Should one get used for one's looks?

[xXXxZeusxXXx]

Million dollar question right here, if looksmaxxing is the end goal let's say you get your best smv foid and then what? She will use you for your looks and perhaps of a bit of money in ltr, is this the life worth living? You can also go the slay maxxing route, the looksmaxxing end goal is very vague, only lookmaxxing one can do is for it's own, but then u start attracting foids who want you for your looks, how do you deal with that, cope and get used to it or stick with your morals?

 

[Rodreusr]

What's the problem tho?

 

[Valkyrjaj]

Anyone who wants to be with you its bc of some beneficial interest. Nobody is gonna love you unconditionally, besides your mother

 

[xXXxZeusxXXx]

What's the problem tho?

I like to be liked for me yk last girl I talked to liked me for me it seems, but being used for my looks never seems to click with me. I rationalize it, but it makes no sense, what happens when u look bad or when your fits are no longer on point or when a more attractive guy comes up and its matter of pray that she doesnt go to him? What then

 

[xXXxZeusxXXx]

Anyone who wants to be with you bc of some beneficial interest. Nobody is gonna love you unconditionally, besides your mother

Read me reply

 

[Valkyrjaj]

I like to be liked for me yk last girl I talked to liked me for me it seems, but being used for my looks never seems to click with me. I rationalize it, but it makes no sense, what happens when u look bad or when your fits are no longer on point or when a more attractive guy comes up and its matter of pray that she doesnt go to him? What then

You are at first liked for your looks and then you are liked bc of who you are as a person. Unfortunately, you cant get to part 2 if you dont pass part 1, wich are your looks. Thats why friends exist, instead of gf/bf and vice versa. So i would say that a friendship is even more "pure" than "love" bc you are definetly liked for who you are more bc there are no other interest besides your personality. However your looks are still a part of you. So I would say youre not getting used youre being liked based on different goals, romantic or frienship reasons

 

[LowTierBateman]

Yes

 

[killcry]

Nobody is gonna love you unconditionally, besides your mother

Wrong, that's still conditional

 

[Valkyrjaj]

Wrong, that's still conditional

How?

 

[xXXxZeusxXXx]

You are at first liked for your looks and then you are liked bc of who you are as a person. Unfortunately, you cant get to part 2 if you dont pass part 1, wich are your looks. Thats why friends exist, instead of gf/bf and vice versa. So i would say that a friendship is even more "pure" than "love" bc you are definetly liked for who you are more bc there are no other interest besides your personality. However your looks are still a part of you. So I would say youre not getting used youre being liked based on different goals, romantic or frienship reasons

Thats a very healthy mindset to have, but what if she likes you on good days when you are fully "looksmaxxed" what happens after 30 40 when your looks decline or perhaps you have an accident or even if you just look your regular self and its not enough because she wants that very very niche specific type that needs a lot of maintenance to make it work for her physically? What then is this not the definition of being used? When she likes you for the good days and not the bad days?

 

[Valkyrjaj]

Thats a very healthy mindset to have, but what if she likes you on good days when you are fully "looksmaxxed" what happens after 30 40 when your looks decline or perhaps you have an accident or even if you just look your regular self and its not enough because she wants that very very niche specific type that needs a lot of maintenance to make it work for her physically? What then is this not the definition of being used? When she likes you for the good days and not the bad days?

About the accident thing, I already had that conversation with my ex gf and she told me that she would take care of me if i had an accident that would cause disfigurement or something like that. That she wouldnt leave me. In those cases, you have no option but to trust your woman. Same thing for her. You cannot control if she will leave or not. You will know tho, if she was only there for the looks if she leaves, when an accident happens.

And about the rest, dude.... you dont know me ... if she ever tells me shit like that i would tell her that she either likes me how i am now, or that she can fuck off. Im not gonna torture myself to look a certain for somebody just to please her stupid needs. Dont get me wrong tho, its important to want to look good and to be attractive for your partner, but for example, my ex was a skinny taller girl, ive always been fit, so she started the gym bc she thought i deserved a better body from her, but i never pressured her to do anything. She did it bc she wanted to. Quite sure also if i pressured her she would tell me to go fuck myself.

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