MediterraneanMoid
they love my freckles...
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I’ll keep this brief so you can also share your experiences if you want OR JUST GO DNR AND BUMP IT!!!
This girl, who was my girlfriend for a few months and with whom I honestly shared some really good moments, kept messaging me from time to time after we broke up, asking how I was doing. I was always very blunt in my replies because I know she had a really hard time after the breakup. The thing is, in the end, even if I ended up looking like the bad guy. I pushed her so far away with the way I spoke to her that she finally understood (even if it made her hate me) that she needed to let go, and I suppose she’ll stop writing to me now.
The thing is, I broke up with her because I KNOW it was what was best for her, and maybe many of you have also made those kinds of decisions thinking about what was best for the other person and their well-being. In this case, she and I were completely different worlds, each with our own problems: me with my deep thoughts, her with her uncertainty, etc. But we genuinely loved each other. The funny thing is that there was never a single physical issue, no infidelity, nothing like that. On the contrary, she used to say she was very satisfied with how I looked. But sometimes it’s simply better to make that decision for them and encourage them to leave, because they’re not able to do it themselves on a personal level.
Most likely, those people will see you as selfish, as heartless, as someone who only thinks about themselves. But eventually they’ll realize that those decisions were made so they could, first of all, move on; second, reorganize their lives without you being a factor holding them back; and third, see the bigger picture in its entirety. Obviously it hurts to be pushed out of someone’s life, but it hurts even more to stay there knowing the tragic ending that will eventually come.
That’s why sometimes it’s better to stop reopening the wound, stop clinging to something that no longer exists, and push people who lack the strength of will to look out for themselves. Push them how? By letting them go even if it hurts, even if it hurts to hurt the other person, and even if it hurts you too. You have to know how to let go.
This girl, who was my girlfriend for a few months and with whom I honestly shared some really good moments, kept messaging me from time to time after we broke up, asking how I was doing. I was always very blunt in my replies because I know she had a really hard time after the breakup. The thing is, in the end, even if I ended up looking like the bad guy. I pushed her so far away with the way I spoke to her that she finally understood (even if it made her hate me) that she needed to let go, and I suppose she’ll stop writing to me now.
The thing is, I broke up with her because I KNOW it was what was best for her, and maybe many of you have also made those kinds of decisions thinking about what was best for the other person and their well-being. In this case, she and I were completely different worlds, each with our own problems: me with my deep thoughts, her with her uncertainty, etc. But we genuinely loved each other. The funny thing is that there was never a single physical issue, no infidelity, nothing like that. On the contrary, she used to say she was very satisfied with how I looked. But sometimes it’s simply better to make that decision for them and encourage them to leave, because they’re not able to do it themselves on a personal level.
Most likely, those people will see you as selfish, as heartless, as someone who only thinks about themselves. But eventually they’ll realize that those decisions were made so they could, first of all, move on; second, reorganize their lives without you being a factor holding them back; and third, see the bigger picture in its entirety. Obviously it hurts to be pushed out of someone’s life, but it hurts even more to stay there knowing the tragic ending that will eventually come.
That’s why sometimes it’s better to stop reopening the wound, stop clinging to something that no longer exists, and push people who lack the strength of will to look out for themselves. Push them how? By letting them go even if it hurts, even if it hurts to hurt the other person, and even if it hurts you too. You have to know how to let go.
