JeanneDArcAlter
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My young teen daughter just had her first boyfriend.
He was so lovely to her, reassured her when she was upset. She felt like she had a great friend in him, and really trusted him. Prior to him asking her to date; they had an amazing friendship, and she had her guard down with him.
It was the first time she ever felt butterflys in her stomach over another person. He bought flowers to school for her on her Birthday (this was day 2 of their high school relationship)
She had her first kiss with him. He invited her to dinner at his place with his parents. I spoke with his parents first to ensure our rules/values aligned (and low key; just tried to get a vibe check and ensure she’d be safe) I dropped her off at the door and me him and his parents, with his parents dropping her off home afterwards. They watched a movie in the family room; and had dinner then got ice cream.
He blindsided her and broke up with her after 2 weeks. She was a little heart broken, but also recognises it was two weeks; and it’s high school… He then asked her out again, and apologised… said he broke up with her out of anger, but regretted it afterwards.
She felt like an idiot, and didn’t want to date again. She thought they could still be friends, they had great banter, and she felt that he told her things he didn’t tell anyone else and vice versa.
He rang her yesterday and asked if “instead of dating can you just suck my d!ck” She froze and went silent. He hung up on her.
Today, all of a sudden, after an absence from school this last week - he walked past her at break time and called her a slut in front of a whole crowd of her friends.
My daughter; who would NEVER ordinarily do this - went up to the female vice principal to discuss something unrelated, and then afterwards told her that about how 15 minutes ago, a boy called her a slut. And the teacher half laughed, and said “sorry, I didn’t mean to laugh”
I’m so mad, I’m heart broken for her, but I’m ANGRY. I’m so fucking angry. I’m triggered. Fuck this kid, fuck that ignorant teacher (my daughter reached out for the FIRST time; and you disregarded her?!)
I wish I could fix it.
She just wants me to listen and do nothing, so I will. But I just want to make it better. This is all the bullshit I thought I’d be able to protect my daughters from… and yet; I have to listen from the sidelines.
He was so lovely to her, reassured her when she was upset. She felt like she had a great friend in him, and really trusted him. Prior to him asking her to date; they had an amazing friendship, and she had her guard down with him.
It was the first time she ever felt butterflys in her stomach over another person. He bought flowers to school for her on her Birthday (this was day 2 of their high school relationship)
She had her first kiss with him. He invited her to dinner at his place with his parents. I spoke with his parents first to ensure our rules/values aligned (and low key; just tried to get a vibe check and ensure she’d be safe) I dropped her off at the door and me him and his parents, with his parents dropping her off home afterwards. They watched a movie in the family room; and had dinner then got ice cream.
He blindsided her and broke up with her after 2 weeks. She was a little heart broken, but also recognises it was two weeks; and it’s high school… He then asked her out again, and apologised… said he broke up with her out of anger, but regretted it afterwards.
She felt like an idiot, and didn’t want to date again. She thought they could still be friends, they had great banter, and she felt that he told her things he didn’t tell anyone else and vice versa.
He rang her yesterday and asked if “instead of dating can you just suck my d!ck” She froze and went silent. He hung up on her.
Today, all of a sudden, after an absence from school this last week - he walked past her at break time and called her a slut in front of a whole crowd of her friends.
My daughter; who would NEVER ordinarily do this - went up to the female vice principal to discuss something unrelated, and then afterwards told her that about how 15 minutes ago, a boy called her a slut. And the teacher half laughed, and said “sorry, I didn’t mean to laugh”
I’m so mad, I’m heart broken for her, but I’m ANGRY. I’m so fucking angry. I’m triggered. Fuck this kid, fuck that ignorant teacher (my daughter reached out for the FIRST time; and you disregarded her?!)
I wish I could fix it.
She just wants me to listen and do nothing, so I will. But I just want to make it better. This is all the bullshit I thought I’d be able to protect my daughters from… and yet; I have to listen from the sidelines.
