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When you look bad, people don’t just give you less attention , they treat you worse. You get laughed at, ignored, or straight-up excluded. You get bullied, even if it’s subtle. People make fun of you, talk behind your back, or avoid you just because of your appearance.
That treatment changes everything. Growing up like that breaks your confidence and shapes how you behave. You stop trusting people, stop talking as much, and every social situation feels risky. You overthink every move. Over time, you start acting socially awkward ,not because you were born that way, but because the world trained you to be that way.
The insecurities and complexes you develop from all this rejection don’t just stay in your head. They affect how you act. You do things that are socially awkward or even embarrassing, simply because you don’t know the rules, you don’t know what’s normal, or how to interact with others. And the worse it gets, the more people notice, which fuels more rejection. It’s a downward spiral: the more socially anxious you get, the more mistakes you make, and the more the world pushes you down.
Some people are born neurodivergent with Asperger’s or autism. Their brains work differently from the start. They can learn to adapt, but the core wiring doesn’t change .
Others become “different” because of their environment. Years of rejection, humiliation, and social exclusion especially due to unattractiveness — can shape anyone into behaving awkwardly or anxiously. These people, while not autistic by nature, are in effect social autists: they simply never learned how to interact normally with others because they had so little social contact growing up.
There can be long periods of loneliness months or even years without meaningful social contact. It hurts, but that’s also when you can start rebuilding. Use that time to observe people, learn how they interact, and teach yourself how to behave in social situations. You’re not faking it you’re retraining your brain.
Start with imitation. Copy confident behavior until it feels natural. Learn tone, energy, and timing , the small things that make people feel comfortable.
The gym helps. Building a stronger body makes people respect you instinctively. Humans are wired to respond to physical capability. When you look strong, people treat you differently and you stop being an easy target.
Dress the part, too. Wear clothes people recognize and associate with. Fashion is social armor. When you look like you belong, people treat you like you do.
Then comes social exposure. Go to parties, accept invitations, talk to people, even if it feels awkward. Every small interaction strengthens your social skills.
It’s important to be realistic. For some people, if you are very unattractive — let’s say sub-5 — none of this will be enough. There, it’s mostly about damage control. But for many others, being MTN the potential to dramatically improve your social life exists. You don’t have to be a HTN or Chad to build a strong social network. What matters most is your behavior, how you interact, and how consistent you are. Many Sub-5s and MTNs still manage to have good social lives, even if success with women may be more limited.
Once the first cracks in the cage appear, it’s like a snowball starting to roll. If you act carefully and avoid major social mistakes, you can break out of that downward spiral and rebuild your life.
To be clear this won't happen in one night this proces can take months even years of time.And ofc looks is law but maybe it is not over it just has not started yet.
Good luck
That treatment changes everything. Growing up like that breaks your confidence and shapes how you behave. You stop trusting people, stop talking as much, and every social situation feels risky. You overthink every move. Over time, you start acting socially awkward ,not because you were born that way, but because the world trained you to be that way.
The insecurities and complexes you develop from all this rejection don’t just stay in your head. They affect how you act. You do things that are socially awkward or even embarrassing, simply because you don’t know the rules, you don’t know what’s normal, or how to interact with others. And the worse it gets, the more people notice, which fuels more rejection. It’s a downward spiral: the more socially anxious you get, the more mistakes you make, and the more the world pushes you down.
Some people are born neurodivergent with Asperger’s or autism. Their brains work differently from the start. They can learn to adapt, but the core wiring doesn’t change .
Others become “different” because of their environment. Years of rejection, humiliation, and social exclusion especially due to unattractiveness — can shape anyone into behaving awkwardly or anxiously. These people, while not autistic by nature, are in effect social autists: they simply never learned how to interact normally with others because they had so little social contact growing up.
There can be long periods of loneliness months or even years without meaningful social contact. It hurts, but that’s also when you can start rebuilding. Use that time to observe people, learn how they interact, and teach yourself how to behave in social situations. You’re not faking it you’re retraining your brain.
Start with imitation. Copy confident behavior until it feels natural. Learn tone, energy, and timing , the small things that make people feel comfortable.
The gym helps. Building a stronger body makes people respect you instinctively. Humans are wired to respond to physical capability. When you look strong, people treat you differently and you stop being an easy target.
Dress the part, too. Wear clothes people recognize and associate with. Fashion is social armor. When you look like you belong, people treat you like you do.
Then comes social exposure. Go to parties, accept invitations, talk to people, even if it feels awkward. Every small interaction strengthens your social skills.
It’s important to be realistic. For some people, if you are very unattractive — let’s say sub-5 — none of this will be enough. There, it’s mostly about damage control. But for many others, being MTN the potential to dramatically improve your social life exists. You don’t have to be a HTN or Chad to build a strong social network. What matters most is your behavior, how you interact, and how consistent you are. Many Sub-5s and MTNs still manage to have good social lives, even if success with women may be more limited.
Once the first cracks in the cage appear, it’s like a snowball starting to roll. If you act carefully and avoid major social mistakes, you can break out of that downward spiral and rebuild your life.
To be clear this won't happen in one night this proces can take months even years of time.And ofc looks is law but maybe it is not over it just has not started yet.
Good luck
