my oneitis misses me & we're getting back together (GTFIH) (HOPEFUEL)

[qrdd]

I got with this girl back in october 2024, we dated for 10 months and had a lot of fun - didnt go past a bit of tit touching tho. She is the year above me in school, funny, so leng and basically exactly my type.
I always cared about her so much and was blinded by how much i liked her.

one evening in june 25 her friend texts me and tells me my girl is crying and saying i dont give her enough attention and need to communicate more, i start talking to her friend and realise in the moment that my ex never asks me how I am etc, never communicates.

the situation was resolved but me and the friend started to talk more and more, and she made me actually realise that my ex wasnt that healthy for me, and was not giving back nearly as much as i was putting in. l didnt end things with her sooner because I was so in love I almost just didnt care, long story short we broke up in august 25 (initiated by her) cus her mental state was bad, she just was putting in so little effort and didnt want to hurt me more, and things just werent working.

I realised its cus we just jumped into the relationship, and didnt get to know eachother first, putting in more effort was like shouting at a foreign waiter louder and louder and for some reason thinking they'll understand you if you say it louder. I didnt know what she needed or how to love her specifically and ultimately thats why it ended. At least it taught me how to comminicate and improved my EQ a hell of a lot.


I kept talking to the mutual friend and we became really good friends, she's the only girl I have ever platonically loved & have seen as basically genderless and as just a friend (reciprocated) and we both care about eachother. Since me and my ex broke up, I've had a few relationship things with 2/3 girls (STILL A VIRGIN), and have just broken up with my current girl a few days ago.


The mutual friend went to a concert with my ex a week ago, and they got to talking. the friend asked me if i hate my ex and i said no ofc not she taught me a lot and it was my fault as well for just being overly dogmatic in my approach. I then said i actually kind of miss her, which started about a month ago when I smelt some girl wearing a lot of her old perfume at the train station and i was flooded with memories of us.

She tells me my ex might miss me too and to risk it and message her, and that she's healed a lot. I know she wouldn't say that if she didnt think it would work / be healthy for me so i did. I asked her if she wants to be friends first this time and then look into a relationship since we both have a lot going on and she needs more time to heal. she replied a few hours ago and said yes. I cant wait to actually get to know her properly now (feels weird to say after everything) and hopefully we can be healthy tg in a few months time


p.s
she has not been with any other guys in that time lets go im not a cuck bhais

 

[ToDelirium]

Are u like waiting till marriage or something

 

[Dancin]

I got with this girl back in october 2024, we dated for 10 months and had a lot of fun - didnt go past a bit of tit touching tho. She is the year above me in school, funny, so leng and basically exactly my type.
I always cared about her so much and was blinded by how much i liked her.

one evening in june 25 her friend texts me and tells me my girl is crying and saying i dont give her enough attention and need to communicate more, i start talking to her friend and realise in the moment that my ex never asks me how I am etc, never communicates.

the situation was resolved but me and the friend started to talk more and more, and she made me actually realise that my ex wasnt that healthy for me, and was not giving back nearly as much as i was putting in. l didnt end things with her sooner because I was so in love I almost just didnt care, long story short we broke up in august 25 (initiated by her) cus her mental state was bad, she just was putting in so little effort and didnt want to hurt me more, and things just werent working.

I realised its cus we just jumped into the relationship, and didnt get to know eachother first, putting in more effort was like shouting at a foreign waiter louder and louder and for some reason thinking they'll understand you if you say it louder. I didnt know what she needed or how to love her specifically and ultimately thats why it ended. At least it taught me how to comminicate and improved my EQ a hell of a lot.


I kept talking to the mutual friend and we became really good friends, she's the only girl I have ever platonically loved & have seen as basically genderless and as just a friend (reciprocated) and we both care about eachother. Since me and my ex broke up, I've had a few relationship things with 2/3 girls (STILL A VIRGIN), and have just broken up with my current girl a few days ago.


The mutual friend went to a concert with my ex a week ago, and they got to talking. the friend asked me if i hate my ex and i said no ofc not she taught me a lot and it was my fault as well for just being overly dogmatic in my approach. I then said i actually kind of miss her, which started about a month ago when I smelt some girl wearing a lot of her old perfume at the train station and i was flooded with memories of us.

