
Xangsane
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I’ve come to the realisation that the type of men I’m attracted to aren’t suited towards me/ don’t actually find me attractive. So either way it rules out the majority of people I can date. I’ve tried to give people a chance that I’m not usually attracted to, that give nice vibes off,however more often than not, I only end up seeing them in a platonic manner. Even thinking about them sexually is repulsive. I wonder if it’s just a mental block, or have others also been experiencing this?
Edit: I’m going to provide a bit of background: I’m 23, south asian, in shape, have a pretty face which comes along with it, degree educated and currently spending my time travelling. I’m very introverted, stay indoors mostly, socially awkward and I don’t go out of my way to speak to people/avoid it. The problem lies with the fact that I’m predominantly attracted to stereotypical good looking white guys who usually go for their own ethnic background, religiously and culturally there are many differences. This has been my experience with dating apps but I do have to admit I lose interest extremely quickly/ I’m not on there long enough.
I have this deep desire to be in a relationship but I can’t seem to open myself up to it. I miss the cuddles, affection and overall feeling of having someone to call my own.
I’m pretty introverted and hate social settings which is something I probably need to work on so it kind of only leaves online interactions with men. I’ve tried dating apps- I’m never on there long enough to actually connect with someone before I delete it a day or two later. I don’t think it helps that I have like zero social media.
I think my main issue is that I want a guy that actually doesn’t exist as I’m not attracted to 95% of guys on these apps or even in person and I want him to be somewhat successful.
Sorry for the ramblings above
I’ve been able to come off my antidepressants for a good few months now and I’m constantly like super horny. I just crave being touched and loved however I just can’t bring myself to meet new people. I don’t want something causal. I can’t stand dating apps and I don’t leave my house often. I also can’t imagine dating men that aren’t of similar financial means so it’s a massive barrier. At this rate I’m going to be frustrated for a very long time, and have to resort to my parents finding me someone through an arrange marriage. I guess for now I’ve got toys to get me through.
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