My Girlfriend Cheated on Me (first post in awhile)

[Oxygen]

Please. I'm laying here on my bed sobbing like a child for the first time in years. After i caught her liking tom hollands posts on instagram she kept making excuses for hours and saying "idk".

She finally admitted it after i threatened to break up and caught her tied up in multiple lies red handed saying it was just because of the new movie but then she liked other posts that have nothing to do with them.

She said she still had a hint of attraction to him since he was an old celebrity crush.

She apologized the entire time but said it wasnt because she liked him but now she admitted to it what am i supposed to do. It's not like she slept with another man but i caught her in lies about her true intentions and only admitted when i threatened to break up like it was damage control. She says she has no more attraction to him and she knew i was the one the day she asked me out and the whole nine yards.

For additional context, the liking of posts goes back to like 8 months ago, but i only figured out about it now

The issue is she comes from a very wealthy background and her parents are the only shot i have of being rich.

I need a logical conclusion for my next steps, and since this situation deals with attraction, I wanted to get perspectives from folks on a bp site.

Also, all this happened over text so thats how i plan to communicate next.

Please, help me

 

[JoeNutz]

Consider yourself lucky if liking a celebs photos who will never entertain her is the worst thing you have to deal with, she knows better now

 

[BigBallsLarry]

This definitely isn't as bad as you think it is..

I like posts of different girls that i think are cool and do cool things, my girlfriend as a metal fan often likes and follows other guys that make metal music (for example slash from guns n' roses or peter steele). I don't see anything wrong in this.

As long as she made it clear that there's no physical attraction/lust going on, then it's okay. But if she's truly lusting for another man, then that's a dealbreaker for me.

 

[lucifer88]

youre stupid bro

 

[jeff22]

U

Please. I'm laying here on my bed sobbing like a child for the first time in years. After i caught her liking tom hollands posts on instagram she kept making excuses for hours and saying "idk".

She finally admitted it after i threatened to break up and caught her tied up in multiple lies red handed saying it was just because of the new movie but then she liked other posts that have nothing to do with them.

She said she still had a hint of attraction to him since he was an old celebrity crush.

She apologized the entire time but said it wasnt because she liked him but now she admitted to it what am i supposed to do. It's not like she slept with another man but i caught her in lies about her true intentions and only admitted when i threatened to break up like it was damage control. She says she has no more attraction to him and she knew i was the one the day she asked me out and the whole nine yards.

For additional context, the liking of posts goes back to like 8 months ago, but i only figured out about it now

The issue is she comes from a very wealthy background and her parents are the only shot i have of being rich.

I need a logical conclusion for my next steps, and since this situation deals with attraction, I wanted to get perspectives from folks on a bp site.

Also, all this happened over text so thats how i plan to communicate next.

Please, help me

Ur such a pussy bro

 

[carljung]

actually based, anyone thats fine with it is a closeted cuck.

 

[vernier]

Small dick energy

 

[greycellbrill]

lmao chillout bro, one of my ex's fucked someone else and i found out by going through her phone saw the proof firsthand, you'll be fine. But leave her nigga that's just the first part of it becoming physical.

 

[PrettyLights]

what the fuck are you scared for tho ? its just tom holland

 

[Jagged0]

what the fuck are you scared for tho ? its just tom holland

Lol like Tom holland is going to travel to OP’s bumfuck town or city in the middle of nowhere for his average looking gf

 

[flows5991]

you are CUCK BEAT HER TO DEATH

 

[PrettyLights]

Lol like Tom holland is going to travel to OP’s bumfuck town or city in the middle of nowhere for his average looking gf

and even if tom for whatever reason decided to dm and offer to fly her out. imagine throwing away your 1+ year relationship for the fucking neighborhood spiderman, i'd be livid

 

[Oxygen]

This definitely isn't as bad as you think it is..

I like posts of different girls that i think are cool and do cool things, my girlfriend as a metal fan often likes and follows other guys that make metal music (for example slash from guns n' roses or peter steele). I don't see anything wrong in this.

As long as she made it clear that there's no physical attraction/lust going on, then it's okay. But if she's truly lusting for another man, then that's a dealbreaker for me.

Well thats the point she said she "had" feelings for him during us dating

 

[Oxygen]

youre stupid bro

elab

 

[BigBallsLarry]

Well thats the point she said she "had" feelings for him during us dating

How old are you guys? If below 18 then it's understandable for a person to be confused with their feelings, as long as it's okay NOW then i wouldn't write her off just yet -- especially if you've been doing well for 8+ months.

