D
Deleted member 2729
facemaxx or death
- Joined
- Aug 7, 2019
- Posts
- 6,706
- Reputation
- 8,489
was previously married in my early 20s. This was in the mid 90s. We had a child. I had a pretty good suspicion that the child WASN'T mine. I didn't care. I loved my daughter.
The wife at the time didn't really want to settle down. And she ended up leaving me, with the child for 9 months. She returned when my daughter was 16 months old. Divorce papers were served, and a custody battle ensued. She dropped the ball that the child wasn't mine. I still spent my ENTIRE life savings on fighting for custody. In the end I was deemed the better parent, more stable household, and financially better able to care for the child.
But, in the end, know what the courts decided? The judge claimed daughter and fathers really don't bond until 3-4 years old anyhow. I'm like WTF? I am this darling, happy little girl's entire life.
Today, I have a very good relationship with my daughter. I am the only one she has EVER called Dad. We reconnected after she was about 22. She had a pretty shitty childhood. He a bout with heroine addiction. Was actually raised by her grandmother. Her mother signed away custody 6 months after our custody battle was done. My daughter's grandmother lied to her, her entire life. Said I was massive abusive, etc... When she was 18, one of my ex's sisters(who I stayed friends with ALL 3 of her sisters) told her the entire scoop on the situation. A couple of years ago, she cut all ties with her mother and grandmother for lying to her, her entire life, and missing out of over 20+ years of time with me, and my current partner.
The courts suck! My Daughter would have had such a better, more stable life with me.
The wife at the time didn't really want to settle down. And she ended up leaving me, with the child for 9 months. She returned when my daughter was 16 months old. Divorce papers were served, and a custody battle ensued. She dropped the ball that the child wasn't mine. I still spent my ENTIRE life savings on fighting for custody. In the end I was deemed the better parent, more stable household, and financially better able to care for the child.
But, in the end, know what the courts decided? The judge claimed daughter and fathers really don't bond until 3-4 years old anyhow. I'm like WTF? I am this darling, happy little girl's entire life.
Today, I have a very good relationship with my daughter. I am the only one she has EVER called Dad. We reconnected after she was about 22. She had a pretty shitty childhood. He a bout with heroine addiction. Was actually raised by her grandmother. Her mother signed away custody 6 months after our custody battle was done. My daughter's grandmother lied to her, her entire life. Said I was massive abusive, etc... When she was 18, one of my ex's sisters(who I stayed friends with ALL 3 of her sisters) told her the entire scoop on the situation. A couple of years ago, she cut all ties with her mother and grandmother for lying to her, her entire life, and missing out of over 20+ years of time with me, and my current partner.
The courts suck! My Daughter would have had such a better, more stable life with me.
