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As a man, at the biological level, the only thing that matters to you is inserting your penis into her vagina and reproducing, but with the advent of a very malignantly useless thing called "consciousness" all sorts of psychological tensions have sparked within you, and my work here is helping you see that such things have made you into a more neurotic, low-T, and clingy ass pussy man. The objective is not to fight against this tool, but to deconstruct experience using it so that you are not trapped into your own neurosis created by thought alone. This process makes you a more liberated man, free from the conditioning that operates at the unconscious level which makes you miserable.
We all have a psychological history that compromises a very different set of experiences, and these things go into shaping the so called "identity". At the unconscious level, experience shapes beliefs and also forms a story, and this story is built on pure thought, and it is basically what the mind tells itselfs about who you are, your likes, dislikes, preferences, and so on. Why is it important to psychologically deconstruct this story? I mean, I am not asking you to destroy it because that's who you are, and it is what makes you an unique human being with no equal. Better said, we want to create awareness of the framework in which your mind might be operating on which is making you prefer certain kind of women over others, but purely based on psychological reasons operating from the depths of the unconscious. Here's the brutal truth you need to swallow: That character is a puppet. And you've been letting it jerk you around.
For example, maybe you chase the unattainable, dismissive aura of Goth Stacy because a part of you is still trying to win the approval of that one cold, unavailable woman from your past, maybe your own mother. You're projecting a narrative of "winning a prize" onto her, a narrative where her eventual validation finally fills that bottomless pit of need inside you. Conversely, maybe you cling to the idea of Tradwife Stacy because you're projecting a fantasy of order, nurture, and submission onto her, seeking a salve for your own internal chaos and lack of control. You're not seeing her; you're seeing a phantom. A therapist with a vagina. A mommy you can fuck. This is highly related to those guys who develop oneitises because the man who suffers from oneitis is not operating from a place of biological reality, it doesn't really make sense to fixate on a single woman. They are not seeing a woman; they are seeing a salvation fantasy.
It's not about "I like alt girls because (bullshit)."
It's: Spine straight. Pupils dilate. Heart rate elevates. Symmetrical face. Wide hips. Clear skin. Vitality. Fertility cues. Approach.
It's not about "I prefer tradwives because (bullshit)."
It's: Healthy. Nurturing demeanor. Youthful features. Signs of cooperation and low aggression. Breed.
Projection is the ultimate cancer of interaction. It makes you a slave to your own unfinished business. You're not engaging with a real, flawed human being; you're engaging with a symbol you've created. You get anxious, needy, and invested in an outcome with your own hallucination. When she inevitably fails to live up to the symbol, because she's a real person with her own messy shit, you get bitter, confused, and call her a bitch. The cycle continues. You become more neurotic, more low-T, more of a clingy ass pussy man, trapped in a feedback loop of your own mind's making. The psychological story is the bullshit commentary your mind adds on top of that raw data. It's the novel it writes to justify why your DNA is kicking your glands into overdrive. That story is what makes you weak. It makes you invest in a fantasy. It makes you put her on a pedestal built from your own unmet needs. It makes you anxious, jealous, and needy because you're not just trying to fuck, you're trying to get this symbol to validate your entire fucking existence.
The result is a man who is not neurotic. Not clingy. Not seeking validation. He is present. He is responsive to reality, not lost in thought.
We all have a psychological history that compromises a very different set of experiences, and these things go into shaping the so called "identity". At the unconscious level, experience shapes beliefs and also forms a story, and this story is built on pure thought, and it is basically what the mind tells itselfs about who you are, your likes, dislikes, preferences, and so on. Why is it important to psychologically deconstruct this story? I mean, I am not asking you to destroy it because that's who you are, and it is what makes you an unique human being with no equal. Better said, we want to create awareness of the framework in which your mind might be operating on which is making you prefer certain kind of women over others, but purely based on psychological reasons operating from the depths of the unconscious. Here's the brutal truth you need to swallow: That character is a puppet. And you've been letting it jerk you around.
For example, maybe you chase the unattainable, dismissive aura of Goth Stacy because a part of you is still trying to win the approval of that one cold, unavailable woman from your past, maybe your own mother. You're projecting a narrative of "winning a prize" onto her, a narrative where her eventual validation finally fills that bottomless pit of need inside you. Conversely, maybe you cling to the idea of Tradwife Stacy because you're projecting a fantasy of order, nurture, and submission onto her, seeking a salve for your own internal chaos and lack of control. You're not seeing her; you're seeing a phantom. A therapist with a vagina. A mommy you can fuck. This is highly related to those guys who develop oneitises because the man who suffers from oneitis is not operating from a place of biological reality, it doesn't really make sense to fixate on a single woman. They are not seeing a woman; they are seeing a salvation fantasy.
It's not about "I like alt girls because (bullshit)."
It's: Spine straight. Pupils dilate. Heart rate elevates. Symmetrical face. Wide hips. Clear skin. Vitality. Fertility cues. Approach.
It's not about "I prefer tradwives because (bullshit)."
It's: Healthy. Nurturing demeanor. Youthful features. Signs of cooperation and low aggression. Breed.
Projection is the ultimate cancer of interaction. It makes you a slave to your own unfinished business. You're not engaging with a real, flawed human being; you're engaging with a symbol you've created. You get anxious, needy, and invested in an outcome with your own hallucination. When she inevitably fails to live up to the symbol, because she's a real person with her own messy shit, you get bitter, confused, and call her a bitch. The cycle continues. You become more neurotic, more low-T, more of a clingy ass pussy man, trapped in a feedback loop of your own mind's making. The psychological story is the bullshit commentary your mind adds on top of that raw data. It's the novel it writes to justify why your DNA is kicking your glands into overdrive. That story is what makes you weak. It makes you invest in a fantasy. It makes you put her on a pedestal built from your own unmet needs. It makes you anxious, jealous, and needy because you're not just trying to fuck, you're trying to get this symbol to validate your entire fucking existence.
The result is a man who is not neurotic. Not clingy. Not seeking validation. He is present. He is responsive to reality, not lost in thought.