But if she continues to be attracted to other men, then you know what to do. Worst case scenario you become a cuck.

 

[darkness97]

hoping that this post isn't real. it's really not that big of a deal bro. she literally didn't do anything. you crashed out over literally nothing. you're just simply not ready for a relationship.

 

[Oxygen]

Lol like Tom holland is going to travel to OP’s bumfuck town or city in the middle of nowhere for his average looking gf

@PrettyLights

Yall are so clueless. I'm not scared tom holland is coming here to steal my girl. I'm scared she is attracted to him OVER me. The whole point of a successful relationship is when both sides are attracted to each other physically and are satisfied enough to not like posts from someone you have a crush on. If i can conclude she isnt happy with my looks then i can conclude the relationship is over

 

[Oxygen]

How old are you guys? If below 18 then it's understandable for a person to be confused with their feelings, as long as it's okay NOW then i wouldn't write her off just yet -- especially if you've been doing well for 8+ months.

But if she continues to be attracted to other men, then you know what to do. Worst case scenario you become a cuck.

we're both college-aged and in college

 

[Terrortheplug]

Nigga all this because she liked some celebrities post get a grip nigga

 

[Oxygen]

hoping that this post isn't real. it's really not that big of a deal bro. she literally didn't do anything. you crashed out over literally nothing. you're just simply not ready for a relationship.

If she consciously hit like on multiple pictures of tom holland (she admitted to having the romantical feels for him) while we were dating, that seems like nothing to you?

 

[PrettyLights]

@PrettyLights

Yall are so clueless. I'm not scared tom holland is coming here to steal my girl. I'm scared she is attracted to him OVER me. The whole point of a successful relationship is when both sides are attracted to each other physically and are satisfied enough to not like posts from someone you have a crush on. If i can conclude she isnt happy with my looks then i can conclude the relationship is over

i think you should stay in the relationship with her because i want to see how this plays out

 

[Mythicos]

You need to get the bag my nigga

 

[Oxygen]

Nigga all this because she liked some celebrities post get a grip nigga

I get that it seems like im overreacting but this is a HUGE sign im in an oofy doofy relationship

 

[flows5991]

. Worst case scenario you become a cuck.

HE IS CUCK .WHITE BOYS GONE TOO SOFT

 

[greycellbrill]

I get that it seems like im overreacting but this is a HUGE sign im in an oofy doofy relationship

u are gonna be one nigga, it's in ur best interest to heed my advice

 

[darkness97]

If she consciously hit like on multiple pictures of tom holland (she admitted to having the romantical feels for him) while we were dating, that seems like nothing to you?

yes. i mean is she inconsiderate? yes. annoying? yes. if you have communicated to her that it bothers you and then she did it anyway then you are a bit more justified. but understand you broke up with her not because she was cheating but for not respecting your boundaries.

her romantic feelings for tom holland aren't even real. they are imagined. she has no real relationship with him. women read fantasy novels all the time and can feel attraction for others. you probably do or will at some point feel some sort of attraction to other women. that's completely normal. what actually matters, is what they actually do.

 

[xzylecrey]

Tom holland out of everyone

 

[tyquese]

Worst case scenario you become a cuck.

i wouldnt necessarily call that worst case scenario

 

[tyquese]

If she consciously hit like on multiple pictures of tom holland (she admitted to having the romantical feels for him) while we were dating, that seems like nothing to you?

at first i thought this thread was dumb more i read i understand u more, tell me u broke up with her atleast for ur own self respect

 

[spongebobsex]

hatefuck her and inpregnate her so she can pay you child support

 

[yochico_yojordan]

Please. I'm laying here on my bed sobbing like a child for the first time in years. After i caught her liking tom hollands posts on instagram she kept making excuses for hours and saying "idk".

She finally admitted it after i threatened to break up and caught her tied up in multiple lies red handed saying it was just because of the new movie but then she liked other posts that have nothing to do with them.

She said she still had a hint of attraction to him since he was an old celebrity crush.

She apologized the entire time but said it wasnt because she liked him but now she admitted to it what am i supposed to do. It's not like she slept with another man but i caught her in lies about her true intentions and only admitted when i threatened to break up like it was damage control. She says she has no more attraction to him and she knew i was the one the day she asked me out and the whole nine yards.

For additional context, the liking of posts goes back to like 8 months ago, but i only figured out about it now

The issue is she comes from a very wealthy background and her parents are the only shot i have of being rich.

I need a logical conclusion for my next steps, and since this situation deals with attraction, I wanted to get perspectives from folks on a bp site.

