TheTD7
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"My (28m) sisters-in-law are into looksmax. After they met my girlfriend (28f) they sent her a detailed message picking apart every aspect of her appearance and self and suggesting plastic surgery. How can I show her they're wrong/help her get over the hurt?
My older brother (29m) has been married for two years and my younger (27m) has been married for one year. I (28m) have been dating my girlfriend (28f) for a year. My brothers and sisters-in law met her for the first time in February.
My sisters-in-law are into something called "looksmax". I never really paid attention because I only heard about it in passing because they never spoke about it to me. It's about doing things to look as good/pretty/handsome as possible. Last week, my sisters-in-law sent sent a private message om social media meant for my girlfriend about how she needs to looksmax because of how ugly (their words) she looks now. I did not know this but there are different kinds of looksmax (like hardmax means getting plastic surgery). In their messages they picked apart my girlfriend's appearance in detail, telling her she has more "failos" (ugly traits) than "halos" (good traits). Everything from her face, hair, clothes, skin, voice and a million other little things. They made all kinds of suggestions including plastic surgery that she should have. My sisters-in-law visit a looksmax subreddit for women and they directed my girlfriend there for more help. My girlfriend doesn't have social media and my sisters-in-law in law actually sent the messages to her cousin who has a similar name because they mistook the cousin's profile as my girlfriend's profile.
Of course my girlfriend is devastated and I'm furious. Besides when my girlfriend met my brothers/sisters-in-law in February she has not had any contact with them. If the pandemic had not happened that would probably be different but when everyone had to stay indoors and social distance I only saw my brothers/sisters-in-law on Skype. I don't live with my girlfriend so she wasn't on those calls. She said my brothers/sisters-in-law were friendly and nice when she met them. She has no idea why my sisters-in-law would send her such nasty messages when they were so nice in person and no looksmax stuff was discussed then. My girlfriend did not know what looksmax was before the messages. Because of our jobs (I'm an x-ray technician and she's a paramedic) neither of us have left our homes except to go to work since March. We call/text/email/Skype and pass messages through my colleagues at the hospital but because my hospital has cases and she is at risk of exposure due to her job and we live in a hotspot we have not seen each other in person since this started. It kills me that I can't even go and comfort her. She cried herself to sleep and is so hurt.
My sisters-in-law say they were just want to help my girlfriend be her best. They also think she is being too sensitive because they say looksmax and surgery has helped them look better. I think my girlfriend is pretty but I'm also attracted to her because she kind and good hearted and a nice person. She is very down to earth and has a natural look. My sisters-in-law in law even implied to her that I'd like her more if she had plastic surgery which isn't true at all. My brothers also think they were just been helpful and don't see why she is hurt or I am upset. I never in a million years thought they would feel this way. Our parents were the only children of only children and they passed away and my brothers are the only living family I have. I would have never thought the four of them could be so hurtful and shallow. I am not speaking to my brothers and have blocked them because they think my girlfriend should be thankful to my sisters-in-law were so helpful instead of her being so ungrateful.
How can I help her feel better and reassure her that there's nothing wrong her and they were wrong? I can't see her in person but it kills me that she's so sad. Sorry this is so long but I just want to help her feel better. I'm sick that they treated her this way.
tl;dr My sisters-in-law are into looksmax. After meeting my girlfriend once they sent her a message on social media picking apart every aspect of her appearance and suggesting a plastic surgeon. Them and my brothers think they were helping and my girlfriend is an ingrate for being hurt. How do I help my girlfriend get over this and show her they are wrong?"
GENUINELY OVER IF YOUR BROTHER'S WIVES ARE BULLYING YOUR GIRLFRIEND
My older brother (29m) has been married for two years and my younger (27m) has been married for one year. I (28m) have been dating my girlfriend (28f) for a year. My brothers and sisters-in law met her for the first time in February.
My sisters-in-law are into something called "looksmax". I never really paid attention because I only heard about it in passing because they never spoke about it to me. It's about doing things to look as good/pretty/handsome as possible. Last week, my sisters-in-law sent sent a private message om social media meant for my girlfriend about how she needs to looksmax because of how ugly (their words) she looks now. I did not know this but there are different kinds of looksmax (like hardmax means getting plastic surgery). In their messages they picked apart my girlfriend's appearance in detail, telling her she has more "failos" (ugly traits) than "halos" (good traits). Everything from her face, hair, clothes, skin, voice and a million other little things. They made all kinds of suggestions including plastic surgery that she should have. My sisters-in-law visit a looksmax subreddit for women and they directed my girlfriend there for more help. My girlfriend doesn't have social media and my sisters-in-law in law actually sent the messages to her cousin who has a similar name because they mistook the cousin's profile as my girlfriend's profile.
Of course my girlfriend is devastated and I'm furious. Besides when my girlfriend met my brothers/sisters-in-law in February she has not had any contact with them. If the pandemic had not happened that would probably be different but when everyone had to stay indoors and social distance I only saw my brothers/sisters-in-law on Skype. I don't live with my girlfriend so she wasn't on those calls. She said my brothers/sisters-in-law were friendly and nice when she met them. She has no idea why my sisters-in-law would send her such nasty messages when they were so nice in person and no looksmax stuff was discussed then. My girlfriend did not know what looksmax was before the messages. Because of our jobs (I'm an x-ray technician and she's a paramedic) neither of us have left our homes except to go to work since March. We call/text/email/Skype and pass messages through my colleagues at the hospital but because my hospital has cases and she is at risk of exposure due to her job and we live in a hotspot we have not seen each other in person since this started. It kills me that I can't even go and comfort her. She cried herself to sleep and is so hurt.
My sisters-in-law say they were just want to help my girlfriend be her best. They also think she is being too sensitive because they say looksmax and surgery has helped them look better. I think my girlfriend is pretty but I'm also attracted to her because she kind and good hearted and a nice person. She is very down to earth and has a natural look. My sisters-in-law in law even implied to her that I'd like her more if she had plastic surgery which isn't true at all. My brothers also think they were just been helpful and don't see why she is hurt or I am upset. I never in a million years thought they would feel this way. Our parents were the only children of only children and they passed away and my brothers are the only living family I have. I would have never thought the four of them could be so hurtful and shallow. I am not speaking to my brothers and have blocked them because they think my girlfriend should be thankful to my sisters-in-law were so helpful instead of her being so ungrateful.
How can I help her feel better and reassure her that there's nothing wrong her and they were wrong? I can't see her in person but it kills me that she's so sad. Sorry this is so long but I just want to help her feel better. I'm sick that they treated her this way.
tl;dr My sisters-in-law are into looksmax. After meeting my girlfriend once they sent her a message on social media picking apart every aspect of her appearance and suggesting a plastic surgeon. Them and my brothers think they were helping and my girlfriend is an ingrate for being hurt. How do I help my girlfriend get over this and show her they are wrong?"
GENUINELY OVER IF YOUR BROTHER'S WIVES ARE BULLYING YOUR GIRLFRIEND
