My ideas on BP and the value we place in human connection. (NT is LAW)

[kindinternetman]

I’m going to preface this post by saying I am above avg in looks. I only say this so that y’all understand that I’m going to talk about this topic objectively. And no I’m not sending you a selfie. My findings are based on my experience at an American university of a decent size.

This is the most water post on org but it’s a way of connecting my .org thoughts with the real world around me.

What I was thinking about is the value this community places on romantic and sexual connection with the opposite sex, this is natural of course, as we are a social species, however, I don’t think we place enough value in our ability to form human connection on a basic level.

A lot of users on here who looksmax, Leave behind their Neurotypical-ness for a singular point on the looks scale. And listen. If you reached High htn and above you can probably get away with not being considered NT as long as you are not a freak.

However. a lot of the users here are ascending from ltn to Mtn or maybe even MTN+. Rarely are they even breaking the door to htn. And as such due to the nature of the BP they question their own ability to be accepted whereas they would have been able to socialize at least a little before. (Unless you were always ND and ugly).

Now I have noticed in real life in order to socialize at work or in class, looks don’t matter on the scale that they would if you were trying to pick up a girl (again this thread is water). yes if you are good looking more people will want to talk to you and flatter you but you don’t need to be good looking to socialize as long as you are NT.

So many times I’ve seen MTB-LHTB have fun interacting with high ltns and the guys are proper members of their circle, of course they will never have the chance to date but that’s besides the point. However I will say that from what I have seen sub4s will be bullied directly for trying to join in.

People are unkind, and the lie that we have been told about “everyone maturing when they get older” is bullshit. Don’t count on others to be kind and patient with you. Instead be normal and don’t act anxious around new people. Instead of thinking “I hope I can date one of these girls” or “I hope these guys think I’m cool enough to hangout” think instead of what can bring you and them the most enjoyment out of the current moment. Be curious about others, I’m not saying probe about their life but if they give you information about themselves make an effort to show that you appreciate their trust and willingness to communicate with you.

It is a gift to socialize with other human beings. Don’t waste it if you have it.

 

[kindinternetman]

I’m going to preface this post by saying I am above avg in looks. I only say this so that y’all understand that I’m going to talk about this topic objectively. And no I’m not sending you a selfie. My findings are based on my experience at an American university of a decent size.

This is the most water post on org but it’s a way of connecting my .org thoughts with the real world around me.

What I was thinking about is the value this community places on romantic and sexual connection with the opposite sex, this is natural of course, as we are a social species, however, I don’t think we place enough value in our ability to form human connection on a basic level.

A lot of users on here who looksmax, Leave behind their Neurotypical-ness for a singular point on the looks scale. And listen. If you reached High htn and above you can probably get away with not being considered NT as long as you are not a freak.

However. a lot of the users here are ascending from ltn to Mtn or maybe even MTN+. Rarely are they even breaking the door to htn. And as such due to the nature of the BP they question their own ability to be accepted whereas they would have been able to socialize at least a little before. (Unless you were always ND and ugly).

Now I have noticed in real life in order to socialize at work or in class, looks don’t matter on the scale that they would if you were trying to pick up a girl (again this thread is water). yes if you are good looking more people will want to talk to you and flatter you but you don’t need to be good looking to socialize as long as you are NT.

So many times I’ve seen MTB-LHTB have fun interacting with high ltns and the guys are proper members of their circle, of course they will never have the chance to date but that’s besides the point. However I will say that from what I have seen sub4s will be bullied directly for trying to join in.

People are unkind, and the lie that we have been told about “everyone maturing when they get older” is bullshit. Don’t count on others to be kind and patient with you. Instead be normal and don’t act anxious around new people. Instead of thinking “I hope I can date one of these girls” or “I hope these guys think I’m cool enough to hangout” think instead of what can bring you and them the most enjoyment out of the current moment. Be curious about others, I’m not saying probe about their life but if they give you information about themselves make an effort to show that you appreciate their trust and willingness to communicate with you.

It is a gift to socialize with other human beings. Don’t waste it if you have it.

@shredded4summer @superpsycho

 

[kindinternetman]

I’m going to preface this post by saying I am above avg in looks. I only say this so that y’all understand that I’m going to talk about this topic objectively. And no I’m not sending you a selfie. My findings are based on my experience at an American university of a decent size.

This is the most water post on org but it’s a way of connecting my .org thoughts with the real world around me.

What I was thinking about is the value this community places on romantic and sexual connection with the opposite sex, this is natural of course, as we are a social species, however, I don’t think we place enough value in our ability to form human connection on a basic level.

A lot of users on here who looksmax, Leave behind their Neurotypical-ness for a singular point on the looks scale. And listen. If you reached High htn and above you can probably get away with not being considered NT as long as you are not a freak.

