But do you?
The goal is to understand how dialogue building works when normies do it subconsciously, then replicating it manually with enough practice until it becomes second nature
i have never checked if i am actually ND or just socially awkward or any of the other terms (introvert, ND, awkward, etc)
Why do you think that is exactly?
That's somewhat true to an extent, getting frustrated does make me start to stutter especially if I'm angry but I've found it best to just avoid situations where it's likely to get heated.
He's probably just slightly socially awkward at worst
Tbh having autism isn't always enough to make you unable to fit in, certain individuals are brought up in an environment that responds positively so they still learn to interact with others just fineim 18 khhv with Aspergers and I fit in with normie friends online, irl haven't figured it out yet, but its got a lot to do with appearing socially successful in the first place , + im brown and slightly under average height
I mean sure i can also pass as a normie but you have to constantly put effort into maintaining that image and if you get too drained people might notice, so is that even considered fitting in? neurotypicals are like water they just adapt to whatever situation they're put into without really having to do anything
i'm not a creative thinker, i can't extend a conversation past the material already given (if someone says hi, i say hi, maybe how are you, after that idk what to say back unless they give me a general topic of what we are talking)
Agreed, he speaks as someone who didn't really struggle with it
I am trust me, the moment im next to the opposite sex I just shut down and my vocabulary is limited, I start blushing and everything. Just find a popular friends group, get invited to parties and get drunk there, you can get to know people and then hopefully get better at socialising
But it's all I've ever wanted as a child, watching my peers interact with each other throughout my school years
yeah , there are other factors as well, but if you try and think about how to be considered NT you can generally appear typical to norms and people in spaces where most conversations are fundamentally transactional
This was my exact problem but it was the fault of my parents who religiously fear mongered me into never being knowledgeable about whatever kids were into back then then throwing me into a public school near the end of middle school which felt like being a caged animal thrown into a forest and being expected to function
Correct, everything is biologically transactional but the issue stems from normies not having to consciously build dialogue by stepping into the perspective of the other person in order to choose what the next best move to make which would appeal to someone beyeah , there are other factors as well, but if you try and think about how to be considered NT you can generally appear typical to norms and people in spaces where most conversations are fundamentally transactional
I've been feeling the same way, self isolation is becoming too comfortable and I wouldn't want to lose what I've built
tbh i don't really mind
It's a good thing if you're fine with it being that way, I can't say the same tbh
masking is usually really hard in actual social settings because of those variables you talked about, but if you slowly build up your social understanding through increasingly difficult situations, you should be able to adapt
I can relate to an extent of that but I did manage to finally crawl out of the hole where I had to depend on people to choose me in my adult years, however I've realized that being a normie and having several "friend groups" is equally if not more exhausting and only leads to resentment as you watch them do something you never had given to you naturally
Tbh just working on simmering down my resentment towards normal peoplemasking is usually really hard in actual social settings because of those variables you talked about, but if you slowly build up your social understanding through increasingly difficult situations, you should be able to adapt
a simple way to verify this would be by working up from increasingly conversational settings
for me personally it wasn't about being rejected, i was the one doing the rejecting. i find it nearly impossible to find people with a similar worldview, like on an extreme level. i never had issues with attention from girls but i just rejected everyone because i didn't vibe with them, not sure if that makes me an ND or whatever. i get these random bursts of hatred toward people out of nowhere, they just all get on my nerves and i hit them with a reality check in a pretty brutal way. because of that i have basically no friends left in my life but honestly i think that's a good thing — they were leading me toward self destruction anyway. i'm really shy when it comes to girls. at some point i just realized i have one life and i need to use every opportunity and push through my own limits. i often notice when someone isn't interested or doesn't care but i don't show that i noticed and just keep talking. to push through i built up my self image in my head to this point where i believe i can do everything better than anyone. i forced myself through it, it was genuinely brutal, over 3 years i became more social compared to what i was before. but i wouldn't call myself an extrovert by any means.
slightly off topic from the original post but i'll drop it anyway
You had women approaching you but rejected them out of a principle? Sounds privileged but maybe you might just have some form of chemical imbalance in your brain which barred you from enjoying the gifts life gave you
Because the men in poland are subhuman looking kek
i'm limiting my own life through the fact that i'm scared of women and i'm looking for something like once and forever. i don't consider one night stands a privilege, i find it disgusting.
not every, but mostly id say that they are similar in every aspect of life. 90% are low iq
i'm not insulting the Polish population by any means but it's just a sad truth
