Next move after meeting a girl IRL – ask directly or DM later?

[4ever]

Let’s say you meet a girl somewhere IRL (school, uni, hobby, work etc.), you talk for a minute or two. Now you want to take the next step.

What’s the best move?

• Wait until you see her again and just ask directly if she wants to grab a coffee / exchange Insta / number?
• Or is it acceptable to just slide into her DMs later if you found her socials or number (because you both are in a bigger WhatsApp group together)?

Where do you draw the line between being confident vs. coming off as weird / stalkerish?

Curious how you guys handle this in 2025.

 

[crazyguy]

Let’s say you meet a girl somewhere IRL (school, uni, hobby, work etc.), you talk for a minute or two. Now you want to take the next step.

What’s the best move?

• Wait until you see her again and just ask directly if she wants to grab a coffee / exchange Insta / number?

• Or is it acceptable to just slide into her DMs later if you found her socials or number (because you both are in a bigger WhatsApp group together)?

Where do you draw the line between being confident vs. coming off as weird / stalkerish?

Curious how you guys handle this in 2025.

the former

 

[barambo]

Let’s say you meet a girl somewhere IRL (school, uni, hobby, work etc.), you talk for a minute or two. Now you want to take the next step.

What’s the best move?

• Wait until you see her again and just ask directly if she wants to grab a coffee / exchange Insta / number?
• Or is it acceptable to just slide into her DMs later if you found her socials or number (because you both are in a bigger WhatsApp group together)?

Where do you draw the line between being confident vs. coming off as weird / stalkerish?

Curious how you guys handle this in 2025.

irl mogs

 

[barambo]

Let’s say you meet a girl somewhere IRL (school, uni, hobby, work etc.), you talk for a minute or two. Now you want to take the next step.

What’s the best move?

• Wait until you see her again and just ask directly if she wants to grab a coffee / exchange Insta / number?
• Or is it acceptable to just slide into her DMs later if you found her socials or number (because you both are in a bigger WhatsApp group together)?

Where do you draw the line between being confident vs. coming off as weird / stalkerish?

Curious how you guys handle this in 2025.

my mate had a crush on this gym girl and he was shy so instead of going up to her he found her ig via a friend and started talking. the next day he still wasnt able to talk to her and just sat there like a cuck. the girl instantly lost respect and when he actually tried going up to her she didnt care. they like when youre confrontational

 

[4ever]

irl mogs

the former

Should you rather be direct and ask for socials/ to grab coffee?

Or try to find out stuff about her first, like if she has a bf?

 

[4ever]

my mate had a crush on this gym girl and he was shy so instead of going up to her he found her ig via a friend and started talking. the next day he still wasnt able to talk to her and just sat there like a cuck. the girl instantly lost respect and when he actually tried going up to her she didnt care. they like when youre confrontational

Many such cases ngl

 

[crazyguy]

Should you rather be direct and ask for socials/ to grab coffee?

Or try to find out stuff about her first, like if she has a bf?

try to grab coffee
dont immediately ask her if she has a bf.

 

[barambo]

Should you rather be direct and ask for socials/ to grab coffee?

Or try to find out stuff about her first, like if she has a bf?

finding stuff out is different but still, she'll just say if she has a bf and both of you will move on. also remember, sometimes they js be lying when they say they dont have a bf. so finding it out still wont change much. so irl still mogs

 

[Vazelrr]

I can't give advise,because I reject every foid that wants to have a relationship with me

 

[barambo]

try to grab coffee
dont immediately ask her if she has a bf.

yea exactly she'll just tell you if she does

 

[Vazelrr]

But what i will say is try to know her better

 

[barambo]

I can't give advise,because I reject every foid that wants to have a relationship with me

foids come up to you? mirin

 

[Vazelrr]

foids come up to you? mirin

Ofc bhai,reject them all cause I learned that you should NEVER EVER tell a foid you like her

 

[barambo]

Ofc bhai,reject them all cause I learned that you should NEVER EVER tell a foid you like her

good point

 

[Vazelrr]

Also there is NO golden method that works for everyone,some people might just be direct like "you wanna date" boom kissing the next day and some have to go on multiple dates or spend hours together just to get into a relationship