However. a lot of the users here are ascending from ltn to Mtn or maybe even MTN+. Rarely are they even breaking the door to htn. And as such due to the nature of the BP they question their own ability to be accepted whereas they would have been able to socialize at least a little before. (Unless you were always ND and ugly).

Now I have noticed in real life in order to socialize at work or in class, looks don’t matter on the scale that they would if you were trying to pick up a girl (again this thread is water). yes if you are good looking more people will want to talk to you and flatter you but you don’t need to be good looking to socialize as long as you are NT.

So many times I’ve seen MTB-LHTB have fun interacting with high ltns and the guys are proper members of their circle, of course they will never have the chance to date but that’s besides the point. However I will say that from what I have seen sub4s will be bullied directly for trying to join in.

People are unkind, and the lie that we have been told about “everyone maturing when they get older” is bullshit. Don’t count on others to be kind and patient with you. Instead be normal and don’t act anxious around new people. Instead of thinking “I hope I can date one of these girls” or “I hope these guys think I’m cool enough to hangout” think instead of what can bring you and them the most enjoyment out of the current moment. Be curious about others, I’m not saying probe about their life but if they give you information about themselves make an effort to show that you appreciate their trust and willingness to communicate with you.

It is a gift to socialize with other human beings. Don’t waste it if you have it.

Not a fucking molecule

 

[copercel123]

I’m going to preface this post by saying I am above avg in looks. I only say this so that y’all understand that I’m going to talk about this topic objectively. And no I’m not sending you a selfie. My findings are based on my experience at an American university of a decent size.

This is the most water post on org but it’s a way of connecting my .org thoughts with the real world around me.

What I was thinking about is the value this community places on romantic and sexual connection with the opposite sex, this is natural of course, as we are a social species, however, I don’t think we place enough value in our ability to form human connection on a basic level.

A lot of users on here who looksmax, Leave behind their Neurotypical-ness for a singular point on the looks scale. And listen. If you reached High htn and above you can probably get away with not being considered NT as long as you are not a freak.

However. a lot of the users here are ascending from ltn to Mtn or maybe even MTN+. Rarely are they even breaking the door to htn. And as such due to the nature of the BP they question their own ability to be accepted whereas they would have been able to socialize at least a little before. (Unless you were always ND and ugly).

Now I have noticed in real life in order to socialize at work or in class, looks don’t matter on the scale that they would if you were trying to pick up a girl (again this thread is water). yes if you are good looking more people will want to talk to you and flatter you but you don’t need to be good looking to socialize as long as you are NT.

So many times I’ve seen MTB-LHTB have fun interacting with high ltns and the guys are proper members of their circle, of course they will never have the chance to date but that’s besides the point. However I will say that from what I have seen sub4s will be bullied directly for trying to join in.

People are unkind, and the lie that we have been told about “everyone maturing when they get older” is bullshit. Don’t count on others to be kind and patient with you. Instead be normal and don’t act anxious around new people. Instead of thinking “I hope I can date one of these girls” or “I hope these guys think I’m cool enough to hangout” think instead of what can bring you and them the most enjoyment out of the current moment. Be curious about others, I’m not saying probe about their life but if they give you information about themselves make an effort to show that you appreciate their trust and willingness to communicate with you.

It is a gift to socialize with other human beings. Don’t waste it if you have it.

Dnr icl

 

[pepelkant]

 

[BigBoy]

I don’t see the point you’re trying to make tbh. You say looks don’t matter as much when trying to socialize, but then say sub3s get bullied when they try to join. That means looks matter when socializing.

 

[kindinternetman]

I don’t see the point you’re trying to make tbh. You say looks don’t matter as much when trying to socialize, but then say sub3s get bullied when they try to join. That means looks matter when socializing.

I said they don’t matter on the scale they would if you were seeking out a romantic partner. My argument is that we should appreciate our ability to make friends and hold on to that ability instead of getting lost in a BP mindset.

 

[ElMismisimoHDP]

I’m going to preface this post by saying I am above avg in looks. I only say this so that y’all understand that I’m going to talk about this topic objectively. And no I’m not sending you a selfie. My findings are based on my experience at an American university of a decent size.

This is the most water post on org but it’s a way of connecting my .org thoughts with the real world around me.

What I was thinking about is the value this community places on romantic and sexual connection with the opposite sex, this is natural of course, as we are a social species, however, I don’t think we place enough value in our ability to form human connection on a basic level.

A lot of users on here who looksmax, Leave behind their Neurotypical-ness for a singular point on the looks scale. And listen. If you reached High htn and above you can probably get away with not being considered NT as long as you are not a freak.

However. a lot of the users here are ascending from ltn to Mtn or maybe even MTN+. Rarely are they even breaking the door to htn. And as such due to the nature of the BP they question their own ability to be accepted whereas they would have been able to socialize at least a little before. (Unless you were always ND and ugly).

