My life has gone down a socially awkward shithole.

[Deleted member 183048]

My life has gone down a socially awkward shithole:
Its gotten to a point my brain is rotting, I cant even talk to a girl anymore, I just cant think of things to say or to ask or anything, It gets so fucking awkward when I start speaking, sometime I will often get ignored if they are getting spoken to via someone else or Im too quiet, I will just make an excuse saying im "tired" or "bored" when this isnt even entirely true, I just say this because I cant think of anything to speak about to anyone anymore. ever since 2020, I sit all day in my room isolated with no communication, maybe a friend will message and I will go out once-twice a week maximum when I dont have school. I havent fapped In a while and Ive erased the image of pornography in my head. And while and im trying my best to looksmax but for what? I cannot speak to anyone without feeling this sense that I am a valueless socially awkward loser, this will happen 8/10 times on numerous occasions, I cant speak to girls that I want because I have no fucking idea what to speak to them about and I dont want to sound boring or weird, I cant speak to family friends either because Its just fucking weird, It seems i have undergone a social demise that has critically effected me, Ive had this trait for a while now and I consistently stutter, fuck up eye contact, lose track of things to say and I will just sit in pure silence for 4 minutes and it just gets so FUCKING awkward.

Can anyone please help me on social skills and help me with what to ask because I see other dudes out there making girls laugh and smile, having GENUINELY interesting convos asking them questions about things, Help me out here please brocels.

 

[kurd]

Just say Whatsup

 

[Deleted member 183048]

Just say Whatsup

I will usually just say that, then the person of the other perspective starts up a full convo, then Ill have nothing to say realistically.

 

[Lefty Rankin]

My life has gone down a socially awkward shithole:
Its gotten to a point my brain is rotting, I cant even talk to a girl anymore, I just cant think of things to say or to ask or anything, It gets so fucking awkward when I start speaking, sometime I will often get ignored if they are getting spoken to via someone else or Im too quiet, I will just make an excuse saying im "tired" or "bored" when this isnt even entirely true, I just say this because I cant think of anything to speak about to anyone anymore. ever since 2020, I sit all day in my room isolated with no communication, maybe a friend will message and I will go out once-twice a week maximum when I dont have school. I havent fapped In a while and Ive erased the image of pornography in my head. And while and im trying my best to looksmax but for what? I cannot speak to anyone without feeling this sense that I am a valueless socially awkward loser, this will happen 8/10 times on numerous occasions, I cant speak to girls that I want because I have no fucking idea what to speak to them about and I dont want to sound boring or weird, I cant speak to family friends either because Its just fucking weird, It seems i have undergone a social demise that has critically effected me, Ive had this trait for a while now and I consistently stutter, fuck up eye contact, lose track of things to say and I will just sit in pure silence for 4 minutes and it just gets so FUCKING awkward.

Can anyone please help me on social skills and help me with what to ask because I see other dudes out there making girls laugh and smile, having GENUINELY interesting convos asking them questions about things, Help me out here please brocels.

Go out and volunteer or some shit. You don't have to explain yourself for being they're and being awkward. For all the other volunteers know you're being forced to do it by the courts for getting in trouble. Infiltrate churches befriending their adherents and think of yourself as a spy. It's a great no strings attached sort of way to learn about people while forcing yourself to interact with them. It's either that or join the military but there's definitely some strings attached there. That's what I did that forced me to learn to go through the motions of charming people.

One thing's for sure. You gotta do something, anything to change your mental situation now. Your inhibitions.

 

[lblamegenetics]

Try communicating while on summer on like ometv or any omegle or just adding random girls on snap trying to talk it takes time but definently will help you

 

[Azim]

how old are you and what are you mainly struggling with in terms of social interaction? overthinking what to say? dont know what to talk about? scared of starting conversations? elaborate

 

[Deleted member 183048]

how old are you and what are you mainly struggling with in terms of social interaction? overthinking what to say? dont know what to talk about? scared of starting conversations? elaborate

Im 15, Ive had this problem since I was 12-13 And coming from me in terms of social aspects it can be just thinking hard and not having any idea on what to say in some social perspectives, I get told I ask too much questions with girls and that I dont start a conversation, how do I start one when she just replies with "mhm" or "yes"? Im also very neurodivergent when it comes to making people around me laugh too, If I had to probably relate to a character socially it would probably be evan from superbad, I consistently fuck up on my words and stutter and then have nothing else to say.

 

[PrettyLights]

Some will it’s neurodivergence. But I think it’s a result of a negative feedback loop

 

[xlimz]

DNR but same

 

[benchmaxxer]

you have high inhibition

 

[BigBoy]

how old are you and what are you mainly struggling with in terms of social interaction? overthinking what to say? dont know what to talk about? scared of starting conversations? elaborate

How do you deal with not knowing what to talk about? What do you do?

 

[Deleted member 183048]

I think I lost all my social skills because my IRL reputation had a downfall so fucking terribly. 4-3 years ago when I was 11-12 years old, so around year 7 (6th grade) I was a popular kid, I was good at sports and I had no issues with social interactions no matter the person. I could hold conversations so fucking easily, around 2021-2022 I was talking to a girl at the time and we got into an argument about something retarded and she leaked pictures of my dick and stuff when I WAS 11 or 12 bro, shit was fucked up, and regardless the entire school found out and started hassling me over this, this was also probably the worst point of my life because of this my anxiety was at its peak and its stuck with me, I also had some fat bitch start a rumor about me too 3 months after I got leaked.

Yeah no after this It was pretty much game over, I stopped hanging around with the most popular friend group, I was alone, I had no friends for around 8 months and I had pretty much forgot how to speak to people, I think this may have been an Issue but the bigger Issue is how do I fix my reputation and fix my social skills.

 

[Azim]

How do you deal with not knowing what to talk about? What do you do?

i mean practice of course but it won't do a lot if you don't have any shared interests with the people your talking to, so either get nt interests if you don't have them already or talk to other people with shared non-nt interests