She tells me my ex might miss me too and to risk it and message her, and that she's healed a lot. I know she wouldn't say that if she didnt think it would work / be healthy for me so i did. I asked her if she wants to be friends first this time and then look into a relationship since we both have a lot going on and she needs more time to heal. she replied a few hours ago and said yes. I cant wait to actually get to know her properly now (feels weird to say after everything) and hopefully we can be healthy tg in a few months time


p.s
she has not been with any other guys in that time lets go im not a cuck bhais


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[Lefty Rankin]

I got with this girl back in october 2024, we dated for 10 months and had a lot of fun - didnt go past a bit of tit touching tho. She is the year above me in school, funny, so leng and basically exactly my type.
I always cared about her so much and was blinded by how much i liked her.

one evening in june 25 her friend texts me and tells me my girl is crying and saying i dont give her enough attention and need to communicate more, i start talking to her friend and realise in the moment that my ex never asks me how I am etc, never communicates.

the situation was resolved but me and the friend started to talk more and more, and she made me actually realise that my ex wasnt that healthy for me, and was not giving back nearly as much as i was putting in. l didnt end things with her sooner because I was so in love I almost just didnt care, long story short we broke up in august 25 (initiated by her) cus her mental state was bad, she just was putting in so little effort and didnt want to hurt me more, and things just werent working.

I realised its cus we just jumped into the relationship, and didnt get to know eachother first, putting in more effort was like shouting at a foreign waiter louder and louder and for some reason thinking they'll understand you if you say it louder. I didnt know what she needed or how to love her specifically and ultimately thats why it ended. At least it taught me how to comminicate and improved my EQ a hell of a lot.


I kept talking to the mutual friend and we became really good friends, she's the only girl I have ever platonically loved & have seen as basically genderless and as just a friend (reciprocated) and we both care about eachother. Since me and my ex broke up, I've had a few relationship things with 2/3 girls (STILL A VIRGIN), and have just broken up with my current girl a few days ago.


The mutual friend went to a concert with my ex a week ago, and they got to talking. the friend asked me if i hate my ex and i said no ofc not she taught me a lot and it was my fault as well for just being overly dogmatic in my approach. I then said i actually kind of miss her, which started about a month ago when I smelt some girl wearing a lot of her old perfume at the train station and i was flooded with memories of us.

She tells me my ex might miss me too and to risk it and message her, and that she's healed a lot. I know she wouldn't say that if she didnt think it would work / be healthy for me so i did. I asked her if she wants to be friends first this time and then look into a relationship since we both have a lot going on and she needs more time to heal. she replied a few hours ago and said yes. I cant wait to actually get to know her properly now (feels weird to say after everything) and hopefully we can be healthy tg in a few months time


p.s
she has not been with any other guys in that time lets go im not a cuck bhais


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Where to begin?

"I realised its cus we just jumped into the relationship, and didnt get to know eachother first, putting in more effort was like shouting at a foreign waiter louder and louder and for some reason thinking they'll understand you if you say it louder. I didnt know what she needed or how to love her specifically and ultimately thats why it ended. At least it taught me how to comminicate and improved my EQ a hell of a lot."
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Cut this shit out you dumb mother fucker. She broke up with you because you either were no longer attractive to, her or because you're so boring that her attreaction toward you wasn't enough to make her stay.

"I didnt know what she needed or how to love her specifically and ultimately thats why it ended."
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Dude, it's not so deep. It's never been that deep for any relationship in the history of mankind, even though all the girls now a days like to pretend it is. Girs dont need anything, except for you to b a fucking man. Quit letting the propaganda cause you to second guess yourself. Follow your nature as a man. This line of thinking will only have you looking domesticated and confused after everything's said and done. It definitely won't help you to be better with women.







Now here's the only other thing I'll touch on. If you're in a relationship with girl and one of her friends texts you ignore it. Don't even respond. You don't communicate about the nature of your relationship with your girlfriend with any of her friends, PERIOD. And you don't entertain any of your girlfriends' friends trying to talk to ypu about the nature of your relationship with her. Tell them to go fuck themselves with a frozen banana if you have to.

Trust me dude. I'm trying to help you big time. This is your whole life we're talking about, not just these two dumb girls.

 

[Lefty Rankin]

Where to begin?

"I realised its cus we just jumped into the relationship, and didnt get to know eachother first, putting in more effort was like shouting at a foreign waiter louder and louder and for some reason thinking they'll understand you if you say it louder. I didnt know what she needed or how to love her specifically and ultimately thats why it ended. At least it taught me how to comminicate and improved my EQ a hell of a lot."
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Cut this shit out you dumb mother fucker. She broke up with you because you either were no longer attractive to, her or because you're so boring that her attreaction toward you wasn't enough to make her stay.