Now I have noticed in real life in order to socialize at work or in class, looks don’t matter on the scale that they would if you were trying to pick up a girl (again this thread is water). yes if you are good looking more people will want to talk to you and flatter you but you don’t need to be good looking to socialize as long as you are NT.

So many times I’ve seen MTB-LHTB have fun interacting with high ltns and the guys are proper members of their circle, of course they will never have the chance to date but that’s besides the point. However I will say that from what I have seen sub4s will be bullied directly for trying to join in.

People are unkind, and the lie that we have been told about “everyone maturing when they get older” is bullshit. Don’t count on others to be kind and patient with you. Instead be normal and don’t act anxious around new people. Instead of thinking “I hope I can date one of these girls” or “I hope these guys think I’m cool enough to hangout” think instead of what can bring you and them the most enjoyment out of the current moment. Be curious about others, I’m not saying probe about their life but if they give you information about themselves make an effort to show that you appreciate their trust and willingness to communicate with you.

It is a gift to socialize with other human beings. Don’t waste it if you have it.

Dnr, of course being nt is a plus and required atp

 

[BigBoy]

I said they don’t matter on the scale they would if you were seeking out a romantic partner. My argument is that we should appreciate our ability to make friends and hold on to that ability instead of getting lost in a BP mindset.

Many here are sub3

 

[kindinternetman]

Many here are sub3

So sad

 

[davidlaidisme67]

I don’t see the point you’re trying to make tbh. You say looks don’t matter as much when trying to socialize, but then say sub3s get bullied when they try to join. That means looks matter when socializing.

exactly what im thinking. He contradicted himself but maybe hes saying they dont matter after you reach a certain threshold

 

[kindinternetman]

exactly what im thinking. He contradicted himself but maybe hes saying they dont matter after you reach a certain threshold

Thats exactly what I’m thinking. Looks don’t matter at a certain scale. And the scale is much different depending on your goal when socializing. It’s a water thread.

 

[davidlaidisme67]

Thats exactly what I’m thinking. Looks don’t matter at a certain scale. And the scale is much different depending on your goal when socializing. It’s a water thread.

ahh then i agree. Be more clear next time alr take my rep im being generous today

 

[kindinternetman]

ahh then i agree. Be more clear next time alr take my rep im being generous today

Haha thanks.

 

[browncurrycel]

When you understand that girls only view you as "friend material" because of your lack of looks, you subconsciously begin to realise that there is no value in socialising on its own.

I was able to socialise EXTREMELY well in school with both genders. But any girl I spoke with only saw me as a friend. And that is because I was/am ugly.

Tldr: no point in socialising as you won't get sex since u are ugly

 

[kindinternetman]

When you understand that girls only view you as "friend material" because of your lack of looks, you subconsciously begin to realise that there is no value in socialising on its own.

I was able to socialise EXTREMELY well in school with both genders. But any girl I spoke with only saw me as a friend. And that is because I was/am ugly.

Tldr: no point in socialising as you won't get sex since u are ugly

And this is the idea I’m arguing against. If you don’t socialize at all you don’t even fulfill half of our biological duty as a human, we are entrusted with two things, spread our genetics and create tribes and alliances to stay alive.

 

[browncurrycel]

And this is the idea I’m arguing against. If you don’t socialize at all you don’t even fulfill half of our biological duty as a human, we are entrusted with two things, spread our genetics and create tribes and alliances to stay alive.

It's depressing man. It really is.

I want to socialise like a normal looking dude but I can't anymore.
Whenever I have "socialised", I have only been made fun of, bullied, or taken advantage of.

Nobody TRULY wants to be my friend.
This is why the concept of socialising doesn't apply to ugly people.

 

[BigBoy]

It's depressing man. It really is.

I want to socialise like a normal looking dude but I can't anymore.
Whenever I have "socialised", I have only been made fun of, bullied, or taken advantage of.

Nobody TRULY wants to be my friend.
This is why the concept of socialising doesn't apply to ugly people.

Yea same, I’m subhuman so people don’t really like me. But he’s right, you gotta socialize.

 

[superpsycho]

A lot of users on here who looksmax, Leave behind their Neurotypical-ness for a singular point on the looks scale.

i swear i feel like this forum has the concept of neurotypicality all mixed up. is neurotypicality not an innate trait, something that you have to be born with? i just feel like its something you don’t just become or leave behind. you dont just become an autism/aspiecel just by signing up to this forum.

 

[superpsycho]

When you understand that girls only view you as "friend material" because of your lack of looks, you subconsciously begin to realise that there is no value in socialising on its own

brutal Truth nuke. not that i could socialize in the first place though.

 

[kindinternetman]

i swear i feel like this forum has the concept of neurotypicality all mixed up. is neurotypicality not an innate trait, something that you have to be born with? i just feel like its something you don’t just become or leave behind. you dont just become an autism/aspiecel just by signing up to this forum.

No but you do become insecure, and in some cases a looksmaxxers insecurity gets in the way of their social life .