Sad emotional feeling :(

[Jesus_ist_König]

I will keep it short:
Being alone is not the same as loneliness

1. I enjoy being alone
2. Occassionaly throughout the week I get a sad feeling that feels like "loneliness"
3. I doubt that that feeling is actually loneliness because when i feel it i dont have the desire to interact with ppl -which any lonely person would have
4. What I do feel sad about is my fear to not be seen -attention. Im afraid that I just live and no one knows that I exist. No I dont want to hang out with anyone but I like when ppl ask me to hang out and i tell them that I cant -because i like being alone- but i dont like being forgotten.
5. At the same time I dont like when im attached to ppl -which happens when I text with someone a lot. I just want someone i know IRL to occassionally reach out to me

I know that this is weird, I just get sad whilst I enjoy being alone but at the same time i know that no one knows me. I dont want friends, i just want ppl that know i exist and that i know them irl and that they occassionally let me know (via whatsapp or smth) that they like me or that they know I exist.

 

[spazdex]

I will keep it short:
Being alone is not the same as loneliness

1. I enjoy being alone
2. Occassionaly throughout the week I get a sad feeling that feels like "loneliness"
3. I doubt that that feeling is actually loneliness because when i feel it i dont have the desire to interact with ppl -which any lonely person would have
4. What I do feel sad about is my fear to not be seen -attention. Im afraid that I just life and no one knows that I exist. No I dont want to hang out with anyone but I like when ppl ask me to hang out and i tell them that I cant -because i like being alone- but i dont like being forgotten.
5. At the same time I dont like when im attached to ppl -which happens when I text with someone a lot. I just want someone i know IRL to occassionally reach out to me

I know that this is weird, I just get sad when enjoying to be alone but at the same time i know that no one knows me. I dont want friends, i just want ppl that know i exist and that i know them irl and that they occassionally let me know (via whatsapp or smth) that they like me or that they know I exist.

400 mg of ashwagandha and forget

 

[StellaFanboy]

but dude you need to become a social alpha god, all the self improvement videos will tell you so.

 

[reyik]

400 mg of ashwagandha and forget

fr

 

[Jesus_ist_König]

but dude you need to become a social alpha god, all the self improvement videos will tell you so.

Just cuz others enjoying hanging out doesnt mean that I also have to. I just want to fix this tiny problem

 

[T-BAG]

I will keep it short:
Being alone is not the same as loneliness

1. I enjoy being alone
2. Occassionaly throughout the week I get a sad feeling that feels like "loneliness"
3. I doubt that that feeling is actually loneliness because when i feel it i dont have the desire to interact with ppl -which any lonely person would have
4. What I do feel sad about is my fear to not be seen -attention. Im afraid that I just live and no one knows that I exist. No I dont want to hang out with anyone but I like when ppl ask me to hang out and i tell them that I cant -because i like being alone- but i dont like being forgotten.
5. At the same time I dont like when im attached to ppl -which happens when I text with someone a lot. I just want someone i know IRL to occassionally reach out to me

I know that this is weird, I just get sad whilst I enjoy being alone but at the same time i know that no one knows me. I dont want friends, i just want ppl that know i exist and that i know them irl and that they occassionally let me know (via whatsapp or smth) that they like me or that they know I exist.

Complex but i get you. I love beign alone too and i dont hang out with people in daily life. BUT like every other people, i need attention too so what i do is max out my grades in school and help everyone before exams and they reach out to me when they need help etc. Or when i know something about a thing like a car or a pc they reach out to me when they need help. What im saying is be useful, help people in daily life. I know it maybe sound like youre a tool but hey attention its attention, what type of doesnt matters

 

[Jesus_ist_König]

Complex but i get you. I love beign alone too and i dont hang out with people in daily life. BUT like every other people, i need attention too so what i do is max out my grades in school and help everyone before exams and they reach out to me when they need help etc. Or when i know something about a thing like a car or a pc they reach out to me when they need help. What im saying is be useful, help people in daily life. I know it maybe sound like youre a tool but hey attention its attention, what type of doesnt matters

good answer, i once was the best but they barely reached out
I dont really know it doesnt work anymore, ppl ask me out and I love declining their over but obv at some point they will just stop asking me to hang out

your solution doesnt apply to me but its solid

 

