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Prom was tonight. I didn’t go.
Around 7 or 8pm, while prom was happening, I went to the gym to cope. After I finished my session, I ended up sitting in the parking lot.
My body was exhausted, but my head was wired from stimulants. That was when the darkest thoughts hit.
Back in late March I asked my oneitis to prom.
Private. Low-pressure. At school. Planned after weeks of overthinking. I made sure there was no sign, no public spectacle, no cornering her, no weird pressure, no begging.
This wasn’t PUA volume shit. This wasn’t one failed set out of 50. I cared about this, so I didn’t want to fuck it up.
I stacked multiple drugs just to mask the ND hard enough to walk up.
To keep my voice steady.
To hand her the card.
To not give off nervous-freak energy.
I caught up to her after lunch as she was leaving.
Rough transcript from memory:
Later that night she texted me. We started talking back and forth. She said she didn’t know me that well and that she “wasn’t rlly planning on going to prom.”
No soft maybe. No alternate lane. No continuation. Clean closure.
I didn’t text her again after that. I didn’t harass her. I didn’t follow up in person. I accepted it.
Whether she meant it literally or was just letting me down clean, the point was obvious.
There was no lane.
No mockery. No humiliation. No public embarrassment. Just a clean no over text.
She didn’t do anything wrong.
That was the worst part. If she mocked me, I could hate her. If she embarrassed me, I could turn it outward. But she was polite, so the whole thing turned inward.
I don’t have a rotation or a constant social pipeline. “Other fish” doesn’t dilute anything for me because there is no replacement pipeline in my actual life.
This wasn’t some monthly oneitis bullshit. This was the first real oneitis I ever had, and the only girl I actually risked rejection for.
I’ve had a crush on her since junior year. This was senior year, so I finally asked because I wanted to experience something real before I graduated.
Typically I’d never go to any NT school event and just LDAR.
Prom itself was never really prom.
I didn’t care about the event. I cared about whether she wanted me enough to open any lane at all.
Prom was just the only socially acceptable excuse I had to ask without looking random or creepy.
The real question was simple:
Was I ever in the option set?
I wasn’t.
One private ask.
One clean no.
One awkward minute for her.
A month-long loop for me.
For weeks after the ask, I was mostly flat. It would come up sometimes and I’d tear up alone, but there was no full sobbing. Just pressure.
After the gym session today, I sat in the parking lot exhausted and wired.
I thought about the rejection.
The fantasy I built up.
The effort.
The fact that none of it opened a lane.
I had already accepted the answer. But sitting there that night, it stopped being something I accepted and became something I felt.
I started tearing up, but I couldn’t sob properly.
I’ve been taking so much shit lately to cope — beta blockers, downers, uppers, testosterone — that my brain chemistry is probably fucked.
It wasn’t numbness. It was suppression.
I could feel it, but it had nowhere to go.
For weeks, the rejection stayed contained.
A text. A memory. A loop.
Prom night removed the distance.
I didn’t lose her. She was never mine. I lost the last excuse to believe there was ever a lane.
Not blaming her. Not saying she owed me anything. Not asking for pity. Not asking for bluepill “move on bro” advice.
From the outside, this was one polite no. Internally, it felt like the part of me that still thought I could be an option got crushed.
Around 7 or 8pm, while prom was happening, I went to the gym to cope. After I finished my session, I ended up sitting in the parking lot.
My body was exhausted, but my head was wired from stimulants. That was when the darkest thoughts hit.
Back in late March I asked my oneitis to prom.
Private. Low-pressure. At school. Planned after weeks of overthinking. I made sure there was no sign, no public spectacle, no cornering her, no weird pressure, no begging.
This wasn’t PUA volume shit. This wasn’t one failed set out of 50. I cared about this, so I didn’t want to fuck it up.
I stacked multiple drugs just to mask the ND hard enough to walk up.
To keep my voice steady.
To hand her the card.
To not give off nervous-freak energy.
I caught up to her after lunch as she was leaving.
Rough transcript from memory:
Later that night she texted me. We started talking back and forth. She said she didn’t know me that well and that she “wasn’t rlly planning on going to prom.”
No soft maybe. No alternate lane. No continuation. Clean closure.
I didn’t text her again after that. I didn’t harass her. I didn’t follow up in person. I accepted it.
Whether she meant it literally or was just letting me down clean, the point was obvious.
There was no lane.
No mockery. No humiliation. No public embarrassment. Just a clean no over text.
She didn’t do anything wrong.
That was the worst part. If she mocked me, I could hate her. If she embarrassed me, I could turn it outward. But she was polite, so the whole thing turned inward.
I don’t have a rotation or a constant social pipeline. “Other fish” doesn’t dilute anything for me because there is no replacement pipeline in my actual life.
This wasn’t some monthly oneitis bullshit. This was the first real oneitis I ever had, and the only girl I actually risked rejection for.
I’ve had a crush on her since junior year. This was senior year, so I finally asked because I wanted to experience something real before I graduated.
Typically I’d never go to any NT school event and just LDAR.
Prom itself was never really prom.
I didn’t care about the event. I cared about whether she wanted me enough to open any lane at all.
Prom was just the only socially acceptable excuse I had to ask without looking random or creepy.
The real question was simple:
Was I ever in the option set?
I wasn’t.
One private ask.
One clean no.
One awkward minute for her.
A month-long loop for me.
For weeks after the ask, I was mostly flat. It would come up sometimes and I’d tear up alone, but there was no full sobbing. Just pressure.
After the gym session today, I sat in the parking lot exhausted and wired.
I thought about the rejection.
The fantasy I built up.
The effort.
The fact that none of it opened a lane.
I had already accepted the answer. But sitting there that night, it stopped being something I accepted and became something I felt.
I started tearing up, but I couldn’t sob properly.
I’ve been taking so much shit lately to cope — beta blockers, downers, uppers, testosterone — that my brain chemistry is probably fucked.
It wasn’t numbness. It was suppression.
I could feel it, but it had nowhere to go.
For weeks, the rejection stayed contained.
A text. A memory. A loop.
Prom night removed the distance.
I didn’t lose her. She was never mine. I lost the last excuse to believe there was ever a lane.
Not blaming her. Not saying she owed me anything. Not asking for pity. Not asking for bluepill “move on bro” advice.
From the outside, this was one polite no. Internally, it felt like the part of me that still thought I could be an option got crushed.
