ElySioNs
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Hello DB. I am in a pretty bad situation and maybe you guys can help me out a little.
I've been married to my wife for close to 6 years now and we have never had sex. We met about 7yrs ago and decided to wait till we got married before having sex. After marriage we have tried on numerous occasions to have sex but have failed miserable each time. She complains that it hurts or that she's not in the mood every single time. She has also complained on multiple occasions that I was too big for her which I don't think is the case. We have tried lubes of all kinds. We took vacations literally for this purpose since we both have very stressful work lives. But it's the same story every single time -- either it hurts or that I'm took or that she's not in the mood. She also gets turned off of my breath is not minty fresh or if my nails are even slightly long or even if I have a stubble since it scratches her face.
She also gets turned off if I get any wetness on her face while kissing or if I touch her belly button. The other aspect I find very frustrating is that she never shows any intimacy with the way she touches me or the way she kisses me. She never likes it if I initiate anything outside of the bedroom or if it's not the end of the day.
I tried being as patient and as understanding as I could but about a year back I couldn't take the lack of sex anymore and ended up having an affair that lasted about 3 months. I had some amazing intimacy and great sex for about 3 months. It was something I was so desperate for that I did not even think about what I was doing.
I ended that since I absolutely loved my wife and really wanted to try to make things work with her again. It's been 9 months now and everything is still absolutely the same and I just can't get to have sex with her. She promises to see a doctor or a therapist but never follows through. She has tried a few medical devices to help her get used to penetration but once we get in bed it's just all back to square one again.
I have reached the end of my line and I am in a really bad place. I'm not quite sure what else I can do. I have tried to be very patient and very understanding giving her as much time and space to work on it but I feel like we've made zero progress in over 6 years.
I absolutely love her to pieces and I've supported her through so difficult work period, very difficult parents and family (my family has been very loving and good with her) but I am not able to take the no sex situation anymore. I feel like I'm one weak day away from sleeping with someone else.
Sorry for the long rant but I feel like I'm stuck and no where to go. Any thoughts and advice on what I can do is much appreciated.
I've been married to my wife for close to 6 years now and we have never had sex. We met about 7yrs ago and decided to wait till we got married before having sex. After marriage we have tried on numerous occasions to have sex but have failed miserable each time. She complains that it hurts or that she's not in the mood every single time. She has also complained on multiple occasions that I was too big for her which I don't think is the case. We have tried lubes of all kinds. We took vacations literally for this purpose since we both have very stressful work lives. But it's the same story every single time -- either it hurts or that I'm took or that she's not in the mood. She also gets turned off of my breath is not minty fresh or if my nails are even slightly long or even if I have a stubble since it scratches her face.
She also gets turned off if I get any wetness on her face while kissing or if I touch her belly button. The other aspect I find very frustrating is that she never shows any intimacy with the way she touches me or the way she kisses me. She never likes it if I initiate anything outside of the bedroom or if it's not the end of the day.
I tried being as patient and as understanding as I could but about a year back I couldn't take the lack of sex anymore and ended up having an affair that lasted about 3 months. I had some amazing intimacy and great sex for about 3 months. It was something I was so desperate for that I did not even think about what I was doing.
I ended that since I absolutely loved my wife and really wanted to try to make things work with her again. It's been 9 months now and everything is still absolutely the same and I just can't get to have sex with her. She promises to see a doctor or a therapist but never follows through. She has tried a few medical devices to help her get used to penetration but once we get in bed it's just all back to square one again.
I have reached the end of my line and I am in a really bad place. I'm not quite sure what else I can do. I have tried to be very patient and very understanding giving her as much time and space to work on it but I feel like we've made zero progress in over 6 years.
I absolutely love her to pieces and I've supported her through so difficult work period, very difficult parents and family (my family has been very loving and good with her) but I am not able to take the no sex situation anymore. I feel like I'm one weak day away from sleeping with someone else.
Sorry for the long rant but I feel like I'm stuck and no where to go. Any thoughts and advice on what I can do is much appreciated.
