO, you’ve also linked no studies

No studies needed when the burden is upon you. "Common sense" doesn't apply to psychology in most contexts, it's the worst thing that can/could be applied.

Anyways, I took time to actually find the sources! Waiting for your reply calling it GPT, inaccurate, or something of that sort.

Acute grief is the clinical term for the first weeks and months following sudden loss. It is a documented disruption of cognitive, emotional, and relational functioning. Mary-Frances O'Connor's neuroscience work (The Grieving Brain, 2022) describes the bereaved brain as failing to update a model of reality in which the deceased was a permanent fixture. Reward processing, executive function, the attachment system, still built on someone who is no longer there worsen.

Stroebe and Schut's Dual Process Model, the dominant framework in contemporary bereavement research, describes grieving people as switching involuntarily between confronting the loss and attempting to resume daily life. Neither state is stable. The capacity to function as a romantic partner requires a coherent self & during acute grief there isn't one to give. Worden's tasks of mourning explicitly identify withdrawal from external demands as part of the work of mourning. Holly Prigerson's research, which produced the diagnostic criteria for Prolonged Grief Disorder now in the DSM-5-TR, documents this disengagement as a central feature.

 

[Iwanttolookbetter-1]

Her mother died and she isn't capable of anything. She can't be happy. We tried but it didn't work. She told me she still loves me, and maybe we can get back togheter when things get better. She really means everything to me. I have 96 photos of her in my cameraroll. I feel sick. She has been my world, how am I supposed to let go?

I’m sorry for you and her loss the most you can do is wait it’s the most gut wrenching feeling ever however if you truly as a person believe that she means enough for you to wait and help her then it means that your a good man so do your best and try help or give her space it may hurt but if you believe it’s worth it then you will

 

[iwannasleeponurlap]

Her mother died and she isn't capable of anything. She can't be happy. We tried but it didn't work. She told me she still loves me, and maybe we can get back togheter when things get better. She really means everything to me. I have 96 photos of her in my cameraroll. I feel sick. She has been my world, how am I supposed to let go?

horrible replies
if she still loves you and you can get back together later
then just wait and stick with her

 

[emogymmaxx]

No studies needed when the burden is upon you. "Common sense" doesn't apply to psychology in most contexts, it's the worst thing that can/could be applied.

Anyways, I took time to actually find the sources! Waiting for your reply calling it GPT, inaccurate, or something of that sort.

Acute grief is the clinical term for the first weeks and months following sudden loss. It is a documented disruption of cognitive, emotional, and relational functioning. Mary-Frances O'Connor's neuroscience work (The Grieving Brain, 2022) describes the bereaved brain as failing to update a model of reality in which the deceased was a permanent fixture. Reward processing, executive function, the attachment system, still built on someone who is no longer there worsen.

Stroebe and Schut's Dual Process Model, the dominant framework in contemporary bereavement research, describes grieving people as switching involuntarily between confronting the loss and attempting to resume daily life. Neither state is stable. The capacity to function as a romantic partner requires a coherent self & during acute grief there isn't one to give. Worden's tasks of mourning explicitly identify withdrawal from external demands as part of the work of mourning. Holly Prigerson's research, which produced the diagnostic criteria for Prolonged Grief Disorder now in the DSM-5-TR, documents this disengagement as a central feature.

your entire argument is that the partner going through grief is putting on a act infront of their partner they need to upkeep

 

[neckhurt]

find another slut

preferably with an already dead mother so you don't have to go through this again

No one like her

 

[neckhurt]

I’m sorry for you and her loss the most you can do is wait it’s the most gut wrenching feeling ever however if you truly as a person believe that she means enough for you to wait and help her then it means that your a good man so do your best and try help or give her space it may hurt but if you believe it’s worth it then you will

God bless you

 

[neckhurt]

No studies needed when the burden is upon you. "Common sense" doesn't apply to psychology in most contexts, it's the worst thing that can/could be applied.

Anyways, I took time to actually find the sources! Waiting for your reply calling it GPT, inaccurate, or something of that sort.

Acute grief is the clinical term for the first weeks and months following sudden loss. It is a documented disruption of cognitive, emotional, and relational functioning. Mary-Frances O'Connor's neuroscience work (The Grieving Brain, 2022) describes the bereaved brain as failing to update a model of reality in which the deceased was a permanent fixture. Reward processing, executive function, the attachment system, still built on someone who is no longer there worsen.

Stroebe and Schut's Dual Process Model, the dominant framework in contemporary bereavement research, describes grieving people as switching involuntarily between confronting the loss and attempting to resume daily life. Neither state is stable. The capacity to function as a romantic partner requires a coherent self & during acute grief there isn't one to give. Worden's tasks of mourning explicitly identify withdrawal from external demands as part of the work of mourning. Holly Prigerson's research, which produced the diagnostic criteria for Prolonged Grief Disorder now in the DSM-5-TR, documents this disengagement as a central feature.

Mirin

 

[topology]

your entire argument is that the partner going through grief is putting on a act infront of their partner they need to upkeep

Nowhere does it say being a partner is a performance. It says being a partner is a capacity. The ability to show up, reciprocate, plan, receive care, sustain closeness. Those are functions and not acts. Grief impairs those functions. That is not the same claim as "relationships are theatre and she got tired of performing." It is the claim that relationships require a working self, and acute grief temporarily disables the working self.

The distinction matters as a performance is something you choose to put on or drop. A capacity is something you either have access to or you don't. The studies you so wanted -- O'Connor, Stroebe and Schut, Worden, Prigerson -- describes grief as just that. That is why withdrawal during acute grief is read as honest rather than "lies" such you claim as truth. She stopped doing the thing she could no longer do, and said so. A person performing a relationship would have kept performing. She didn't, because there was nothing left to perform with.

 

[emogymmaxx]

It is the claim that relationships require a working self, and acute grief temporarily disables the working self.

they dont

 

[EvilSatanArseRapist]

I have 96 photos of her in my cameraroll.

96? Rookie numbers..

Jokes aside, i know how horrible this is.
Don't sh, don't do stupid shit, everything passes, it all gets better.

If you need to talk i can try to do so, i don't guarantee anything.

You at least have the outlook of possibly getting back together tho... ig.. or atleast that's what you said..

 

[kisslessvirgin]

No one like her

then rot here for the rest of eternity

 

[topology]

they dont

You have been logically debunked, your reputation has been ruined.

 

[emogymmaxx]

You have been logically debunked, your reputation has been ruined.

LMFAOOO no it hasn’t, i just gave up on trying to talk relationships with a autistic trucel, get your head out of your ass and off the site boyo

 

[emogymmaxx]

You have been logically debunked, your reputation has been ruined.

but awhhh you think i have a reputation do you really mean it

 

[Stargazer]

Her mother died and she isn't capable of anything. She can't be happy. We tried but it didn't work. She told me she still loves me, and maybe we can get back togheter when things get better. She really means everything to me. I have 96 photos of her in my cameraroll. I feel sick. She has been my world, how am I supposed to let go?

damn nigga idgaf