Quit criticizing cold approachers

[BadLuck7892]

It pisses me off when I hear anyone criticize men who do cold approaches.

Are cold approaches ideal? Absolutely not.

Are cold approaches likely to get you anywhere with the foids you cold approach? Absolutely not.

That being said, for some of us, cold approaches are our only real option.

 

[Foreverbrad]

You’re expected by society to LDAR (But you better be a productive wagie LDAR!)

 

[BadLuck7892]

I'm hardly ever in social settings (I hate night clubs, bar-hopping, and parties)

And I have a crippling phobia of asking out a woman I already know.

There really are hardly any options for me other than cold approaches.

 

[Deleted member 118164]

 

[Deleted member 132430]

I'm hardly ever in social settings (I hate night clubs, bar-hopping, and parties)

And I have a crippling phobia of asking out a woman I already know.

There really are hardly any options for me other than cold approaches.

I applaud your self confidence and low inhibition if you are able to cold approach.

 

[BadLuck7892]

I applaud your self confidence and low inhibition if you are able to cold approach.

What sucks is that my inhibition is only selectively low.

Yeah, the fact I've gone up to total strangers in public (to invite her over for sex) is incredibly low inhibition. But that's a recipe to get rejected 100% of the time.

On the other hand, my inhibition is incredibly high when it comes to asking out a foid I already know (who might actually say yeah)

In conclusion, I chase low probability fruits, while being too afraid to go after higher probability fruits.

 

[Monarchy]

It pisses me off when I hear anyone criticize men who do cold approaches.

Are cold approaches ideal? Absolutely not.

Are cold approaches likely to get you anywhere with the foids you cold approach? Absolutely not.

That being said, for some of us, cold approaches are our only real option.

The AVI gets me everytime

 

[Deleted member 132430]

What sucks is that my inhibition is only selectively low.

Yeah, the fact I've gone up to total strangers in public (to invite her over for sex) is incredibly low inhibition. But that's a recipe to get rejected 100% of the time.

On the other hand, my inhibition is incredibly high when it comes to asking out a foid I already know (who might actually say yeah)

In conclusion, I chase low probability fruits, while being too afraid to go after higher probability fruits.

I cant even imagine what would cause this? You obviously arent fully indifferent to rejection considering the warm approach situation.
For me, rejection is a massive fear. Idk myself that deepy but its probably why i messed up opportunities no one else would mess up.

 

[BadLuck7892]

I cant even imagine what would cause this? You obviously arent fully indifferent to rejection considering the warm approach situation.
For me, rejection is a massive fear. Idk myself that deepy but its probably why i messed up opportunities no one else would mess up.

I can tell you what the difference is.

When a total stranger foid I cold approach rejects me, I'm highly unlikely to ever run into her again.

On the other hand, if I get rejected by a foid I already know, I'm going to run into her again post-rejection.

It isn't the rejection itself I fear. What I fear is having to run into a foid I got rejected by.

You're not alone when it comes to messing up opportunities. I guarantee I've messed up opportunities too (because I was too afraid to ask out a foid who was into me)

 

[Deleted member 132430]

I can tell you what the difference is.

When a total stranger foid I cold approach rejects me, I'm highly unlikely to ever run into her again.

Sounds like a very healthy mindset.
My problem is my self worth is somewhat based on how others react to me. So a rejection from a girl no matter if i know her or not, attractive or ugly, etc.. it makes me feel like it reflects on who i am, and feels pretty hurtful. Thats why even when a girl flirts first i usually fail and mess up the opportunity. Im always too insecure

It isn't the rejection itself I fear. What I fear is having to run into a foid I got rejected by.

You're not alone when it comes to messing up opportunities. I guarantee I've messed up opportunities too (because I was too afraid to ask out a foid who was into me)

Sounds water but just go for it tbh. I feel like cold approaching is alr a massive success, if you get indications a girl close to u likes u, try getting closer maybe by casual convos first, then flirting and asking out. It realistically isnt a big deal if u ran into her again

 

[BadLuck7892]

Sounds like a very healthy mindset.
My problem is my self worth is somewhat based on how others react to me. So a rejection from a girl no matter if i know her or not, attractive or ugly, etc.. it makes me feel like it reflects on who i am, and feels pretty hurtful. Thats why even when a girl flirts first i usually fail and mess up the opportunity. Im always too insecure

Sounds water but just go for it tbh. I feel like cold approaching is alr a massive success, if you get indications a girl close to u likes u, try getting closer maybe by casual convos first, then flirting and asking out. It realistically isnt a big deal if u ran into her again

To me it's a huge deal if I run into a foid again post-rejection.

