My mother is telling me to marry in 4 years, how do I tell her no - curries gtfih

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I'm almost done with uni and soon to get a real job at 21, to my parents I am the perfect son, I workout, I have friends and 0 mental illnesses. My older brother overdosed on drugs and survived, but he is mentally fucked up and constantly wants to droogs. So to my mum he won't be getting married. She expects me to marry at age 25/26 and is excited for it.

I don't want this life, I am my own man and I want to make my own path in life. I don't want to go down the arranged marriage path and as I've stated in multiple posts why I am against it, there is 0 chance I will be taking the arranged marriage offer. In 4/5 years time, I will be decently wealthy, ripped and in better shape than 90% of the male population, if she thinks I'm going to settle with some fat islamic cow she is sorely mistaken.

Any of you currybros refused an arranged marriage?
 
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nothing is worst then marriage as a incel in India it's like signing away ur financial personal freedom for a some starfish sex one in a year with ur looks match
 
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I would suggest having a serious talk with her or contact some legal people if your family is pressuring u
 
nothing is worst then marriage as a incel in India it's like signing away ur financial personal freedom for a some starfish sex one in a year with ur looks match
I live in the UK too, I know for a fact my wife is going to be a fucking bitch and will do this starfish sex bullshit. Fuck that tbh, thing is I can't even divorce her for being shit in bed without family getting involved
 
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I would suggest having a serious talk with her or contact some legal people if your family is pressuring u
I had a talk with her saying no, she will probably accept it. But she looked so disappointed. I am tempted to move out and cut all contact tbh, I'm not allowing myself to be pushed into a shitty arragnement. I've been blackpilled beyond belief about women and would rather not marry a fucking stranger who I have no clue about
 
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wdym "starfish sex once in a year"?
nothing is worst then marriage as a incel in India it's like signing away ur financial personal freedom for a some starfish sex one in a year with ur looks match
 
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It's very interesting how other places work
 
oh ok, and why only once a year though?
point being because it was an arranged marriage she never felt any real lust/tingles for him, so she's reluctant to fuck him/feel anyway. That's why women cheat
 
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point being because it was an arranged marriage she never felt any real lust/tingles for him, so she's reluctant to fuck him/feel anyway. That's why women cheat
oh
 
You are 5'5" this is probably your best chance at securing a mate
 
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You are 5'5" this is probably your best chance at securing a mate
objectively false since I've literally dated girls. I'm lifting hard rn, and looksmaxxing.
 
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I'm almost done with uni and soon to get a real job at 21, to my parents I am the perfect son, I workout, I have friends and 0 mental illnesses. My older brother overdosed on drugs and survived, but he is mentally fucked up and constantly wants to droogs. So to my mum he won't be getting married. She expects me to marry at age 25/26 and is excited for it.

I don't want this life, I am my own man and I want to make my own path in life. I don't want to go down the arranged marriage path and as I've stated in multiple posts why I am against it, there is 0 chance I will be taking the arranged marriage offer. In 4/5 years time, I will be decently wealthy, ripped and in better shape than 90% of the male population, if she thinks I'm going to settle with some fat islamic cow she is sorely mistaken.

Any of you currybros refused an arranged marriage?
My entire Christmas break was me arguing with all of my family members that marriage is a bad deal and that I don't stand a chance in the first place anyways. They got mad at me for saying that.
 
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objectively false since I've literally dated girls. I'm lifting hard rn, and looksmaxxing.
respect for giving it your all to combat midget height and pheno failo (y) i hope you never give in, arranged marriages are crime against all men
even if you're desperate at points, the life you'd have with a sub-par, soon to be fat curry girl is nothing you'd ever objectively want
 
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My entire Christmas break was me arguing with all of my family members that marriage is a bad deal and that I don't stand a chance in the first place anyways. They got mad at me for saying that.
based tbh, idk how my family will react to the news I won't be marrying lol
what psl were they?
I'll be real, I'm shit with PSL. My 1st gf everyone was saying she was really cute, maybe PSL 4.5 tbh. Others were PSL 3.75 to 4. Avg to slightly below avg
 
based tbh, idk how my family will react to the news I won't be marrying lol

I'll be real, I'm shit with PSL. My 1st gf everyone was saying she was really cute, maybe PSL 4.5 tbh. Others were PSL 3.75 to 4. Avg to slightly below avg
Im too honest to not speak my mind. I basically just say ill never get married, but then ill add to that - "Maybe someday it'll happen." They respond with - "Oh you'll definitely end up getting married!" Man they are so retarded.
 
