oldcel rotting is one of my biggest fears

[New Poster]

Au contraire, it is you who are repeating yourself in a failed attempt to debunk my points.

Ffs go get laid bro. Please tell me you don’t sound like this irl.

 

[sub6manletnozygos]

I'm a 27 yo kissless virgin and what you described is me. However, at least I have a loving and supportive mother who I appreciate dearly.

 

[sub6manletnozygos]

its this mindset that is most destructive to your life-quality.
I am guilty of this too.

What are the facts for my life right now:
29yo, never had a real relationship, no family, no career, no friends, no good childhood or good past experiences.

Ropefuel, depression, suicide, innit?

But what if you look at it from a different perspective?
I am 29yo, healthy with no physical issues at all, not bound to anyone or anything, can do whatever I want.

I wake up every day as a physically healthy 29yo man without any responsibilities or social-connection whatsoever. You can see that as pain, or you can see that as opportunity.
The one thing I am not grateful enough for is how well my body still functions despite the mental-issues. How I have 0 physical/health issues and am in good shape physically.

You will never be good enough with the wrong mindset, life will always be suffering.

I like this perspective. However, simultaneously, that you have few responsibilities or social obligations, means rotting and whiling away the days and hours shitposting and aimlessly consuming youtube/vidya gaems is all the more easy, as you face little accountability from others. Unlike when you were younger, your potential for improvement rests wholly in your hands, with an hour glass that is nearly used up.

 

[XtrovertNTnormalfag]

Ffs go get laid bro. Please tell me you don’t sound like this irl.

Is this how you run away from an argument?
Pretty low and childish for your age I must say.

 

[New Poster]

People who value their carreer so much and excell in it, still risk feeling mogged by people who are in a better social/financial/carreer position than themselves. And there will ALWAYS be these people. You will never be comfortably at the top.

You can get a better career to avoid being mogged as often by people better than you, mostly coming across people which you mog, but in the end it's just your insecurities which you are avoiding here. Insecurities which are still present in the background of your mind.

Just because you aren't being exposed to your insecurities as often anymore by changing your lifestyle/environment/career, doesn't mean they don't still exist.
Mental-Health needs to be a top focus for anyone traumatized enough to end up on this forum. And that stuff ain't easy, ain't straight-forward.

Sure, but this applies to anything. Gl people fear being mogged. Talented people fear getting mogged in their field. So on and so on.

 

[Futura]

Imagine you just turned 30. you have nothing to show for it, no girl, no friends, no hobbies. All you have to your name is endless hours lonely, scrolling, suffering. you're thinking in your head why didn't I just talk to that one girl" "why didn't I just try make friends" "why didn't I just leave my comfort zone" but Its too late. you spent your BEST years at home, by yourself. while others laughed, partied, did stupid shit. but you're 30 now, the parties over, the friends are over, you missed your only chance. at least you have your org account, right?

Why does it matter at all

 

[MoggerGaston]

I like this perspective. However, simultaneously, that you have few responsibilities or social obligations, means rotting and whiling away the days and hours shitposting and aimlessly consuming youtube/vidya gaems is all the more easy, as you face little accountability from others. Unlike when you were younger, your potential for improvement rests wholly in your hands, with an hour glass that is nearly used up.

Yes, this lack of social connection, lack of social-accountability, easily leads to rotting and pissing away time, opportunities.

I am VERY guilty of this. Personally I have a lot of time, every week, every day, yet I just rot and do nothing valuable with it.

But at my current age of 29yo: Yes I feel like I missed out on some 'ideal life', the type described in movies and your dreams, a childhood/young-adulthood with love, exploration, adventure, sex, friendships, and more.

But that simply wasn't realistic for me in my situation, or else it would've happened. I can blame myself for not looksmaxxing or socializing more earlier, not doing this, not doing that, but be fair to yourself and realize that in that moment the energy/circumstance to do that wasn't there.

