kdev
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ok so everyone on here always says "just be confident bro" like its some magic variable but i think thats kind of a surface level observation of sumthing more specific tbh what people are actually detecting is behavioral consistency. meaning ur actions, ur tone, ur decisions match across diferent social contexts without adjustment yk
most people unconciously shift how they talk, how much space they take up, how loud they are depending on whos in the room. its subtle but people around u are always registering it even if they cant really articulate it
someone who seems "confident" is really just someone whos behavior doesnt change much whether theyre talking to someone they percieve as above or below them socially. the consistency itself is what reads as high status not some internal feeling ur supposed to hav also explains why actual confidence cant really be faked cuz faking it is itself a behavioral adjustment which is the exact thing that breaks the signal in the first place. people dont notice ur posture or eye contact in isolation, they notice whether those things shift when social pressure changes
so the whole fake it till u make it thing is kinda self defeating at a mechanical level if u think about it nobody really frames it this way tho they just say confidence like its one single thing when its actually just a pattern people are passively observing over time without even realizing it
curious if anyone else has noticed this in there own social life
most people unconciously shift how they talk, how much space they take up, how loud they are depending on whos in the room. its subtle but people around u are always registering it even if they cant really articulate it
someone who seems "confident" is really just someone whos behavior doesnt change much whether theyre talking to someone they percieve as above or below them socially. the consistency itself is what reads as high status not some internal feeling ur supposed to hav also explains why actual confidence cant really be faked cuz faking it is itself a behavioral adjustment which is the exact thing that breaks the signal in the first place. people dont notice ur posture or eye contact in isolation, they notice whether those things shift when social pressure changes
so the whole fake it till u make it thing is kinda self defeating at a mechanical level if u think about it nobody really frames it this way tho they just say confidence like its one single thing when its actually just a pattern people are passively observing over time without even realizing it
curious if anyone else has noticed this in there own social life