"I didnt know what she needed or how to love her specifically and ultimately thats why it ended."
个
Dude, it's not so deep. It's never been that deep for any relationship in the history of mankind, even though all the girls now a days like to pretend it is. Girs dont need anything, except for you to b a fucking man. Quit letting the propaganda cause you to second guess yourself. Follow your nature as a man. This line of thinking will only have you looking domesticated and confused after everything's said and done. It definitely won't help you to be better with women.







Now here's the only other thing I'll touch on. If you're in a relationship with girl and one of her friends texts you ignore it. Don't even respond. You don't communicate about the nature of your relationship with your girlfriend with any of her friends, PERIOD. And you don't entertain any of your girlfriends' friends trying to talk to ypu about the nature of your relationship with her. Tell them to go fuck themselves with a frozen banana if you have to.

Trust me dude. I'm trying to help you big time. This is your whole life we're talking about, not just these two dumb girls.

"putting in more effort was like shouting at a foreign waiter louder and louder and for some reason thinking they'll understand you if you say it louder."
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And stop with the semantics. These bitches got you hamstering like a rural gook family grieving the loss of a patriarch. Get a grip.

 

[User28823]

how OP felt after that

 

[Lefty Rankin]

I got with tobirl back in october 2024, we dated for 10 months and had a lot of fun - didnt go past a bit of tit touching tho. She is the year above me in school, funny, so leng and basically exactly my type.
I always cared about her so much and was blinded by how much i liked her.

one evening in june 25 her friend texts me and tells me my girl is crying and saying i dont give her enough attention and need to communicate more, i start talking to her friend and realise in the moment that my ex never asks me how I am etc, never communicates.

the situation was resolved but me and the friend started to talk more and more, and she made me actually realise that my ex wasnt that healthy for me, and was not giving back nearly as much as i was putting in. l didnt end things with her sooner because I was so in love I almost just didnt care, long story short we broke up in august 25 (initiated by her) cus her mental state was bad, she just was putting in so little effort and didnt want to hurt me more, and things just werent working.

I realised its cus we just jumped into the relationship, and didnt get to know eachother first, putting in more effort was like shouting at a foreign waiter louder and louder and for some reason thinking they'll understand you if you say it louder. I didnt know what she needed or how to love her specifically and ultimately thats why it ended. At least it taught me how to comminicate and improved my EQ a hell of a lot.


I kept talking to the mutual friend and we became really good friends, she's the only girl I have ever platonically loved & have seen as basically genderless and as just a friend (reciprocated) and we both care about eachother. Since me and my ex broke up, I've had a few relationship things with 2/3 girls (STILL A VIRGIN), and have just broken up with my current girl a few days ago.


The mutual friend went to a concert with my ex a week ago, and they got to talking. the friend asked me if i hate my ex and i said no ofc not she taught me a lot and it was my fault as well for just being overly dogmatic in my approach. I then said i actually kind of miss her, which started about a month ago when I smelt some girl wearing a lot of her old perfume at the train station and i was flooded with memories of us.

She tells me my ex might miss me too and to risk it and message her, and that she's healed a lot. I know she wouldn't say that if she didnt think it would work / be healthy for me so i did. I asked her if she wants to be friends first this time and then look into a relationship since we both have a lot going on and she needs more time to heal. she replied a few hours ago and said yes. I cant wait to actually get to know her properly now (feels weird to say after everything) and hopefully we can be healthy tg in a few months time


p.s
she has not been with any other guys in that time lets go im not a cuck bhais


View attachment 5552387

Where to begin?

"I realised its cus we just jumped into the relationship, and didnt get to know eachother first, putting in more effort was like shouting at a foreign waiter louder and louder and for some reason thinking they'll understand you if you say it louder. I didnt know what she needed or how to love her specifically and ultimately thats why it ended. At least it taught me how to comminicate and improved my EQ a hell of a lot."
个
Cut this shit out you dumb mother fucker. She broke up with you because you either were no longer attractive to, her or because you're so boring that her attreaction toward you wasn't enough to make her stay.

"I didnt know what she needed or how to love her specifically and ultimately thats why it ended."
个
Dude, it's not so deep. It's never been that deep for any relationship in the history of mankind, even though all the girls now a days like to pretend it is. Girs dont need anything, except for you to b a fucking man. Quit letting the propaganda cause you to second guess yourself. Follow your nature as a man. This line of thinking will only have you looking domesticated and confused after everything's said and done. It definitely won't help you to be better with women.







