Serious: Experiences with neurodivergence in public settings; and do women really care about the difference between a person with a neurotypical perso

[silverjet579]

THIS PART IS PERSONAL EXPERIENCE WITH NEURODIVERGENT DISABILITIES FOR CONTEXT OF HOW I THINK AND WHY I THINK ABOUT THE INFORMATION IN THE REST OF THE POST

To start, I have a horrible case of diagnosed ADHD, legit the worst you can get it. I just did some research and I think I may have AuDHD (Austim Spectrum Attention Deficit Disorder) and I feel like I don't deflect women because of it. Imo, I think being neurodivergent is kinda cool, it makes someone unique. I know lots of people with neurodivergent disabilities and I often see nd personas attract more women than someone with an nt persona. I often don't socialize in public and find myself to be a very anxious person. I used to be more outgoing but idk. Specifically towards women, I try to not talk to them very much because I get nervous for some reason. Lots of girls come up to me on their own and notice me, often trying to create small talk and eventually ask for my snap or number, and sometimes just ask for my number. I usually reject, because I recently got out of a relationship, and when I was in the relationship and it started happening A LOT more, I rejected them because I was in a rls but besides the point.


I was just using that as an example of neurodivergence. I don't like or want the attention because I get very anxious around people, most girls but also people I just don't know i'm super awkward with. But even when I am awkward, I feel like the person I speak too tries to carry the conversation, when I respond with an awkward one words response or something simple to get them to leave. It's very annoying. The reason I bring this up is because I feel like as an obvious nd who doesn't try to hide it, it doesn't dissociate me with people, and I'm treated perfectly normal by women. I don't attempt to look or act like an nt either.

With my ex girlfriend, when I would not talk or act neurotypical because of my Vyvanse meds, she would tell me that she prefer me to be chalant, and talk more, make more jokes, be myself. When I take my meds I just become an nt for like 2 hours before the extreme wears off and I'm slightly nd seeming.

I feel like being neurodivergent is weird, because as someone with these disabilities and a particularly high iq, I lack empathy for people that I find to be stupid or not intelligent, having done something that was obviously stupid and gotten the consequences that they deserved. On the other hand, I do have empathy for certain people and/or people I do not resent. I feel like that is the case with many if I'm not mistaken but I feel like it is emphasized for me a lot. I find it very easy to contain my emotions in many situations. I let them out when I'm alone obviously, but when someone makes me angry, sad or just annoys me, I can completely shut off that part of my brain and treat them normally, even if I resent them. I see the lack of this control in lots of people, being unable to regulate themselves.

I just want insight on any of your personal experiences and what you have seen in public or in private and what you have noticed about how neurotypical persona(s) are treated in retrospect to how neurodivergent persona(s) are treated.

edited:
changed to discussion bc it went from statement -> questions so
DNR; I have ND disabilities and am not treated differently in public by women apposed to someone with an NT persona. Questions to why this is, and whether or not women really care about the difference.

 

[GhenCohen]

 

[silverjet579]

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then don't respond to the serious topic khhv faggot

 

[iamnotaracist]

Actual Mentalcel

 

[silverjet579]

Actual Mentalcel

one of the worst aspects of my life i'd say is mental health but i definitely wouldn't say i'm an incel it just fucks with me tbh, if a girl I find attractive or interesting comes up to me I can easily communicate, i choose not to do it with most girls because I find them annoying or ugly tbh

 

[silverjet579]

bumpity bump bump

 

[m4m313]

THIS PART IS PERSONAL EXPERIENCE WITH NEURODIVERGENT DISABILITIES FOR CONTEXT OF HOW I THINK AND WHY I THINK ABOUT THE INFORMATION IN THE REST OF THE POST

To start, I have a horrible case of diagnosed ADHD, legit the worst you can get it. I just did some research and I think I may have AuDHD (Austim Spectrum Attention Deficit Disorder) and I feel like I don't deflect women because of it. Imo, I think being neurodivergent is kinda cool, it makes someone unique. I know lots of people with neurodivergent disabilities and I often see nd personas attract more women than someone with an nt persona. I often don't socialize in public and find myself to be a very anxious person. I used to be more outgoing but idk. Specifically towards women, I try to not talk to them very much because I get nervous for some reason. Lots of girls come up to me on their own and notice me, often trying to create small talk and eventually ask for my snap or number, and sometimes just ask for my number. I usually reject, because I recently got out of a relationship, and when I was in the relationship and it started happening A LOT more, I rejected them because I was in a rls but besides the point.