I've been rejected the vast majority of the time when asking out foids I already know by the way.

I can relate to the part about how even when a foid flirts with you first, you still don't get anywhere with her.

 

[BigBoy]

I can tell you what the difference is.

When a total stranger foid I cold approach rejects me, I'm highly unlikely to ever run into her again.

On the other hand, if I get rejected by a foid I already know, I'm going to run into her again post-rejection.

It isn't the rejection itself I fear. What I fear is having to run into a foid I got rejected by.

You're not alone when it comes to messing up opportunities. I guarantee I've messed up opportunities too (because I was too afraid to ask out a foid who was into me)

For me I’m afraid I’ll fuck things up and she’ll lose interest. But unironically she loses interest due to my inaction.

 

[BadLuck7892]

For me I’m afraid I’ll fuck things up and she’ll lose interest. But unironically she loses interest due to my inaction.

Similar story here.

I've dated before.  But the foid typically loses interest pretty quickly after the 1st or 2nd date (sometimes the foid loses interest before the 1st date even happens)

And the rare foids who remain into me tend to be so unbearable to be around, I end up needing to break it off.

As for your case, it's not so much that the foid loses interest. Your inaction makes her think you're not into her (so the foid gives up on you)

 

[BigBoy]

Similar story here.

I've dated before.  But the foid typically loses interest pretty quickly after the 1st or 2nd date (sometimes the foid loses interest before the 1st date even happens)

And the rare foids who remain into me tend to be so unbearable to be around, I end up needing to break it off.

As for your case, it's not so much that the foid loses interest. Your inaction makes her think you're not into her (so the foid gives up on you)

I didn’t consider that tbh

 

[superpsycho]

i lack confidence from years of negative reinforcement

 

[Deleted member 72469]

While it does work, the ROI is extremely low. You could spend an entire year consistently approaching and only get a couple of quality girls

 

[Deleted member 128803]

noone cold approaches

 

[Deleted member 124498]

Yeah, the fact I've gone up to total strangers in public (to invite her over for sex) is incredibly low inhibition. But that's a recipe to get rejected 100% of the time.

Chads get laid this way 1 out of 5 times when randomly approaching prime age college girls. There's a study on it.

 

[Deleted member 124498]

You’re expected by society to LDAR (But you better be a productive wagie LDAR!)

They want us like you said LDARing and waging or roping if we can't be productive for society anymore. Embrace your male nature and tell them fuck you! Normies are disingenuous cunts and women are all whores!!

 

[lepo2317]

If you have to COLD APPROACH you are ugly. Stop coping. Decent looking guys get smiles so they can SOFT APPROACH in a mall while being in cum stained sweatpants while you stay on a street like a beggar just to approach 1000th woman that day just to have any interaction with pussy - over

 

[Deleted member 124498]

If you have to COLD APPROACH you are ugly. Stop coping. Decent looking guys get smiles so they can SOFT APPROACH in a mall while being in cum stained sweatpants while you stay on a street like a beggar just to approach 1000th woman that day just to have any interaction with pussy - over

Keep on assuming things you normie effeminate piece of shit.

 

[lepo2317]

Keep on assuming things you normie effeminate piece of shit.

you are a friendless virgin loser who molest random women not me. btw molestin women isn't alpha you fucking loser

 

[Deleted member 124498]

you are a friendless virgin loser who molest random women not me. btw molestin women isn't alpha you fucking loser

Being man enough to approach a woman and risking it all socially to court her isn't molestation, you effeminate normie. It's called being a fucking man, something you aren't.

 

[lepo2317]

Being man enough to approach a woman and risking it all socially to court her isn't molestation, you effeminate normie. It's called being a fucking man, something you aren't.

