ElySioNs
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My husband (M26) came out to me (F25) as a femboy and I don't know how to react to it.
My husband started getting into "femboy" porn around 5 months ago, although I thought it was a little strange I didn't think much of it, but then 3 months ago he came out to me as a femboy. He started saying he was "embracing his feminine side" by wearing thigh highs, a skirt, and acting all shy and doing baby talk and talking "wike dis". I find this a bit dehumanizing that this is what he considers femininity.
The biggest problem is, he does this around our two children (ages 4 and 6). I told him I don't feel it is very appropriate to act this way around our kids but he says, in these words, "it's my true self. You're just being judgemental to gender noncomforming people, which is so outdated." He also tells me that it's good to learn from dad that they can be who they want to be.
It becomes embarrassing, he does this when we go to family outings, in front of my parents, and my friends. I've become the laughing stock of my family and friends. I don't know how to deal with who my husband has become.
I can't even bring my husband into restaurants anymore for dates because he always asks them for the kids menu and when they tell him he's too old he throws a temper tantrum. I don't know if something is bothering him and his outlet is dressing up as a femboy and talking like a baby but I can no longer deal with it and I am really starting to consider divorcing him.
I don't have my license because I have epilepsy so my husband goes to pick the kids up from school everyday and both school faculty and students make fun of my kids for the way their father dresses. I have had parents tell me "It is not appropriate to be having your husband pick up your kids from an elementary school in that kind of clothing" Which I am aware of but I live 20 minutes away from the school and I do not want my kids to be walking that long in the winter.
I don't want to hurt him as I still love him dearly and leaving him would hurt me as well but I can no longer stand my kids getting made fun of or myself.
Does anyone have any advice as to what I should do?
My husband started getting into "femboy" porn around 5 months ago, although I thought it was a little strange I didn't think much of it, but then 3 months ago he came out to me as a femboy. He started saying he was "embracing his feminine side" by wearing thigh highs, a skirt, and acting all shy and doing baby talk and talking "wike dis". I find this a bit dehumanizing that this is what he considers femininity.
The biggest problem is, he does this around our two children (ages 4 and 6). I told him I don't feel it is very appropriate to act this way around our kids but he says, in these words, "it's my true self. You're just being judgemental to gender noncomforming people, which is so outdated." He also tells me that it's good to learn from dad that they can be who they want to be.
It becomes embarrassing, he does this when we go to family outings, in front of my parents, and my friends. I've become the laughing stock of my family and friends. I don't know how to deal with who my husband has become.
I can't even bring my husband into restaurants anymore for dates because he always asks them for the kids menu and when they tell him he's too old he throws a temper tantrum. I don't know if something is bothering him and his outlet is dressing up as a femboy and talking like a baby but I can no longer deal with it and I am really starting to consider divorcing him.
I don't have my license because I have epilepsy so my husband goes to pick the kids up from school everyday and both school faculty and students make fun of my kids for the way their father dresses. I have had parents tell me "It is not appropriate to be having your husband pick up your kids from an elementary school in that kind of clothing" Which I am aware of but I live 20 minutes away from the school and I do not want my kids to be walking that long in the winter.
I don't want to hurt him as I still love him dearly and leaving him would hurt me as well but I can no longer stand my kids getting made fun of or myself.
Does anyone have any advice as to what I should do?
