Maleficent
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'I see women with ugly guys/short guys/genetic shit guys all the time'.
Think about it.
Imagine your libido was lower, especially for sub-stacies. Imagine you could easily get a girlfriend but most of them you wouldn't be physically attracted to, almost at all, but they would do all sorts of things for you. Imagine there was a lot of social pressure to have a girlfriend and to show them off. Imagine you are naturally Machiavellian and can fake emotions well. What would you do?
You would probably go out with a well-groomed, but unattractive girl and enjoy her constant stream of validation. You would probably want to meet all her friends to see if there were any more attractive options. You would probably skirt around the idea of sex and deep emotional intimacy, preferring to ration affection for whenever they did something particularly beneficial for you (to keep it coming). Hugging and cuddling would be acceptable for the oxytocin, in the privacy of your home, but you would be a little disgusted at the thought of having a kid with them. You would probably try to talk to as many other girls as possible and tell your partner not to worry about them, while, behind the scenes, calculating each of their strengths and weaknesses and what they could do for you/their potential. Then, one day, when you have a more attractive option secured, you will go cold and tell them 'I need a break', or 'I don't love you anymore'. Maybe even throw in some bullshit excuse/red herring reason just to make them think it was their own fault/ they lost you because they didn't do enough for you/ empower you enough. If the other option doesn't work out you can always go back to them after the 'break'.
But then you meet a girl that you're actually sexually attracted to, and your libido almost awakens from 0 to 10. You would make it as easy as possible for them to sleep with you. There would be next to no resistance. Maybe you would even begin to chase them and do things for them to keep them around.
You could argue that this isn't always even taking place on a conscious level, but more so emotions allowing fast-calculations and creating signals of various people's value - you don't have to be making conscious logical decisions for your behaviour to follow a logical pattern of value-seeking. Nevertheless, this thought experiment was interesting for me and I thought I'd share it.
Being powerless makes you more emotional and vice versa. When you're in a comfortable and secure position you can easily get bored and start to think coldly about your other options.
Think about it.
Imagine your libido was lower, especially for sub-stacies. Imagine you could easily get a girlfriend but most of them you wouldn't be physically attracted to, almost at all, but they would do all sorts of things for you. Imagine there was a lot of social pressure to have a girlfriend and to show them off. Imagine you are naturally Machiavellian and can fake emotions well. What would you do?
You would probably go out with a well-groomed, but unattractive girl and enjoy her constant stream of validation. You would probably want to meet all her friends to see if there were any more attractive options. You would probably skirt around the idea of sex and deep emotional intimacy, preferring to ration affection for whenever they did something particularly beneficial for you (to keep it coming). Hugging and cuddling would be acceptable for the oxytocin, in the privacy of your home, but you would be a little disgusted at the thought of having a kid with them. You would probably try to talk to as many other girls as possible and tell your partner not to worry about them, while, behind the scenes, calculating each of their strengths and weaknesses and what they could do for you/their potential. Then, one day, when you have a more attractive option secured, you will go cold and tell them 'I need a break', or 'I don't love you anymore'. Maybe even throw in some bullshit excuse/red herring reason just to make them think it was their own fault/ they lost you because they didn't do enough for you/ empower you enough. If the other option doesn't work out you can always go back to them after the 'break'.
But then you meet a girl that you're actually sexually attracted to, and your libido almost awakens from 0 to 10. You would make it as easy as possible for them to sleep with you. There would be next to no resistance. Maybe you would even begin to chase them and do things for them to keep them around.
You could argue that this isn't always even taking place on a conscious level, but more so emotions allowing fast-calculations and creating signals of various people's value - you don't have to be making conscious logical decisions for your behaviour to follow a logical pattern of value-seeking. Nevertheless, this thought experiment was interesting for me and I thought I'd share it.
Being powerless makes you more emotional and vice versa. When you're in a comfortable and secure position you can easily get bored and start to think coldly about your other options.