[T-BAG]

good answer, i once was the best but they barely reached out
I dont really know it doesnt work anymore, ppl ask me out and I love declining their over but obv at some point they will just stop asking me to hang out

your solution doesnt apply to me but its solid

hmm beign THAT much alone might be bad for you too tbh we are social creatures bud, sometimes just go out with them instead of ldraing. Maybe hop on .is and talk to people there. Or post post videos on social media about where you go/your physique/or a shitpost account doesnt matter. If it helped you even a little bit im grateful

 

[Jesus_ist_König]

hmm beign THAT much alone might be bad for you too tbh we are social creatures bud, sometimes just go out with them instead of ldraing. Maybe hop on .is and talk to people there. Or post post videos on social media about where you go/your physique/or a shitpost account doesnt matter. If it helped you even a little bit im grateful

1. I dont like posting myself or social media
2. i dont like .is and i already got banned for not being to much of an incel mindet person

 

[T-BAG]

1. I dont like posting myself or social media
2. i dont like .is and i already got banned for not being to much of an incel mindet person

Then you might consider going out once in a while yeah beign alone is nice and all, no noise+no trouble+no need to "do" something is peace. But beign too much alone can overthink you to "no one in this world needs me, whats my point" etc. so going out once in a while might help you. Or work somewhere where you need to work in groups etc.

 

[Jesus_ist_König]

Then you might consider going out once in a while yeah beign alone is nice and all, no noise+no trouble+no need to "do" something is peace. But beign too much alone can overthink you to "no one in this world needs me, whats my point" etc. so going out once in a while might help you. Or work somewhere where you need to work in groups etc.

1. I despise group work
2. I dont go outside im scared of aging cuz of uv light

 

[T-BAG]

1. I despise group work
2. I dont go outside im scared of aging cuz of uv light

alr if you dont like group work. But theres no need to be scared of uv light, just use 50 spf cream and youre good to go. I have long hair too so i dont get that much uv light tbh. If you really dont wanna talk to someone or go outside but really really, then go to psychologist. Im not a master of this so i cannot say too much about it ofc but if you need further help i guess that would be the best outcome.

 

[Jesus_ist_König]

alr if you dont like group work. But theres no need to be scared of uv light, just use 50 spf cream and youre good to go. I have long hair too so i dont get that much uv light tbh. If you really dont wanna talk to someone or go outside but really really, then go to psychologist. Im not a master of this so i cannot say too much about it ofc but if you need further help i guess that would be the best outcome.

yes i already have medical help but its not the same they arent like friends the only thing i think that i want is when someone writes me daily on whatsapp for 5 minutes and thats it, but they only answer or one friend writes once a week or i dont know i want more attention.

 

[T-BAG]

yes i already have medical help but its not the same they arent like friends the only thing i think that i want is when someone writes me daily on whatsapp for 5 minutes and thats it, but they only answer or one friend writes once a week or i dont know i want more attention.

alr alr, if you want attention then earn it i guess. Ill use myself as an example. I am 15 years old, and i dont live in a wealth family nor i have good genes. I keep my grades up as i said so i help people in the class etc. Ive been working out for 1.5 years, in my HOUSE. My family doesnt have the money for GYM so i just do it in the house i got a good physique. Girls in the halls talks to me and touches my biceps/my body When i come home, i have online friends i met on games, i talk with them. When none happens, i hop on social media and argue with someone about a topic or i hop on .org and try to help people. Maybe try to make online friends, or try to get a good physique, or try to maximize your grades etc. But do SOMETHING and earn that attention bro.

 

[Jesus_ist_König]

alr alr, if you want attention then earn it i guess. Ill use myself as an example. I am 15 years old, and i dont live in a wealth family nor i have good genes. I keep my grades up as i said so i help people in the class etc. Ive been working out for 1.5 years, in my HOUSE. My family doesnt have the money for GYM so i just do it in the house i got a good physique. Girls in the halls talks to me and touches my biceps/my body When i come home, i have online friends i met on games, i talk with them. When none happens, i hop on social media and argue with someone about a topic or i hop on .org and try to help people. Maybe try to make online friends, or try to get a good physique, or try to maximize your grades etc. But do SOMETHING and earn that attention bro.

thing is i dont really want attention
i dont want online friends i get really attached to them its bad
i dont know what to do

 

[T-BAG]

thing is i dont really want attention
i dont want online friends i get really attached to them its bad
i dont know what to do

hmm you want to be seen i get that. But not too much tho, just to be not forgotten. What can i say for now is that when someone invites you to go out again, accept it, you dont have to accept it every time when they ask but just do it even when you dont feel like it. And sometimes, be the first one who writes or invites, they dont have to accept ur invite, just ask and that would be enough.