Also, all this happened over text so thats how i plan to communicate next.

Please, help me

There was a time in my life when I was this insecure and retarded.

 

[Deleted member 261019]

Please. I'm laying here on my bed sobbing like a child for the first time in years. After i caught her liking tom hollands posts on instagram she kept making excuses for hours and saying "idk".

She finally admitted it after i threatened to break up and caught her tied up in multiple lies red handed saying it was just because of the new movie but then she liked other posts that have nothing to do with them.

She said she still had a hint of attraction to him since he was an old celebrity crush.

She apologized the entire time but said it wasnt because she liked him but now she admitted to it what am i supposed to do. It's not like she slept with another man but i caught her in lies about her true intentions and only admitted when i threatened to break up like it was damage control. She says she has no more attraction to him and she knew i was the one the day she asked me out and the whole nine yards.

For additional context, the liking of posts goes back to like 8 months ago, but i only figured out about it now

The issue is she comes from a very wealthy background and her parents are the only shot i have of being rich.

I need a logical conclusion for my next steps, and since this situation deals with attraction, I wanted to get perspectives from folks on a bp site.

Also, all this happened over text so thats how i plan to communicate next.

Please, help me

its over bro stop

 

[Oxygen]

her romantic feelings for tom holland aren't even real. they are imagined. she has no real relationship with him. women read fantasy novels all the time and can feel attraction for others. you probably do or will at some point feel some sort of attraction to other women. that's completely normal. what actually matters, is what they actually do.

The issue I should've highlighted is that my fear is she isn't satisfied with my looks and her liking posts from her celebrity crush is her outlet for that. If that is true, this is the beginning of the end because she is not happy with just me.

I do know that people in relationships can understand that someone else is attractive and they can feel that. The issue is she acted on it (god knows what she would've actually done if tom holland approached her ropeful) AND she acted on it after saying she didnt care about it anymore. so she basically reverted and now im supposed to act like its no big deal. It's a pattern and not just something i can brush off as she is still satisfied with me

 

[Oxygen]

at first i thought this thread was dumb more i read i understand u more, tell me u broke up with her atleast for ur own self respect

I didn't because her bodycount is super low and her family is rich and shes hot. To be honest I would've if i had better options but I'm setting up a bunch of rules and demanding rational explanations so I can salvage this because if it truly isnt as bad as i think it is, it might be worth saving.

What do you think?

 

[Oxygen]

its over bro stop

elab please whys it completely over

 

[Coolman788]

Get a grip. Don’t get all worked up over something like that, and don’t worry, I highly doubt Tom Holland is about to show up and steal your girl.

 

[Laqi]

Please. I'm laying here on my bed sobbing like a child for the first time in years. After i caught her liking tom hollands posts on instagram she kept making excuses for hours and saying "idk".

She finally admitted it after i threatened to break up and caught her tied up in multiple lies red handed saying it was just because of the new movie but then she liked other posts that have nothing to do with them.

She said she still had a hint of attraction to him since he was an old celebrity crush.

She apologized the entire time but said it wasnt because she liked him but now she admitted to it what am i supposed to do. It's not like she slept with another man but i caught her in lies about her true intentions and only admitted when i threatened to break up like it was damage control. She says she has no more attraction to him and she knew i was the one the day she asked me out and the whole nine yards.

For additional context, the liking of posts goes back to like 8 months ago, but i only figured out about it now

The issue is she comes from a very wealthy background and her parents are the only shot i have of being rich.

I need a logical conclusion for my next steps, and since this situation deals with attraction, I wanted to get perspectives from folks on a bp site.

Also, all this happened over text so thats how i plan to communicate next.

Please, help me

Retarded subhuman you should be castrated with subhumans who inflected that idea in you. Get her back and live your life on easy mode, fucking retard

 

[Oxygen]

Get a grip. Don’t get all worked up over something like that, and don’t worry, I highly doubt Tom Holland is about to show up and steal your girl.

The issue isn't i think he's actually coming here. The issue is the attraction she engaged with. She's not physically satisfied with me alone that means. According to your logic, it doesnt make sense for anyone to worry about any level/intensity of celebrity crush. I find an issue with the fundamental aspect of her attraction to me being overtaken and her acting on it is a sign im an oofy doofy.

Thoughts?

 

[Coolman788]

The issue isn't i think he's actually coming here. The issue is the attraction she engaged with. She's not physically satisfied with me alone that means. According to your logic, it doesnt make sense for anyone to worry about any level/intensity of celebrity crush. I find an issue with the fundamental aspect of her attraction to me being overtaken and her acting on it is a sign im an oofy doofy.

