Rate your upbringing on a scale from 1-10

[ifyouwannabemylover]

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[Zer0/∞]

Schizo mother
No friends or gf

 

[ifyouwannabemylover]

Schizo mother
No friends or gf

similar situation but still voted 3 because it could've been even worse

 

[Deleted member 23558]

3. Didn’t get abused so points for that. Extremely understumulated isolated and parents fed me no meat or nutritional foods, taught me nothing about interpersonal relationships ( god I hate that phrase) and let me get obese. Fuck them. They both should get cancer.

 

[Deleted member 17578]

2.

Would only be worse if i got raped by family in youth.

 

[Matthias8272]

People are saying 2 but if 1 is the absolute worst then you would be tortured, starved, 0 social interaction even with your parents etc, and 2 would be only slightly better. What does 1 represent in this question?

 

[ascension]

Constant stress and high cortisol

 

[ifyouwannabemylover]

People are saying 2 but if 1 is the absolute worst then you would be tortured, starved, 0 social interaction even with your parents etc, and 2 would be only slightly better. What does 1 represent in this question?

1 is josef fritzl tier upbringing

 

[Matthias8272]

1 is josef fritzl tier upbringing

yeah so the people voting aren't even 2s

 

[Unlimited]

Torment

 

[Deleted member 14693]

Very good, would do again 8/10

 

[Deleted member 23115]

People are saying 2 but if 1 is the absolute worst then you would be tortured, starved, 0 social interaction even with your parents etc, and 2 would be only slightly better. What does 1 represent in this question?

same thinking

 

[ifyouwannabemylover]

yeah so the people voting aren't even 2s

yea probably not

 

[Deleted member 17578]

People are saying 2 but if 1 is the absolute worst then you would be tortured, starved, 0 social interaction even with your parents etc, and 2 would be only slightly better. What does 1 represent in this question?

being tortured physically isn't necessairily worse than mentally
starvation not worse than being forcefed to obesity
0 social interaction isnt worse than constant bullying+harassment

etc. you cant quantify it like that

for example, my parents forced me to go to violin lessons my entire youth + practice. I hated it.

someone here might say I am privileged for being 'allowed to go to violin lessons' cuz it costs money lol. but that makes no sense

 

[Deleted member 23115]

being tortured physically isn't necessairily worse than mentally
starvation not worse than being forcefed to obesity
0 social interaction isnt worse than constant bullying+harassment

etc. you cant quantify it like that

for example, my parents forced me to go to violin lessons my entire youth + practice. I hated it.

someone here might say I am privileged for being 'allowed to go to violin lessons' cuz it costs money lol. but that makes no sense

 

[Deleted member 14693]

or example, my parents forced me to go to violin lessons my entire youth + practice. I hated it.

Thats normal most people were forced to do activities like this

 

[Deleted member 23558]

Thats normal most people were forced to do activities like this

kill yourself

 

[ifyouwannabemylover]

Thats normal most people were forced to do activities like this

yea that's pretty common and it's one thing i fucking hate that parents do

 

[Deleted member 14693]

kill yourself

why

 

[Matthias8272]

being tortured physically isn't necessairily worse than mentally
starvation not worse than being forcefed to obesity
0 social interaction isnt worse than constant bullying+harassment

etc. you cant quantify it like that

for example, my parents forced me to go to violin lessons my entire youth + practice. I hated it.

someone here might say I am privileged for being 'allowed to go to violin lessons' cuz it costs money lol. but that makes no sense

Were you unable to go to school? Did you parents not socailize with you when you were a baby? Violin practise indicates they are helping you in developing a skill and giving you social interaction. The compelete oppisote of a 2, even if you didn't enjoy it it's not even comparable to a 1

 

[Deleted member 23558]

Were you unable to go to school? Did you parents not socailize with you when you were a baby? Violin practise indicates they are helping you in developing a skill and giving you social interaction. The compelete oppisote of a 2, even if you didn't enjoy it it's not even comparable to a 1

 

[justinzayn]

overall lack of father and money made me crazy

 

[Magnum Opus]

Thats normal most people were forced to do activities like this

I always requested to do something like that and my parents let me do it. Many of my friends were forced, but those forced things won't come to fruitition, at least I never saw someone irl who was actually good at the hobby that was forced upon them.
My parents also fortunately protect me from degenerate activities.

 

[ifyouwannabemylover]

I always requested to do something like that and my parents let me do it. Many of my friends were forced, but those forced things won't come to fruitition, at least I never saw someone irl who was actually good at the hobby that was forced upon them.
My parents also fortunately protect me from degenerate activities.

those parents have a rigid picture in their heads about what sort of person their child has to become. so they try forcing them into whatever activities or hobbies they have in mind. it's over the top selfish and retarded.

 

[Magnum Opus]

those parents have a rigid picture in their heads about what sort of person their child has to become. so they try forcing them into whatever activities or hobbies they have in mind. it's over the top selfish and retarded.

