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I've summarized everything with chatgpt but it's accurate. I need advice cus this may be the start of me cold approaching and leaving this forum entirely.
I've developed an interest in a shy, Mediterranean-looking girl who works at a grocery store I often visit. What drew my attention was the strange, nervous energy she seemed to give off whenever I was nearby. She never really held eye contact—if anything, she avoided it entirely. A few times, I caught her glancing in my direction, but she would quickly look away the moment our eyes almost met.
There were no smiles or overt friendliness. Instead, she would walk past me in an exaggeratedly fast way, or I’d notice her acting nervously while stocking shelves—sometimes even fumbling or dropping things. It didn’t feel like warmth, but it definitely felt like heightened awareness or tension around me.
I tried initiating a few small interactions, but she would shut down quickly, which made it difficult to keep any momentum. Still, I kept sensing that strange nervous energy, like she was hyper-aware of my presence but didn’t know how to handle it. It left me unsure whether her behavior stemmed from discomfort or some kind of interest mixed with shyness.
I tried ignoring her after she didnt give eye contact and responded (almost) silently to my hellos. But then she started to grab my attention even more. I get the impression she's either mega shy or autistic. I thought MED people were NT, no?
Wtf should I do. I already have a plan but there's no momentum to build on so it's going to be a cold approach, but Im not used to it.
Slayers please help. This might set the momentum for me to escape out of the IOI zone and get to action.
Also, she's the exact type I get most IOIs from. So my guess is Im her type. She's an international who doesnt even speak the local language, just English.
TLDR:
Shy med girl shows nervous IOIs, but shuts down when trying to interact.
I've developed an interest in a shy, Mediterranean-looking girl who works at a grocery store I often visit. What drew my attention was the strange, nervous energy she seemed to give off whenever I was nearby. She never really held eye contact—if anything, she avoided it entirely. A few times, I caught her glancing in my direction, but she would quickly look away the moment our eyes almost met.
There were no smiles or overt friendliness. Instead, she would walk past me in an exaggeratedly fast way, or I’d notice her acting nervously while stocking shelves—sometimes even fumbling or dropping things. It didn’t feel like warmth, but it definitely felt like heightened awareness or tension around me.
I tried initiating a few small interactions, but she would shut down quickly, which made it difficult to keep any momentum. Still, I kept sensing that strange nervous energy, like she was hyper-aware of my presence but didn’t know how to handle it. It left me unsure whether her behavior stemmed from discomfort or some kind of interest mixed with shyness.
I tried ignoring her after she didnt give eye contact and responded (almost) silently to my hellos. But then she started to grab my attention even more. I get the impression she's either mega shy or autistic. I thought MED people were NT, no?
Wtf should I do. I already have a plan but there's no momentum to build on so it's going to be a cold approach, but Im not used to it.
Slayers please help. This might set the momentum for me to escape out of the IOI zone and get to action.
Also, she's the exact type I get most IOIs from. So my guess is Im her type. She's an international who doesnt even speak the local language, just English.
TLDR:
Shy med girl shows nervous IOIs, but shuts down when trying to interact.
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