oldcel rotting is one of my biggest fears

I'm a 27 yo kissless virgin and what you described is me. However, at least I have a loving and supportive mother who I appreciate dearly.
 
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its this mindset that is most destructive to your life-quality.
I am guilty of this too.

What are the facts for my life right now:
29yo, never had a real relationship, no family, no career, no friends, no good childhood or good past experiences.

Ropefuel, depression, suicide, innit?

But what if you look at it from a different perspective?
I am 29yo, healthy with no physical issues at all, not bound to anyone or anything, can do whatever I want.

I wake up every day as a physically healthy 29yo man without any responsibilities or social-connection whatsoever. You can see that as pain, or you can see that as opportunity.
The one thing I am not grateful enough for is how well my body still functions despite the mental-issues. How I have 0 physical/health issues and am in good shape physically.

You will never be good enough with the wrong mindset, life will always be suffering.
I like this perspective. However, simultaneously, that you have few responsibilities or social obligations, means rotting and whiling away the days and hours shitposting and aimlessly consuming youtube/vidya gaems is all the more easy, as you face little accountability from others. Unlike when you were younger, your potential for improvement rests wholly in your hands, with an hour glass that is nearly used up.
 
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People who value their carreer so much and excell in it, still risk feeling mogged by people who are in a better social/financial/carreer position than themselves. And there will ALWAYS be these people. You will never be comfortably at the top.

You can get a better career to avoid being mogged as often by people better than you, mostly coming across people which you mog, but in the end it's just your insecurities which you are avoiding here. Insecurities which are still present in the background of your mind.

Just because you aren't being exposed to your insecurities as often anymore by changing your lifestyle/environment/career, doesn't mean they don't still exist.
Mental-Health needs to be a top focus for anyone traumatized enough to end up on this forum. And that stuff ain't easy, ain't straight-forward.
Sure, but this applies to anything. Gl people fear being mogged. Talented people fear getting mogged in their field. So on and so on.
 
Imagine you just turned 30. you have nothing to show for it, no girl, no friends, no hobbies. All you have to your name is endless hours lonely, scrolling, suffering. you're thinking in your head why didn't I just talk to that one girl" "why didn't I just try make friends" "why didn't I just leave my comfort zone" but Its too late. you spent your BEST years at home, by yourself. while others laughed, partied, did stupid shit. but you're 30 now, the parties over, the friends are over, you missed your only chance. at least you have your org account, right?
Why does it matter at all
 
I like this perspective. However, simultaneously, that you have few responsibilities or social obligations, means rotting and whiling away the days and hours shitposting and aimlessly consuming youtube/vidya gaems is all the more easy, as you face little accountability from others. Unlike when you were younger, your potential for improvement rests wholly in your hands, with an hour glass that is nearly used up.
Yes, this lack of social connection, lack of social-accountability, easily leads to rotting and pissing away time, opportunities.

I am VERY guilty of this. Personally I have a lot of time, every week, every day, yet I just rot and do nothing valuable with it.

But at my current age of 29yo: Yes I feel like I missed out on some 'ideal life', the type described in movies and your dreams, a childhood/young-adulthood with love, exploration, adventure, sex, friendships, and more.

But that simply wasn't realistic for me in my situation, or else it would've happened. I can blame myself for not looksmaxxing or socializing more earlier, not doing this, not doing that, but be fair to yourself and realize that in that moment the energy/circumstance to do that wasn't there.

You are looking back at a situation unfairily to the struggles you faced, the situation you were in, as a teen, as a young-adult, in that moment. You wanted your past self to have done this or that, yet you can't change the past and the situation in the past made you act in that way. It's not your 'free will' who did all that, but also circumstance, past, environment, and more.

Stop hating on yourself. You were doing your best at the time. Forgive yourself.

Comparison is your worst enemy. Only compare yourself to yourself, your past self. Comparison between different people is so stupid because people don't grow-up in the same circumstances, in the same way.

Be kind to yourself, mild. Being unhappy with your current-life is fine but don't blast yourself for it. Be kind and accepting of flaws, while also challenging your own beliefs and lifestyle and being open to change. But with an open, accepting mind.
Not a hateful: 'i am not good enough, I need to become this/that' mindset. Because that will only bring you stress.
 
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Is this how you run away from an argument?
Pretty low and childish for your age I must say.

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