Smart parents who are serious about it would manipulate the kid into believing that it is it's own wish.

 

[ifyouwannabemylover]

Smart parents would manipulate the kid into believing that it is it's own wish.

i don't think that works

 

[Magnum Opus]

Smart parents who are serious about it would manipulate the kid into believing that it is it's own wish.

That would be the best way for them to force their will on the kid. Of course if the intention itself is good is debatable.

 

[Deleted member 23286]

My family is wonderful. I love my mum and dad. Small brother is a dick but that's alright.

 

[Vain786]

Doubt everyone heres are that bad

most u niggas probably were allowed infinite freedom gaming all day with all the food coming to u then u pick 2 because ofc u dont speak to ur parents as if it there fauolt

 

[rand anon]

4, not horrible but meh

 

[Reckless Turtle]

Narcy single mother with no father, but no poverty or rape. I wasn't really bullied and also had an above-average education with decent social interactions. Overall, 3/10 seems reasonable.

 

[Magnum Opus]

My family is wonderful. I love my mum and dad. Small brother is a dick but that's alright.

My family is absolutely wonderful too. Based on parents only I'd give a 10 but the poll asks for upbringing which isn't solely based on parents. As I kind of messed up my environment myself sometimes I'll give a 9.

 

[Guba]

Lived in a good neighbourhood, good material and financial conditions, though not pampered except in quantity of travel. Parents stayed together and were not really abusive towards each other or me. But lacked a lot of warmth in the upbringing, with my mother being cold and mainly absent (work addict). Father was more warm, but later on in life it became apparent that he was a very poor and weak masculine role model. More good than bad, but some problems present.

 

[Reckless Turtle]

parents fed me no meat or nutritional food

Schizo mother
No friends or gf

You guys are lumping your suboptimal genetics with your upbringing.

 

[Deleted member 23558]

You guys are lumping your suboptimal genetics with your upbringing.

Na I have no problem w my looks or height. Stop being schizo

 

[Reckless Turtle]

Stop being schizo

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[Reckless Turtle]

People are saying 2 but if 1 is the absolute worst then you would be tortured, starved, 0 social interaction even with your parents etc, and 2 would be only slightly better. What does 1 represent in this question?

2/10: poverty
1/10: poverty and some rape and/or torture
<1/10: poverty and rape and torture

 

[Matthias8272]

2/10: poverty
1/10: poverty and rape
0/10: poverty and rape and torture

0/10 would be death, and there'd probably me more than poverty in those rankings

 

[Reckless Turtle]

0/10 would be death, and there'd probably me more than poverty in those rankings

Edited, and poverty typically correlates with other suboptimal scenarios (single mother, substance abuse, rape, etc.).

 

[Deleted member 26642]

my early childhood mogs

 

[Matthias8272]

Edited, and poverty typically correlates with other suboptimal scenarios (single mother, substance abuse, rape, etc.).

correlation does not mean it's garunteed to happen, meaning it's correct to list them

 

[Reckless Turtle]

correlation does not mean it's garunteed to happen, meaning it's correct to list them

It was just meant to be an approximate baseline.

 

[ifyouwannabemylover]

2/10: poverty
1/10: poverty and some rape and/or torture
<1/10: poverty and rape and torture

i think poverty is overrated

living in poverty in a loving environment is better than growing up ugly and abused in the west

 

[Reckless Turtle]

i think poverty is overrated

living in poverty in a loving environment is better than growing up ugly and abused in the west

The definition of poverty is highly bastardized. For the sake of argument, I'm referring to a critical lack of basic survival necessities (food, shelter, water, and rudimentary healthcare).

Growing up poor =/= poverty

 

[User49]

it was objectively terrible but i coped with vidya so i voted 5

i basically didn’t feel the pain cuz of vidya

 

[ifyouwannabemylover]

The definition of poverty is highly bastardized. For the sake of argument, I'm referring to a critical lack of basic survival necessities (food, shelter, water, and rudimentary healthcare).

i guess it depends on the exact circumstances. what i'm saying is you can have a better upbringing in a favela than a lot of people do in the west. 100%.

 

[Reckless Turtle]

i guess it depends on the exact circumstances. what i'm saying is you can have a better upbringing in a favela than a lot of people do in the west. 100%.

As per my subjective definition, many people living in favelas aren't living in poverty.

 

[ifyouwannabemylover]

As per my subjective definition, many people living in favelas aren't living in poverty.

i think most people would consider it poverty to live in a favela

 

[Bashan]

Elementary school days: 8/10 almost like a beautiful dream
After: Over

 

[ifyouwannabemylover]

Elementary school days: 8/10 almost like a beautiful dream
After: Over

relatable

my family situation was already screwed up even back then, but i still had friends and loved the area i grew up in. then we moved, highschool started and it was a done deal.