Thoughts?

I get you. It’s not about him showing up, it’s her being that into someone else. When your girl entertains that, it makes you feel like you’re not enough for her but the bag gotta be the priority here.

 

[Oxygen]

Retarded subhuman you should be castrated with subhumans who inflected that idea in you. Get her back and live your life on easy mode, fucking retard

I can see why you say that. I understand I shouldn't be ungrateful for what I was given, I'm just assessing the basis of every healthy relationship, which is attraction. I just need to know if she's genuinely attracted to me and fully satisfied. If she was, I dont know why she would do what she did instead of just scrolling. If there isnt attraction then it's important for me to know

 

[Oxygen]

I get you. It’s not about him showing up, it’s her being that into someone else. When your girl entertains that, it makes you feel like you’re not enough for her but the bag gotta be the priority here.

Thanks but yeah I'm def motivated by the money but do you think my feeling about the attraction bit and not physically satisfying her looks-wise is legit or nah

 

[Coolman788]

Thanks but yeah I'm def motivated by the money but do you think my feeling about the attraction bit and not physically satisfying her looks-wise is legit or nah

It’s a bit of both. She shouldn’t be doing that, but you also don’t need to overreact. In the end it's ur choice on whether or not u want to continue the relationship.

 

[LTNUser]

Holy fuck
It took me 5 minutes to reach down
@registerfasterusing this site is so ass

 

[Deleted member 276784]

I mean it all starts from liking celebs photos/ having feelings for them. Over time shit will evolve into her liking others IRL and having a higher probability she will cheat on you. Don't break up immediately over this shit but your actions will determine if she will still like you in the future.

 

[tyquese]

I didn't because her bodycount is super low and her family is rich and shes hot. To be honest I would've if i had better options but I'm setting up a bunch of rules and demanding rational explanations so I can salvage this because if it truly isnt as bad as i think it is, it might be worth saving.

What do you think?

i think its good u stayed shes rich and good looking so what else could u want? i think u should learn to not care when she has celebrity crushes cus its gonna be extremely rare if she even meets one in her life

 

[Oxygen]

I mean it all starts from liking celebs photos/ having feelings for them. Over time shit will evolve into her liking others IRL and having a higher probability she will cheat on you. Don't break up immediately over this shit but your actions will determine if she will still like you in the future.

The crazy part is that she first did it 3 months into the relationship (march 16, 2024), then octobor 2024, then august 2025. Basically whenever he popped up she liked his posts and this all happened as we were dating. She did admit to still having some sort of feelings which is why she liked those posts and why she fed into the celebrity crush thing.

I wonder what you mean by my actions will determine if she will still like me? What actions should I take and what to avoid? Thanks

 

[Deleted member 276784]

The crazy part is that she first did it 3 months into the relationship (march 16, 2024), then octobor 2024, then august 2025. Basically whenever he popped up she liked his posts and this all happened as we were dating. She did admit to still having some sort of feelings which is why she liked those posts and why she fed into the celebrity crush thing.

I wonder what you mean by my actions will determine if she will still like me? What actions should I take and what to avoid? Thanks

I once read some guys gf had a gc with other women and they wanted to break him by doing tests to see if hes loyal and I know he stood his ground and shit but not like some stoic cold fucker rather he knew he has to take what she tried to do seriously and if he loses the respect she has for him its over and she starts doing shit in relationships that normally women dont. ( Can go the same for a woman type situation) but basically he told her respect is needed and shit they talked it through and at the end the relationship was even stronger.

 

[Deleted member 276784]

The crazy part is that she first did it 3 months into the relationship (march 16, 2024), then octobor 2024, then august 2025. Basically whenever he popped up she liked his posts and this all happened as we were dating. She did admit to still having some sort of feelings which is why she liked those posts and why she fed into the celebrity crush thing.

In my opinion talking to her is the best thing to do, don't hide or sugarcoat shit. Say it bothers you that shes liking them talk to her why shes doing it when and most importantly how the feelings started and is it something that you are missing so she likes the celebs photos etc. Most important thing is that she understands how it mentally affects you ( not only you but the relationship in general). And when you both understand the root problem, from that point you both try and solve it until the relationship grows even stronger

 

[Clav's Baseball Cup]

Dnr ur restarted for having a gf

 

[subsaharanmaxxer]

nigga you're acting like an insecure bitch tom holland is not gonna fuck your girl rofl