Should I go ‘monk mode’

[Deleted member 19442]

Forget grinding but I should I just avoid interacting with people until I build a healthy self esteem (5 years minimum). Because it’s like I am always at the mercy of whoever I interact with. I’m the one with the least power and the least knowledge. If they choose to show hostility, withhold information give verbal abuse or whatever I can’t really do anything. That’s probably why I never try. It’s too much anxiety and stress.

 

[Zangano1]

Yes

 

[Deleted member 22918]

I'm on monk mode whenever i am too broke to book an escort

 

[Deleted member 19442]

And while I never go outside even if I do. I’ll just be a follower. On the sidelines. Too scared to express himself. Never has anything to say. It’s like I’m basically going out on my own but at least I’m included in a group right? Heck when I’m on my own I can talk and joke with myself. I’ve schizomaxxed so hard now.

@11yearoldprostitute seems to be in this situation only less mentally ill

 

[Deleted member 14693]

go to a monastery

 

[Deleted member 19442]

I never talk to women but. I can’t see myself handling an adult relationship. Unless I marry a virgin who never left the house (not a virgin who’s well socialised and will be demanding + NT). But that would 2 headless chickens. And women know I’m completely abnormal. That’s why I never talk to them ever. Because they can just sense my retardation and I pick it up

 

[vermillioncorefan]

no because you’ll never have the self esteem you dream of and ur just gonna waste 5 years going schizo in a monestary. the world stays the same 5 years from now when u come out of that shit

 

[bourgeoizyzz]

Forget grinding but I should I just avoid interacting with people until I build a healthy self esteem (5 years minimum). Because it’s like I am always at the mercy of whoever I interact with. I’m the one with the least power and the least knowledge. If they choose to show hostility, withhold information give verbal abuse or whatever I can’t really do anything. That’s probably why I never try. It’s too much anxiety and stress.

trolling aside, you can't build self esteem by withdrawing from society. You need to deal with your shit head on

 

[vermillioncorefan]

I never talk to women but. I can’t see myself handling an adult relationship. Unless I marry a virgin who never left the house (not a virgin who’s well socialised and will be demanding + NT). But that would 2 headless chickens.

virgin ONLY buddy ur still young get a jb

 

[Deleted member 19442]

trolling aside, you can't build self esteem by withdrawing from society. You need to deal with your shit head on

Well I can’t withdraw from society I’m just saying maybe I should avoid interacting with people until necessary. But the reality isI need to learn how to larp and hide everything about myself then form false connections with people

 

[PLA1092]

trolling aside, you can't build self esteem by withdrawing from society. You need to deal with your shit head on

This. Self esteem is built by positive social reinforcement and success, not YouTube subliminals for 14 year old Hamza fans jfl. You'll need to go outside and interact with people to actually build up your sense of worth

Unless you're sub 5. In which case it's irrelevant either way essentially

 

[spongebob]

I would do monk mode. However you should be ready for the fact that it will take at least 2 years minimum before you complete it. I did it through Covid. In that time you'll have build up the character and fundament and also the 'feeling good in your own company' to start interacting with people again.
But be prepared to be depressive and feel like shit for the upcoming years. In year 5 (me now) you will feel like you mog every other character developmental wise (and I wasn't even disciplined in my approach). The end result is very much worth it however.
You know how when you talk with a hot girl suddenly and you get all nervous and don't know how to behave?
I notice girls having that with me sometimes. And I am not even that goodlooking tbh. It feels superior. I feel like I have built a big ship instead of some shitty one and Im yet to make the miles to whatever my destination is. I have all the equipment but I need the mileage to be able to manouvre the waves of this big ocean world we live in.
It's worth it.

 

[Deleted member 19442]

This. Self esteem is built by positive social reinforcement and success, not YouTube subliminals for 14 year old Hamza fans jfl. You'll need to go outside and interact with people to actually build up your sense of worth

Unless you're sub 5. In which case it's irrelevant either way essentially

Social reinforcement isn't good. No matter who you are unless you're an absolute chad some people will dislike you and some will like you. Their opnion means nothing either way. You need to have an objective opinion of yourself + the world around you then use that to realise what's real and what isn't otherwise you risk ending up as a tranny being validated by discord hobos or some lolcow due to your dependency on external validation. This is built through inner development. But you defo need some validation through your close circle to keep going.

But I have to accept the way people see me. I can't hide in my cave and wait for the perfect situation or set up. That's a weird thing I picked up in adolescence where I was no longer a kid who just does whatever blindly and became aware of my myriad bad traits but didn't do anything about it.