Redditor: Two years of using Online dating as a male. Here are my hot takes.

[Xangsane]

These are my hot takes from using Hinge and Bumble for 2 years. I also have both male and female friends who also date using the apps.

1. Overweight women have an easy time getting uncommitted casual sex from dating apps, but struggle greatly finding a relationship. In other words, a lot of guys are okay with having sex with an overweight woman, they just don't want their friends and family to know about it.
2. Men and women view dating from 2 different perspectives. Guys typically look at it as having a skillset: logistically planning romantic dates, reading signals, making moves and escalating. Women don't seem to look at it as something mechanical like that (at least not as much).
3. What hurts so bad about being friendzoned after a few dates is you two may have been objectively a very good match. She initially liked you and you had amazing convo chemistry. You just sucked at making moves and driving it in a sexual direction is all, and you blew your chance.
4. I think a lot of men are totally okay with waiting to have sex and taking things slow with intimacy, but we feel pressured on dates to make moves because we're terrified of being friendzoned. On a 2nd date, I'm literally thinking "you better kiss her goodbye extremely well or she's just going to go back to her other 300 matches." Pressures on. Usually if I'm entering 4 date territory, I start worrying I'm going to lose her if sex doesn't happen very soon. I know that sounds dumb, but it's what it definitely feels like.
5. If you date a lot, it truly starts feeling extremely disingenuous. Same date spots, same stories, same photos I show on my phone and even the same timing. But if I just totally wing it, I get much worse results I've noticed. It's like I have to stick to what works or else things have a less likely chance of progressing.
6. Some men would have been an excellent boyfriend, they just sucked at dating was all. Kind of like someone may have been an amazing employee, but just sucked during the initial interview process.

What are your hot takes?

 

[Xangsane]

If the average white Western woman were to be born a man, she'd be in the bottom 75% of men.

 

[thereallegend]

Lol what a loser
Imagine going on dates
Netflix n chill or ROPE

 

[Prettyboy]

The most important is missing, dating apps are pointless without a good insta page

 

[Xangsane]

Lol what a loser
Imagine going on dates
Netflix n chill or ROPE

Typical modern foid on a dating app before you even breathe: "Tee hee I am only open to long-term relationships you have to take me on proper dates"

 

[thereallegend]

The most important is missing, dating apps are pointless without a good insta page

Almost no one on Bumble cares about Instagram in my location. It's all Snapchat or they'll just outright give you their phone #.

 

[Prettyboy]

Almost no one on Bumble cares about Instagram in my location. It's all Snapchat or they'll just outright give you their phone #.

I had to put it into my bio because girls kept asking if I was a catfish (even though I have the verified badge), while others want to move things further from insta

 

[thereallegend]

I had to put it into my bio because girls kept asking if I was a catfish (even though I have the verified badge), while others want to move things further from insta

Instagram only matters for Tinder in my location.

 

[mecha72]

I had to put it into my bio because girls kept asking if I was a catfish (even though I have the verified badge), while others want to move things further from insta

Wild chad spotted

 

[Ethniframementalcel]

I hate women if I ever got a match on online dating and then a date I would troll women and talk shit to their face until they leave the bar and then I’d pay the bill

 

[Azr616]

I hate women if I ever got a match on online dating and then a date I would troll women and talk shit to their face until they leave the bar and then I’d pay the bill

I would kidnap, torture, dismember and dump their bodies.

(In minecraft)