Now here's the only other thing I'll touch on. If you're in a relationship with girl and one of her friends texts you ignore it. Don't even respond. You don't communicate about the nature of your relationship with your girlfriend with any of her friends, PERIOD. And you don't entertain any of your girlfriends' friends trying to talk to ypu about the nature of your relationship with her. Tell them to go fuck themselves with a frozen banana if you have to.

Trust me dude. I'm trying to help you big time. This is your whole life we're talking about, not just these two dumb girls.

"putting in more effort was like shouting at a foreign waiter louder and louder and for some reason thinking they'll understand you if you say it louder."
个
And stop with the semantics. These bitches got you hamstering like a rural gook family grieving the loss of a patriarch. Get a grip.

"She tells me my ex might miss me too and to risk it and message her, and that she's healed a lot. I know she wouldn't say that if she didnt think it would work / be healthy for me so i did. I asked her if she wants to be friends first this time and then look into a relationship since we both have a lot going on and she needs more time to heal. she replied a few hours ago and said yes. I cant wait to actually get to know her properly now (feels weird to say after everything) and hopefully we can be healthy tg in a few months time"
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This girl is helping her friend set you up to be your ex's pathetic bitch boy for life. To be a dude who she knows will always there, ready to jump into her arms if ever she asks. She never will ask though.

Girls instinctually like knowing they got dudes like that. They need shit like that sitting in the backs of their minds in order to maintain a sense of security. It helps them to keep from completely falling apart in self pity when shit hits the fan and they get their worlds torn from beneath thrm by a guy the were really attracted to. The more the merrier.

You're getting played kid. I've had it tried on me once and seen it happen to others more than I can count.

You need to wake up and smell the decaying pig carcasses. Tell your ex-girlfriend, "Hey, you know what? Thanks for the offer, but on second thought I'm good."

Lastly, she doesn't need any time to heal. And she never did in the first place. She broke up with you, remember? Let's say that wasn't the case. If you were the one to have kicked her to the kurb and boke the girl's heart she'd be over it by now. Girls get over that kind of stuff WAY quicker than us. It's in their circuitry. Hard wired.

 

[Fledermaus]

I got with this girl back in october 2024, we dated for 10 months and had a lot of fun - didnt go past a bit of tit touching tho. She is the year above me in school, funny, so leng and basically exactly my type.
I always cared about her so much and was blinded by how much i liked her.

one evening in june 25 her friend texts me and tells me my girl is crying and saying i dont give her enough attention and need to communicate more, i start talking to her friend and realise in the moment that my ex never asks me how I am etc, never communicates.

the situation was resolved but me and the friend started to talk more and more, and she made me actually realise that my ex wasnt that healthy for me, and was not giving back nearly as much as i was putting in. l didnt end things with her sooner because I was so in love I almost just didnt care, long story short we broke up in august 25 (initiated by her) cus her mental state was bad, she just was putting in so little effort and didnt want to hurt me more, and things just werent working.

I realised its cus we just jumped into the relationship, and didnt get to know eachother first, putting in more effort was like shouting at a foreign waiter louder and louder and for some reason thinking they'll understand you if you say it louder. I didnt know what she needed or how to love her specifically and ultimately thats why it ended. At least it taught me how to comminicate and improved my EQ a hell of a lot.


I kept talking to the mutual friend and we became really good friends, she's the only girl I have ever platonically loved & have seen as basically genderless and as just a friend (reciprocated) and we both care about eachother. Since me and my ex broke up, I've had a few relationship things with 2/3 girls (STILL A VIRGIN), and have just broken up with my current girl a few days ago.


The mutual friend went to a concert with my ex a week ago, and they got to talking. the friend asked me if i hate my ex and i said no ofc not she taught me a lot and it was my fault as well for just being overly dogmatic in my approach. I then said i actually kind of miss her, which started about a month ago when I smelt some girl wearing a lot of her old perfume at the train station and i was flooded with memories of us.

She tells me my ex might miss me too and to risk it and message her, and that she's healed a lot. I know she wouldn't say that if she didnt think it would work / be healthy for me so i did. I asked her if she wants to be friends first this time and then look into a relationship since we both have a lot going on and she needs more time to heal. she replied a few hours ago and said yes. I cant wait to actually get to know her properly now (feels weird to say after everything) and hopefully we can be healthy tg in a few months time


p.s
she has not been with any other guys in that time lets go im not a cuck bhais


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wish my oneitis wasnt a whore