You are looking back at a situation unfairily to the struggles you faced, the situation you were in, as a teen, as a young-adult, in that moment. You wanted your past self to have done this or that, yet you can't change the past and the situation in the past made you act in that way. It's not your 'free will' who did all that, but also circumstance, past, environment, and more.

Stop hating on yourself. You were doing your best at the time. Forgive yourself.

Comparison is your worst enemy. Only compare yourself to yourself, your past self. Comparison between different people is so stupid because people don't grow-up in the same circumstances, in the same way.

Be kind to yourself, mild. Being unhappy with your current-life is fine but don't blast yourself for it. Be kind and accepting of flaws, while also challenging your own beliefs and lifestyle and being open to change. But with an open, accepting mind.
Not a hateful: 'i am not good enough, I need to become this/that' mindset. Because that will only bring you stress.

 

[New Poster]

Is this how you run away from an argument?
Pretty low and childish for your age I must say.

 

[Mrinfinityx]

Imagine you just turned 30. you have nothing to show for it, no girl, no friends, no hobbies. All you have to your name is endless hours lonely, scrolling, suffering. you're thinking in your head why didn't I just talk to that one girl" "why didn't I just try make friends" "why didn't I just leave my comfort zone" but Its too late. you spent your BEST years at home, by yourself. while others laughed, partied, did stupid shit. but you're 30 now, the parties over, the friends are over, you missed your only chance. at least you have your org account, right?

Why do I feel attacked?

 

[chad_prodigy]

as an older guy, i can tell young users here that oldceldom is less painful than it seems. your T levels and enthusiasm about life will drop by then, you won't be having those daily cortisol spikes because you are lagging behind/missed out on teen love/aren't a slayer in your prime unsuccessful young guys tend to have on a daily basis

still, believing your life after 30 or so is automatically gonna be shit no matter your looks, status, money etc couldn't be further from the truth

 

[Mrinfinityx]

It is indeed brutal to be 30+ year old with no wife or children.
All of the other things people mentioned here are irrelevent, like "career" (most of people don't have careers , they have jobs) or "slays" (huge cope, any even remotely decent looking girl will allways be in LTRs since early age and will not fuck around with strangers, only LTBs do that).
In the short window between 29-32 most of people you know, most of your peers, your generation, are going to get married and have children, and there is no way to "out cope" this.
No "muh career" "muh slays" imaginary shit which exists mostly on the internet.
If you haven't managed to reproduce, you are behind your peers and it's a face.
A sub5 janitor with wife and children will lifemog you and all your copes.

Then what can I do if even mogging all my friends group isn't enough to catch up the gap?

 

[Mrinfinityx]

One of my fears is being a 30 year old fucking loser

I am living this cause of autism and total lack of empathy

 

[grungymallard97]

tagging oldcels correct me if im wrong @SecularIslamist @Gengar @_MVP_ @New Poster

@SecularIslamist @_MVP_ @New Poster jobs bro jobs

 

[Mrinfinityx]

I tried making friends and it didn't end well

I was never more than an orbiter no matter how much funny intelligent well worded and energetic I was with anyone

 

[Mrinfinityx]

Nice arguments, you certainly destroyed me with your arguments.
How does it feel to get lifemogged by janitors from your generation? They have wifes and children while you don't, you are seen as a loser by your parents and your whole generation, like the only guy who didn't manage to get wife or children from of all of your known peers, all the guys you grow up with, went to school with etc. they all have families while you have nothing.

I don't deserve this and I don't know why destiny don't align to my wishes

 

[Poopless One]

I was never more than an orbiter no matter how much funny intelligent well worded and energetic I was with anyone

I'm sorry bro

 

[Beanermaxxer]

@Amnesia

 

[Mrinfinityx]

its this mindset that is most destructive to your life-quality.
I am guilty of this too.

What are the facts for my life right now:
29yo, never had a real relationship, no family, no career, no friends, no good childhood or good past experiences.

Ropefuel, depression, suicide, innit?