Crazy how friendless losers can cope. Normal people get dates via social cricles/dating apps/warm approaches. On the other hand there are losers like you who molest random women thinking they are alphas calling anyone who are normal "effeminate". Can't wait to see your ugly autistic face in news while being dragged to prison for being molesting loser.

 

[Deleted member 124498]

Crazy how friendless losers can cope. Normal people get dates via social cricles/dating apps/warm approaches. On the other hand there are losers like you who molest random women thinking they are alphas calling anyone who are normal "effeminate". Can't wait to see your ugly autistic face in news while being dragged to prison for being molesting loser.

Social circles are female centric cuck fests where you normie effeminates disingenuously one up each other like a WOMAN!

For one I am not ugly, normie. I have a bigger cock than your pathetic arse and I'm taller than you. I can attract a woman without having to resort to submission, unlike your effeminate arse.

You're going to commit suicide when you eventually get divorced raped and I support the women every step of the way!

 

[BadLuck7892]

I didn’t consider that tbh

Even though I've had a decent amount of free sex partners, most came from Craigslist (back when Craigslist allowed us to post sex ads)

When a foid from Craigslist agrees to come over, it's already implied there's going to be sex. So I never really learned how to escalate. That, combined the fact I've been wrong about a foid's interest level so many times, explains why I'm also guilty of inaction even when a foid shows possible IOIs.

 

[BadLuck7892]

i lack confidence from years of negative reinforcement

Same here.

I see you say you're a victim of race mixing. I can relate. Despite being entirely from Europe (ancestrally), I'm a mix of Mediterranean Europe and Celtic Europe. I am a freak of nature that never should have been born.

 

[BadLuck7892]

While it does work, the ROI is extremely low. You could spend an entire year consistently approaching and only get a couple of quality girls

What you're saying is true. But even with expressing interest in foids I already know, I get rejected the vast majority of the time.

 

[BadLuck7892]

noone cold approaches

I'm proof of how wrong you are. I've gone up to total strangers I had never said a word to before...and invited these total strangers over for sex.

 

[superpsycho]

Same here.

I see you say you're a victim of race mixing. I can relate. Despite being entirely from Europe (ancestrally), I'm a mix of Mediterranean Europe and Celtic Europe. I am a freak of nature that never should have been born.

mixing should be banned tbh

 

[Deleted member 128803]

I'm proof of how wrong you are. I've gone up to total strangers I had never said a word to before...and invited these total strangers over for sex.

and then you woke up

 

[swt]

why are cold approaches not ideal?

 

[BadLuck7892]

If you have to COLD APPROACH you are ugly. Stop coping. Decent looking guys get smiles so they can SOFT APPROACH in a mall while being in cum stained sweatpants while you stay on a street like a beggar just to approach 1000th woman that day just to have any interaction with pussy - over

Or...drumroll...I'm an autist who's both basically illiterate at reading a foid's IOIs  and terrified of having to cross paths with a foid who rejected me.

Cold approaches on total strangers are ideal for me. For reasons that have nothing to do with looks.

 

[BrutalMogger]

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[BadLuck7892]

and then you woke up

I'm 100% serious. Even though none of these total strangers I went up to agreed to come over, I really made the offer.

 

[BadLuck7892]

why are cold approaches not ideal?

Because they lead to rejection 100% (or close to 100%) of the time.

And many foids view cold approaches as harassment.

 

[Deleted member 128803]

I'm 100% serious. Even though none of these total strangers I went up to agreed to come over, I really made the offer.

tales from the basement

 

[lepo2317]

Social circles are female centric cuck fests where you normie effeminates disingenuously one up each other like a WOMAN!

For one I am not ugly, normie. I have a bigger cock than your pathetic arse and I'm taller than you. I can attract a woman without having to resort to submission, unlike your effeminate arse.

You're going to commit suicide when you eventually get divorced raped and I support the women every step of the way!

hope they will get your molesting ass to psych ward where you belong

 

[BadLuck7892]

Being man enough to approach a woman and risking it all socially to court her isn't molestation, you effeminate normie. It's called being a fucking man, something you aren't.