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My entire Christmas break was me arguing with all of my family members that marriage is a bad deal and that I don't stand a chance in the first place anyways. They got mad at me for saying that.
are you also curry?
 
respect for giving it your all to combat midget height and pheno failo (y) i hope you never give in, arranged marriages are crime against all men
even if you're desperate at points, the life you'd have with a sub-par, soon to be fat curry girl is nothing you'd ever objectively want
Honestly bro, I'm going to give it my all and become ripped and destroy this idea that curries are born to fail. I know I wasn't given the best hand in life, but I'll keep fighting. I don't want an arranged marriage.
Im too honest to not speak my mind. I basically just say ill never get married, but then ill add to that - "Maybe someday it'll happen." They respond with - "Oh you'll definitely end up getting married!" Man they are so retarded.
Based tbh, my parents are so bluepilled it's stupid. They grew up so religious and closed minded, constantly telling me to "obey the system", I've tried explaining to them the system they love so much doesn't care for the individual but only cares for the system. What is good for the system isn't good for you. They can't wrap their heads around that concept
 
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arab, but i know the struggles of ethnic men in the west
based, I was going to say you're quite knowledgable for a white dude, but it makes sense you're arab. Did your parents ever tell you to get an arranged marriage?
 
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We'd spent our Christmas on the road. Though that's like sugarcoating compared to my prior Christmases when I was single. Ugh. Waking up sick having a severe pounding headache with naked women in the bed - one in the bathroom smoking crack. Empty liquor bottles everywhere. Beer cans piled up in the kitchen. That's no way to live.

Another Christmas, sitting in jail trying to figure how I got there and why the defensive wounds on my arms.

Another Christmas, sitting behind a slot machine I thought was malfunctioning as the casino manager tells me, "This isn't possible. You hit the jackpot on a bonus round which means a 10 multiplier." Ugh. They didn't want to pay me. Took hours to do so after watching and rewatching surveillance videos of me talking to nobody next to me. But there was somebody. Ugh. They didn't even take my picture for their Prizewinners article. Ugh. Then they told me to leave their casino and never come back. Fucking assholes.

Another Christmas stuck in mud in a strange land with a tent city around me. I was somewhere in Mexico. The people looked happy. But dirt poor.

And that one Christmas with a bag over my head. The Muslim yanked it off and I saw a machete in his hand while other guys around spoke that shitty language. I then spoke Hebrew to them and freaked them out. "I am Halo of the Holy Baron. You do not want to do that." They were shocked that I could speak such an old language. Though I don't remember a single word I uttered. Then I described how each one of them was about to die. A military jet flew over and bombed the entire area. I lived by a miracle. The wall blew over me for protection. Walked away with a few scrapes and cuts. I later told their women they were gay and tried raping me. They believed me. I managed to fuck two of them. Ugh. My kudos.
 
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based, I was going to say you're quite knowledgable for a white dude, but it makes sense you're arab. Did your parents ever tell you to get an arranged marriage?
plenty of times, my father even gives my facebook information to female cousins of mine so that they can chat me up, it's disgusting
 
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I'm almost done with uni and soon to get a real job at 21, to my parents I am the perfect son, I workout, I have friends and 0 mental illnesses. My older brother overdosed on drugs and survived, but he is mentally fucked up and constantly wants to droogs. So to my mum he won't be getting married. She expects me to marry at age 25/26 and is excited for it.

I don't want this life, I am my own man and I want to make my own path in life. I don't want to go down the arranged marriage path and as I've stated in multiple posts why I am against it, there is 0 chance I will be taking the arranged marriage offer. In 4/5 years time, I will be decently wealthy, ripped and in better shape than 90% of the male population, if she thinks I'm going to settle with some fat islamic cow she is sorely mistaken.

Any of you currybros refused an arranged marriage?
Funny man my parents haven't mentioned a word to me abot marriage and I'm 27 lol in Bengali terms I'm 'over the hill' jfl when really I'm better than ever.
Only way is to cut them off unless they understand u , which you will have to explain to them if you are the favourite son, hopefully they understand- however do you want to marry a Muslim girl or marry at all?
They wouldn't accept an atheist girl I doubt
 
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Funny man my parents haven't mentioned a word to me abot marriage and I'm 27 lol in Bengali terms I'm 'over the hill' jfl when really I'm better than ever.
Only way is to cut them off unless they understand u , which you will have to explain to them if you are the favourite son, hopefully they understand- however do you want to marry a Muslim girl or marry at all?
They wouldn't accept an atheist girl I doubt
My parents want me to marry because of the failures of my older brother, he still has a white gf and they know but don't really care. My mother is becoming more aware of my opinions and so does my dad.

I don't think they'd cut me off, and even if they did, it's a risk I'm willing to take. I don't think I could cope with living my life with an arranged marriage to some woman I don't like at all.

