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First off I'm coming here without a clue of what to do with my roommate.
To provide a baseline:
We did date, and we moved into a 2 bedroom apartment because I assumed she would remain amicable throughout the process. She continuously breaks the rules she set for the apartment, but is upset if I don't follow those rules. She'll leave dishes in the sink, the friends she brings over will leave their mess either on the counter, in the sink, microwave, stove, or fridge. I can barely put any items in the fridge because they're always filled with her expired takeout food. She's stolen a large majority of my cookware including a $200 zojirushi rice cooker, a $400 blender gifted to me from my mom, multiple pots and pans as well as glass dishes.
I don't want to stoop to her level because I know that's what she wants and I'm a 6'2" 190 lb guy and she's 5'3" and 95 lbs so I know how that's going to play out at face value. We've had verbal disagreements that led to her biting me, dumping out my shower gel and shampoo, leaving expired potatoes in my room with maggots while I was on vacation just to return to a room full of flies and other winged beasts. She even texted me "I will inconvenience you as long as you inconvenience me." Once again, she constantly sets rules that she breaks and expects me to follow them without complaint, and when I bring up these issues she plays victim and tries to gaslight me. She even accused me of drugging her dog, yet she still leaves him at home with me (I WFH), even though she has a Rolodex of people who have no problem watching over her dog for free and will even pick up the dog for logistics sake.
I've tried talking to my leasing office via email and in person and I'm getting the feeling they don't really care. I'm a year and a half into a 2 year lease and I want to just ride it out, but I've been depressed the entire time I've lived here. I feel like I'm living with a lunatic that plays victim and actively dodges accountability. No matter how many conversations or what rules we agree on, I follow them and then boom I'm the only one who is cleaning the house. Since she bought the trash can she bars me from using it, she'll take my trash out and put it in my room or on my bed. She hogs all the kitchen space to the point where I can't even store kitchenware and when I confront her, she says "you don't even have cookware", but she's the one who is stealing them and acting oblivious when I ask.
I don't even know what I did to deserve all of this, I only ask her to be realistic and follow through with what she says she's going to do. It's a vicious cycle of us speaking, coming to a conclusion, then I end up being the only who cleans and when I stop she pops her top and does a deep clean and blames me for everything meanwhile she has expired rice and beans in the oven with expired milk, chicken, and takeout occupying the majority of the fridge space.
To provide a baseline:
We did date, and we moved into a 2 bedroom apartment because I assumed she would remain amicable throughout the process. She continuously breaks the rules she set for the apartment, but is upset if I don't follow those rules. She'll leave dishes in the sink, the friends she brings over will leave their mess either on the counter, in the sink, microwave, stove, or fridge. I can barely put any items in the fridge because they're always filled with her expired takeout food. She's stolen a large majority of my cookware including a $200 zojirushi rice cooker, a $400 blender gifted to me from my mom, multiple pots and pans as well as glass dishes.
I don't want to stoop to her level because I know that's what she wants and I'm a 6'2" 190 lb guy and she's 5'3" and 95 lbs so I know how that's going to play out at face value. We've had verbal disagreements that led to her biting me, dumping out my shower gel and shampoo, leaving expired potatoes in my room with maggots while I was on vacation just to return to a room full of flies and other winged beasts. She even texted me "I will inconvenience you as long as you inconvenience me." Once again, she constantly sets rules that she breaks and expects me to follow them without complaint, and when I bring up these issues she plays victim and tries to gaslight me. She even accused me of drugging her dog, yet she still leaves him at home with me (I WFH), even though she has a Rolodex of people who have no problem watching over her dog for free and will even pick up the dog for logistics sake.
I've tried talking to my leasing office via email and in person and I'm getting the feeling they don't really care. I'm a year and a half into a 2 year lease and I want to just ride it out, but I've been depressed the entire time I've lived here. I feel like I'm living with a lunatic that plays victim and actively dodges accountability. No matter how many conversations or what rules we agree on, I follow them and then boom I'm the only one who is cleaning the house. Since she bought the trash can she bars me from using it, she'll take my trash out and put it in my room or on my bed. She hogs all the kitchen space to the point where I can't even store kitchenware and when I confront her, she says "you don't even have cookware", but she's the one who is stealing them and acting oblivious when I ask.
I don't even know what I did to deserve all of this, I only ask her to be realistic and follow through with what she says she's going to do. It's a vicious cycle of us speaking, coming to a conclusion, then I end up being the only who cleans and when I stop she pops her top and does a deep clean and blames me for everything meanwhile she has expired rice and beans in the oven with expired milk, chicken, and takeout occupying the majority of the fridge space.
