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leonas228
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Need advice.
I broke up with my ex. After the breakup, I repeatedly told her I would never come back. I even told her I'd come back "over my dead body." She was devastated and cried for months.
Within the next month she kissed around 5 different guys and later spent a night with another guy after a party. I know, they were physically intimate but they didnt fuck he just fingerd her, but she left later that night without doing something on him etc. Around 5 hours before that happened, I told her once agian i dont care what she is doing and i will never come back etc.
She's part of my friend group, so I ended up hearing about all of this and she told me when we meet up back agian.
The confusing part is that she kept saying she loved me and never really seemed to move on. When I reached out again recently, she immediately cut off all those other idiots and blocked/removed them without me even asking.
We've been talking/seeing each other again for the last 2 weeks, where i know those guys have just been distractions to help her get over me.
For context, I also slept with another girl after the breakup, but it felt completely empty because I couldn't stop thinking about my ex.
I have pretty bad OCD, ADHD and retroactive jealousy, and I can't stop obsessing over what happened while we were apart. She technically didn't cheat since I ended it and told her I was never coming back, but it still eats at me alive she did something with such dumb idiots....
Would taking her back be a mistake, or am I about to throw away the only girl I ever genuinely loved because of my own issues? Tell me is it bad for us what she did with these others?
I broke up with my ex. After the breakup, I repeatedly told her I would never come back. I even told her I'd come back "over my dead body." She was devastated and cried for months.
Within the next month she kissed around 5 different guys and later spent a night with another guy after a party. I know, they were physically intimate but they didnt fuck he just fingerd her, but she left later that night without doing something on him etc. Around 5 hours before that happened, I told her once agian i dont care what she is doing and i will never come back etc.
She's part of my friend group, so I ended up hearing about all of this and she told me when we meet up back agian.
The confusing part is that she kept saying she loved me and never really seemed to move on. When I reached out again recently, she immediately cut off all those other idiots and blocked/removed them without me even asking.
We've been talking/seeing each other again for the last 2 weeks, where i know those guys have just been distractions to help her get over me.
For context, I also slept with another girl after the breakup, but it felt completely empty because I couldn't stop thinking about my ex.
I have pretty bad OCD, ADHD and retroactive jealousy, and I can't stop obsessing over what happened while we were apart. She technically didn't cheat since I ended it and told her I was never coming back, but it still eats at me alive she did something with such dumb idiots....
Would taking her back be a mistake, or am I about to throw away the only girl I ever genuinely loved because of my own issues? Tell me is it bad for us what she did with these others?