 

[Jesus_ist_König]

hmm you want to be seen i get that. But not too much tho, just to be not forgotten. What can i say for now is that when someone invites you to go out again, accept it, you dont have to accept it every time when they ask but just do it even when you dont feel like it. And sometimes, be the first one who writes or invites, they dont have to accept ur invite, just ask and that would be enough.

I tried bro last week i tried but 20 minutes before the meeting i just stayed in school and did mathematics and called it a day, didnt go

 

[T-BAG]

I tried bro last week i tried but 20 minutes before the meeting i just stayed in school and did mathematics and called it a day, didnt go

thats on you bro. If you accept a meeting and dont go, people may not talk to you/invite you again. If you dont want to go, just say you dont. Or when you dont want to go the last minute, text them "I have a emergency, sorry". If you dont go without saying anything they might get wrong and dont talk to you again. When you accept a invitation, get ready 1-2 hours early, that makes you feel "i got ready and did allat, i should go or this outfit etc. will be for nothing."

 

[Jesus_ist_König]

thats on you bro. If you accept a meeting and dont go, people may not talk to you/invite you again. If you dont want to go, just say you dont. Or when you dont want to go the last minute, text them "I have a emergency, sorry". If you dont go without saying anything they might get wrong and dont talk to you again. When you accept a invitation, get ready 1-2 hours early, that makes you feel "i got ready and did allat, i should go or this outfit etc. will be for nothing."

i didnt say cuz there were 8 other ppl so it wasnt that big of a deal
ah fuck i dont know what to do, meeting ppl aint the solution, i enjoy talking on the phone but i dont really really have someone i could talk to daily, i have someone i can talk to often but not daily
the problem is i dont like talking on my phone cuz my parents would hear everything from my room and i dont like that and i also dont wanna go outside
but no one chats me


aka i just want to have online contact with a person i know irl

 

[T-BAG]

i didnt say cuz there were 8 other ppl so it wasnt that big of a deal
ah fuck i dont know what to do, meeting ppl aint the solution, i enjoy talking on the phone but i dont really really have someone i could talk to daily, i have someone i can talk to often but not daily
the problem is i dont like talking on my phone cuz my parents would hear everything from my room and i dont like that and i also dont wanna go outside
but no one chats me


aka i just want to have online contact with a person i know irl

hmm, i have girlfriend (just friends), and we talk 10 mins before the bed everynight, we dont go outside etc. just talk on the phone. Im sure theres so many people out there who wants someone like you bro, you have to grit your teeth and socialise for like a week or a month max till you find someone like that.

 

[Jesus_ist_König]

hmm, i have girlfriend (just friends), and we talk 10 mins before the bed everynight, we dont go outside etc. just talk on the phone. Im sure theres so many people out there who wants someone like you bro, you have to grit your teeth and socialise for like a week or a month max till you find someone like that.

bro im scared of summer for 1 week i will sleep at different ppls houses, i think i will die after that im trying to be chill about it but u just fucking cant.

I think imma call it a day and think about the short lasting pain of having no one is better than the long lasting pain after meeting ppl

 

[T-BAG]

bro im scared of summer for 1 week i will sleep at different ppls houses, i think i will die after that im trying to be chill about it but u just fucking cant.

I think imma call it a day and think about the short lasting pain of having no one is better than the long lasting pain after meeting ppl

i guess bro. Just be positive to people and you see that you get attention+the feeling of beign seen. Stay safe out there bro

 

[Jesus_ist_König]

i guess bro. Just be positive to people and you see that you get attention+the feeling of beign seen. Stay safe out there bro

dude this is what im taking about, right now i feel perfect and dont crave other ppl. I get these waves of sadness sometimes