I'm not even muslim myself, idk if I can deal with a muslim girl. If she was telling me shit like "don't drink, gamble, do drugs, etc". I can easily agree to that, but if she expects me to pray 5 times a day with my kids, unable to have a discussion around religion or anything. Then no.

I don't want to marry an athiest girl because she will probably drink and smoke, I would preferably want to marry a girl who is into fitness and stuff and doesn't drink or smoke
 
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My parents want me to marry because of the failures of my older brother, he still has a white gf and they know but don't really care. My mother is becoming more aware of my opinions and so does my dad.

I don't think they'd cut me off, and even if they did, it's a risk I'm willing to take. I don't think I could cope with living my life with an arranged marriage to some woman I don't like at all.

I'm not even muslim myself, idk if I can deal with a muslim girl. If she was telling me shit like "don't drink, gamble, do drugs, etc". I can easily agree to that, but if she expects me to pray 5 times a day with my kids, unable to have a discussion around religion or anything. Then no.

I don't want to marry an athiest girl because she will probably drink and smoke, I would preferably want to marry a girl who is into fitness and stuff and doesn't drink or smoke
Yeah I feel u good they know your opinions.

End of the day I feel like the right person needs to appear while you are living your life rather than you go looking for them if that makes sense (eg needs to happen naturally)

I'm not Muslim either like u, and like u I couldn't pray 5 times a day, I can not drink gamble etc easy and I probs won't do that stuff in next 5 years tbh..

Hopefully it works out for you man, at my age it's mentally drained me at times thinking about this shit too. So it's been nice venting to you a bit too bro.
Good you've set boundaries and know what u want
 
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Just turn them down straight up tbh. Curry parents love their kids too much to cut them off. My parents tried to get me to marry this stacylite indian girl but I turned them down cuz I had a becky white gf at that time:lul:

Imo its worth it tho cuz you dont wanna get married to someone who is really into indian culture and has a srick up their ass.
 
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Yeah I feel u good they know your opinions.

End of the day I feel like the right person needs to appear while you are living your life rather than you go looking for them if that makes sense (eg needs to happen naturally)

I'm not Muslim either like u, and like u I couldn't pray 5 times a day, I can not drink gamble etc easy and I probs won't do that stuff in next 5 years tbh..

Hopefully it works out for you man, at my age it's mentally drained me at times thinking about this shit too. So it's been nice venting to you a bit too bro.
Good you've set boundaries and know what u want
I drink and stuff atm, but I only really do it in social settings. I've never felt the urge to crack a beer randomly and normally avoid drinking in most cases since I dislike the health effects lol.

It's mentally draining yeah. My mum is sort of accepting, my dad less so. But the fact is, it's irrelevant what they really think. I want to build a good life first before anything. And I agree with you on the let things happen naturally part.

Just turn them down straight up tbh. Curry parents love their kids too much to cut them off. My parents tried to get me to marry this stacylite indian girl but I turned them down cuz I had a becky white gf at that time:lul:

Imo its worth it tho cuz you dont wanna get married to someone who is really into indian culture and has a srick up their ass.
Yup I agree. Most curries are far too timid to invoke the anger/wrath of their parents. The reality is that most parents won't cut their kids off over stuff like marriages.
 
I drink and stuff atm, but I only really do it in social settings. I've never felt the urge to crack a beer randomly and normally avoid drinking in most cases since I dislike the health effects lol.

It's mentally draining yeah. My mum is sort of accepting, my dad less so. But the fact is, it's irrelevant what they really think. I want to build a good life first before anything. And I agree with you on the let things happen naturally part.


Yup I agree. Most curries are far too timid to invoke the anger/wrath of their parents. The reality is that most parents won't cut their kids off over stuff like marriages.
Yeh drink in social settings eg NYE, but exactly like u hate the health effects and cost of Ubers lmao..

As they know Ur views early I think you'll be okay bro just focus on improving your life as we say! Minimum you want to be fucking one girl say you don't get arranged or have a gf..

My father knows not to cross me coz he knows I'll pack my bags and cut him off, but I'd feel bad tbh so I try avoid confrontation with him
 
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Yeh drink in social settings eg NYE, but exactly like u hate the health effects and cost of Ubers lmao..

As they know Ur views early I think you'll be okay bro just focus on improving your life as we say! Minimum you want to be fucking one girl say you don't get arranged or have a gf..

My father knows not to cross me coz he knows I'll pack my bags and cut him off, but I'd feel bad tbh so I try avoid confrontation with him
My mother and father I guess feel the same way about me to an extent, they know at the end of the day they don't have that much power over my actions and so are fine with me remaining single. They'll probably try to guilt trip me more than anything, which I will resist tbh
 

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