It's unfortunate how I have no problem approaching a total stranger (who's going to reject me 100% of the time), yet can't approach a woman I already know (who might actually say yeah)

 

[BadLuck7892]

Crazy how friendless losers can cope. Normal people get dates via social cricles/dating apps/warm approaches. On the other hand there are losers like you who molest random women thinking they are alphas calling anyone who are normal "effeminate". Can't wait to see your ugly autistic face in news while being dragged to prison for being molesting loser.

I don't really have a social circle.

The gender ratio on dating apps makes dating apps futile.

As for warm approaches (approaching a foid based on IOIs), I'm basically illiterate at reading IOIs.

 

[NT Master]

While it does work, the ROI is extremely low. You could spend an entire year consistently approaching and only get a couple of quality girls

This.

If you want to meet women for long-term relationships, you're better off joining many social clubs and getting close to the single women there who you fancy. If you want hookups, you're better off joining a swinger's club or geomaxxing unless you look like a supermodel that Tinder broads swoon for.

Either of those options are far better than randomly approaching women, hoping that they're single, hoping they find you attractive, hoping you are charming and don't fuck up, and hoping that they aren't busy or something happens. And if you're attractive and charming enough to do cold approaches, you're also good enough to actually win online dating.

I'd rather play the lottery than do cold approaches tbh. At least the payout for the rare victory is much greater.

 

[NT Master]

While it does work, the ROI is extremely low. You could spend an entire year consistently approaching and only get a couple of quality girls

This.

If you want to meet women for long-term relationships, you're better off joining many social clubs and getting close to the single women there who you fancy. If you want hookups, you're better off joining a swinger's club or geomaxxing unless you look like a supermodel that Tinder broads swoon for.

Either of those options are far better than randomly approaching women, hoping that they're single, hoping they find you attractive, hoping you are charming and don't fuck up, and hoping that they aren't busy or something happens. And if you're attractive and charming enough to do cold approaches, you're also good enough to actually win online dating.

I'd rather play the lottery than do cold approaches tbh. At least the payout for the rare victory is much greater.

 

[looksmaxxed]

so you've got your wymxn, now what? you still can't afford a home or children, you'll rent some hole in a crime and aids ridden multicultural hellscape that is forever becoming browner.

warlord max before you worry about wymxn, that becomes the easy part.

 

[New Poster]

While it does work, the ROI is extremely low. You could spend an entire year consistently approaching and only get a couple of quality girls

If you can’t fuck at least 1 out of 20, you’re pretty subhuman

 

[New Poster]

It's unfortunate how I have no problem approaching a total stranger (who's going to reject me 100% of the time), yet can't approach a woman I already know (who might actually say yeah)

How are you getting blown out every time? Are you ugly or short?

 

[FiendFiend]

Are cold approaches likely to get you anywhere with the foids you cold approach? Absolutely not.

so then why do it...

 

[NT Master]

Goddamn, I triple posted. This site can fuck up sometimes.

 

[BadLuck7892]

This.

If you want to meet women for long-term relationships, you're better off joining many social clubs and getting close to the single women there who you fancy. If you want hookups, you're better off joining a swinger's club or geomaxxing unless you look like a supermodel that Tinder broads swoon for.

Either of those options are far better than randomly approaching women, hoping that they're single, hoping they find you attractive, hoping you are charming and don't fuck up, and hoping that they aren't busy or something happens. And if you're attractive and charming enough to do cold approaches, you're also good enough to actually win online dating.

I'd rather play the lottery than do cold approaches tbh. At least the payout for the rare victory is much greater.

If I asked out a foid from a social club, yet got rejected, I'd then have to quit the social club.

Joining a social club I'm probably going to end up needing to quit sounds pretty pointless.

 

[BadLuck7892]

so you've got your wymxn, now what? you still can't afford a home or children, you'll rent some hole in a crime and aids ridden multicultural hellscape that is forever becoming browner.

warlord max before you worry about wymxn, that becomes the easy part.

I hate the fact my city is becoming browner.

 

[BadLuck7892]

How are you getting blown out every time? Are you ugly or short?

I'm 5'9" and have decent looks. Yet I'm autistic.

Furthermore, I stopped doing cold approaches on total strangers relatively quickly (once I figured out I wasn't getting anywhere)