ND Life is HELL.

[trueedgar]

Quick backstory;

I'm 6'2, in college, decent looking. I walk into a room and get attention. From the outside, everything is solid. I've had a small glow up, 6'2 frame, and some presence. I don't feel invisible; I just feel socially rejected.

I'm able to meet people easily, in class, at work, at parties; that's never a problem. I just suck at keeping people. Friends don't stick, women don't stay. I end up feeling alone most days. For a long time, I told myself that I preferred to be alone, but that simply is not the truth. Because if I'm being real, I always distance myself, I am not a consistent person, and I hardly open up. Long story short, I pull back before anything gets real.

Getting attention is easy, but building connections is hard, and I have recently come to the conclusion that I've built my whole life off attention, whether it was saying some dumb shit as a kid, jestering, or glowing up out of nowhere.

I'm starting to realize that personality really does matter, but how does one even change this? Do I just mask my ND for the rest of my life? Idk if anyone feels this way as well, but this shit genuinely sucks as I see my NT friends living their best lives.

 

[manlet67]

if you already have the external stuff why dont you just stop thinking about all this bullshit? ppl who stay here long term mostly get more bitter and you sound pretty content with urself to me.

a neurotypical person would see a therapist

 

[auspicious_mtn]

Something always feels wrong as a nd in social settings unfortunately. Start copemaxxing and it’ll be better soon. Or just blow ur shi schmoove off

 

[81xa]

I'm 6'2, in college, decent looking

stopped reading here

 

[regis_]

are you self-diagnosed? either way you should try your best to build genuine connection with people, spend time with people that you value and that shares the same values as you... if you find yourself jestermaxxing all the time yeah it's time to find real close friend you will be confortable being yourself with

water but if you are in fact diagnosed seeing a therapist seems like a good start, or at least finding someone IRL with whom you can share your thoughts freely

 

[Deleted member 404725]

Quick backstory;

I'm 6'2, in college, decent looking. I walk into a room and get attention. From the outside, everything is solid. I've had a small glow up, 6'2 frame, and some presence. I don't feel invisible; I just feel socially rejected.

I'm able to meet people easily, in class, at work, at parties; that's never a problem. I just suck at keeping people. Friends don't stick, women don't stay. I end up feeling alone most days. For a long time, I told myself that I preferred to be alone, but that simply is not the truth. Because if I'm being real, I always distance myself, I am not a consistent person, and I hardly open up. Long story short, I pull back before anything gets real.

Getting attention is easy, but building connections is hard, and I have recently come to the conclusion that I've built my whole life off attention, whether it was saying some dumb shit as a kid, jestering, or glowing up out of nowhere.

I'm starting to realize that personality really does matter, but how does one even change this? Do I just mask my ND for the rest of my life? Idk if anyone feels this way as well, but this shit genuinely sucks as I see my NT friends living their best lives.

separate yourself from the idea that you are a social reject, for ND people like us, socializing is more of a skill that you must learn than something that comes naturally. I recommend cold approaching random people (smoking cigs helps because it's a common bond you have with people and leads to conversation)

 

[Subhumanclassic]

6ft2 nigga I would genuinely kill my parents for that height