But what if you look at it from a different perspective?
I am 29yo, healthy with no physical issues at all, not bound to anyone or anything, can do whatever I want.

I wake up every day as a physically healthy 29yo man without any responsibilities or social-connection whatsoever. You can see that as pain, or you can see that as opportunity.
The one thing I am not grateful enough for is how well my body still functions despite the mental-issues. How I have 0 physical/health issues and am in good shape physically.

You will never be good enough with the wrong mindset, life will always be suffering.

I relate totally to this since I still have my hope intact

 

[Perma Virgin 666]

Imagine you just turned 30. you have nothing to show for it, no girl, no friends, no hobbies. All you have to your name is endless hours lonely, scrolling, suffering. you're thinking in your head why didn't I just talk to that one girl" "why didn't I just try make friends" "why didn't I just leave my comfort zone" but Its too late. you spent your BEST years at home, by yourself. while others laughed, partied, did stupid shit. but you're 30 now, the parties over, the friends are over, you missed your only chance. at least you have your org account, right?

going to parties isn't fun after a while. relationships usually don't last. so yea i'm heading towards 30 and i've gone to parties and i've had relationships but as of now i'm not any better off than someone who didn't

 

[Mrinfinityx]

I'm sorry bro

Then I stopped trying during 8 years into video games addiction full rotting improved my physical appearance since 2 y ago and now I am still stuck but with better cards, I am juste late

 

[Mosh12]

Then I stopped trying during 8 years into video games addiction full rotting improved my physical appearance since 2 u ago and now I am still stuck but with better cards, I am juste late

Are you a virgin? If I can ask

 

[Mrinfinityx]

Are you a virgin? If I can ask

Yes at 30 yo but my looks changed at least, so maybe I can catch up

 

[Mosh12]

Yes at 30 yo but my looks changed at least, so maybe I can catch up

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Chadlite tbh

 

[Mrinfinityx]

Chadlite tbh

I did 2 surgeries optimal health protocol for bone density and lost 15 kilograms with diet alone

 

[autistic_tendencies]

As long as you still look good and have low to zero stress who gives a fuck
Ajajajaja

 

[J99]

greedy fucks all this yapping and no reps

 

[Richard Cheese]

 

[JohnDoe]

Delete this thread right now, @SecularIslamist

 

[iblamericky]

this is cope

 

[John666282]

Yes, this lack of social connection, lack of social-accountability, easily leads to rotting and pissing away time, opportunities.

I am VERY guilty of this. Personally I have a lot of time, every week, every day, yet I just rot and do nothing valuable with it.

But at my current age of 29yo: Yes I feel like I missed out on some 'ideal life', the type described in movies and your dreams, a childhood/young-adulthood with love, exploration, adventure, sex, friendships, and more.

But that simply wasn't realistic for me in my situation, or else it would've happened. I can blame myself for not looksmaxxing or socializing more earlier, not doing this, not doing that, but be fair to yourself and realize that in that moment the energy/circumstance to do that wasn't there.

You are looking back at a situation unfairily to the struggles you faced, the situation you were in, as a teen, as a young-adult, in that moment. You wanted your past self to have done this or that, yet you can't change the past and the situation in the past made you act in that way. It's not your 'free will' who did all that, but also circumstance, past, environment, and more.

Stop hating on yourself. You were doing your best at the time. Forgive yourself.

Comparison is your worst enemy. Only compare yourself to yourself, your past self. Comparison between different people is so stupid because people don't grow-up in the same circumstances, in the same way.

Be kind to yourself, mild. Being unhappy with your current-life is fine but don't blast yourself for it. Be kind and accepting of flaws, while also challenging your own beliefs and lifestyle and being open to change. But with an open, accepting mind.
Not a hateful: 'i am not good enough, I need to become this/that' mindset. Because that will only bring you stress.

I subscribe to all the words you have said, and I just want to say that I wish you the best from the bottom of my heart. You seem like a very high IQ user, and above all, a really intelligent person