I was just using that as an example of neurodivergence. I don't like or want the attention because I get very anxious around people, most girls but also people I just don't know i'm super awkward with. But even when I am awkward, I feel like the person I speak too tries to carry the conversation, when I respond with an awkward one words response or something simple to get them to leave. It's very annoying. The reason I bring this up is because I feel like as an obvious nd who doesn't try to hide it, it doesn't dissociate me with people, and I'm treated perfectly normal by women. I don't attempt to look or act like an nt either.

With my ex girlfriend, when I would not talk or act neurotypical because of my Vyvanse meds, she would tell me that she prefer me to be chalant, and talk more, make more jokes, be myself. When I take my meds I just become an nt for like 2 hours before the extreme wears off and I'm slightly nd seeming.

I feel like being neurodivergent is weird, because as someone with these disabilities and a particularly high iq, I lack empathy for people that I find to be stupid or not intelligent, having done something that was obviously stupid and gotten the consequences that they deserved. On the other hand, I do have empathy for certain people and/or people I do not resent. I feel like that is the case with many if I'm not mistaken but I feel like it is emphasized for me a lot. I find it very easy to contain my emotions in many situations. I let them out when I'm alone obviously, but when someone makes me angry, sad or just annoys me, I can completely shut off that part of my brain and treat them normally, even if I resent them. I see the lack of this control in lots of people, being unable to regulate themselves.

I just want insight on any of your personal experiences and what you have seen in public or in private and what you have noticed about how neurotypical persona(s) are treated in retrospect to how neurodivergent persona(s) are treated.

edited:
changed to discussion bc it went from statement -> questions so
DNR; I have ND disabilities and am not treated differently in public by women apposed to someone with an NT persona. Questions to why this is, and whether or not women really care about the difference.

get to the point fuckwad

 

[silverjet579]

get to the point fuckwad

There was hardly a point to this. The entire fucking thing was my personal experiences and my opinion with a small question at the end. You're a fucking retard

iqlets like you should be eradicated from society jfl

 

[m4m313]

There was hardly a point to this. The entire fucking thing was my personal experiences and my opinion with a small question at the end. You're a fucking retard

iqlets like you should be eradicated from society jfl

so much yap

 

[Whatever]

No, I don’t think your case of ADHD matters. “Obvious ND” enough to put girls who like your looks off would be appearance related and obvious within the first second, like genuine speech difficulties (which I had growing up) or being aggressively looksminned. But even then I still have the remnants of my speech impediment and it’s much worse with women past 23 or so, that’s when NT matters much more, because by that age they’re closing off.

Unless you had a speech delay and other childhood symptoms please forget about going for an autism diagnosis, this is why that term means nothing anymore. Where legit neurodivergence can hurt someone sexually is that developmentally delayed nervous systems can take much longer to “come online” than neurotypical ones. I couldn’t tie my shoes until middle school. I did a lot of things awkwardly. And the sex I had in my early 20s, it’s like I was barely capable of it, I actually became much more coordinated and athletic starting in my mid 20s (I’m 32 now).

Being ND also hurts in more indirect ways, ie you’re much less likely to get invited to parties and other stuff where you can actually meet girls, this is at least as harmful as being ugly.

Where are these girls coming up to you?

 

[easyhumans]

ND is always a disability

 

[silverjet579]

No, I don’t think your case of ADHD matters. “Obvious ND” enough to put girls who like your looks off would be appearance related and obvious within the first second, like genuine speech difficulties (which I had growing up) or being aggressively looksminned. But even then I still have the remnants of my speech impediment and it’s much worse with women past 23 or so, that’s when NT matters much more, because by that age they’re closing off.

Unless you had a speech delay and other childhood symptoms please forget about going for an autism diagnosis, this is why that term means nothing anymore. Where legit neurodivergence can hurt someone sexually is that developmentally delayed nervous systems can take much longer to “come online” than neurotypical ones. I couldn’t tie my shoes until middle school. I did a lot of things awkwardly. And the sex I had in my early 20s, it’s like I was barely capable of it, I actually became much more coordinated and athletic starting in my mid 20s (I’m 32 now).

Being ND also hurts in more indirect ways, ie you’re much less likely to get invited to parties and other stuff where you can actually meet girls, this is at least as harmful as being ugly.

Where are these girls coming up to you?

Just in public. Im only 16 so the effect is probably much less for me. I can just be out by myself or with friends and acting how I do normally, and theyll treat me well so idk

 

[IncelelstialBeing]

"yeah im s fakecel and larp about being ND or i am so goodlooking that it doesn't matter, lol xd teehee fellow inkwells"

 

[silverjet579]

can you read?

look at the title of the thread retard

"larp about being nd"