11gaijin
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As per her
Other women coping
This takes the cake though
The body positivity movement absolutely needs to include wrinkles, grey hair, and saggy skin on female models because if they aren't "wrong" on a man, they aren't wrong on a woman.
Other women coping
I look forward to being a wrinkly old lady. My grandma on my Dad’s side had heavy wrinkles and I thought it made her look cute and friendly.
You know what really sucks? I don’t see wrinkles and turkey necks on most older, relatively handsome men. I see it in an instant in older women. I hate that I’m trained to accept older men as they age and hate myself as I do the same.
This takes the cake though
This is entirely a theory I made up in my head with very little hard evidence to prove it, but:
I think the *incorrect* societal perception that men age better is not only because "old women = ew" (although there is plenty of that going around too, ffs), but also top-down patriarchal propaganda to groom younger women into tolerating and even seeking May/December relationships with older men. All other factors considered, possibly the only angle that protects these unequal relationships from criticism about their lack of propriety these days is the younger woman advocating for her right to be with an older man because that's just her "preference". The idea that older men are physically on par with, and mentally and financially better than, younger men also contributes to other patriarchal chestnuts like, "boys will be boys" and "wild oats should be sown". It encourages younger men to treat women badly, since that's just young guys acting out. Then, when they're older and ready to "settle down", they know there's a younger woman who's been conditioned to perceive older men as secure, stable, and "attractive in a distinguished way" instead of "old," waiting for them. They get their cake, and eat it too. Meanwhile, older women are mired in debates with younger women about what the age of consent should be and the effects of unequal power dynamics and grooming in relationships, while also trying not to alienate younger women by removing their agency.