Should you ever date a woman you aren’t really attracted to?

[Geoff2024]

Please don’t say anything if you don’t have any first or second hand experience or are not capable of giving a serious or good response.

Man I couldn't even get hard with her u think I would date her?

 

[enchanted_elixir]

Man I couldn't even get hard with her u think I would date her?

Sheesh.

 

[JimmyDreamsOfZygos]

I’m not dating her.

This has nothing to do with you faggot

 

[Geoff2024]

Sheesh.

The answer is no, bcz at one point even if u like her personality u will start despising her bcz you find her disgusting

 

[enchanted_elixir]

This has nothing to do with you faggot

Dude show some respect. I just wanted to clarify what you said since you said that “she was my bitch” (meaning she was my partner)

 

[Sektor]

Negative rep and 1k posts in such a short time, nobody here cares what you have to say. Keep in mind this is a thread about this nigga NOT BEING ATTRACTED TO HIS BITCH. I imagined different because I have too much dick and pleasing a girl isn’t a goal to celebrate for me anymore. Especially in a long term relationship where you don’t explicitly “love” this bitch, you’re gonna get kinda bored of it eventually when you’re fucking 2x a day and she never gets tired of it. I never even did it too much because I respected her, but since I’m not a fucking ape I’m capable of closing my eyes and picturing a different girl. Insane how you’re standing on being a brainless imaginationlet.

Answered what he asked you just made a dumn point retard plus this nigga talking posts and negative rep BRO HOW MUCH OF AN INCEL ARE YOU and most definitely not you give out such small dick energy theres no point in arguing with you keep rotting on this forum you arrogant child

 

[Mike456]

I think she’ll always put me on a pedestal although she’ll be more used to me, she’s been doing it for a long time and it hasn’t gone away.

She is like a chilhood friend like she always liked you?

 

[JimmyDreamsOfZygos]

Answered what he asked you just made a dumn point retard plus this nigga talking posts and negative rep BRO HOW MUCH OF AN INCEL ARE YOU and most definitely not you give out such small dick energy theres no point in arguing with you keep rotting on this forum you arrogant child

Anime pfp and it’s some faggot one too, I know exactly who you are jfl. There’s no energy, that’s just cope because my shit is throbbing 24/7 and that’s the reality. You’re the one joining the late stage forum looking for advice, it was nothing but slayers and trolling when I joined.

 

[Sovvton]

I mog her.

W enchanted

I just don’t get that much overt IOIs from more attractive individuals so I can never falsify my Uninterested until proven interested” principle.

i get what you mean, but there are potentially other factors to why you aren't getting iois, its not cope thats just what miserable .org users want you to believe so your self esteem is as low as theirs

i have experience first-hand as a black guy, when im in public i rarely notice iois probably bc they think im a thug (racism in the big 2025 )

but when it comes to things like my uni lectures, house parties, even with female friends etc etc, i notice a million more iois than i do walking down the street

its not that my face mysteriously increases by 3 psl whenever im in a lecture or at a party etc, but its bc in each situation theres at least some level of familiarity, so they're not as intimidated and actually feel comfortable giving iois

the fact a girl has you as their oneitis is already a good sign tho

what you could do is instead of waiting to react to iois in order to discern your rating/smv, realistically think about what your smv is and how much you could pull, then proactively go out and try achieve that whether its in the club or on ig, to try and verify whatever conclusion you came to

And I’m not going to cheat on her. This girl has been eyeing me for years and is always nice to me, I’d tear her soul of I cheated on her, but I would be able to leap frog.

i also get what you mean here, its lowkey my dream situation so i know exactly what i'd do (i think i have a fetish for high mtbs, but also im assuming shes rated below that?)

if shes been eyeing you for years then it makes things 10x easier, you're probably her oneitis and you should move with this in mind and show her enough interest/companionship to always question whether you're into her or not, and theres a 99.9% chance she'll never outright say her feelings bc girls are too high inhib

she might try to infer it subtly tho, and whenever you see it coming don't avoid it but either act like a single digit iq oblivious bum, or pretend that you think shes joking, either way she wont have the heart to correct you

if you're at least considering dating her she can't be that chopped or annoying, so id say do this for as long as you want then if you get tired of looking for love/cant find a hqnp girl or whatever it is, then this girl is a great backup plan

Another thing, can you actually trust the women who are now interested in you because you have a partner? Like is it genuine?

it depends, but yes and no

i know why you're asking this, its not that these women see you with your girl, chase you bc you have a girl, then lets say when you leave your gf they immediately lose interest

some girls (and guys too) are homewreckers and will act like this but thats weird behaviour and very rare

having a gf is more like a regular halo, it makes them more interested in you bc they have overwhelming evidence that you're desirable enough for someone to want to be with you exclusively, and subconsciously they'll want to experience your desirability for themselves

but in that sense its no different from height or a good physique, the gf halo can get you through the door but its not gonna keep you in the room - however its not necessarily gonna get you kicked out the room either

 

[Daddy's Home]

Normies go on a date with any girl who gives them the slightest chance, because that girl is supposed to be loyal to you since she chose you, no matter what she looks like, at least you'll have sex & authentic love & reproduction

Incels on obscure internet forums, on the other hand, are aware of the indirect importance of looks in real life, so their standards for women will be much higher, often going to extremes, choosing either:

- a robust girl, who seems to have a lot of testosterone, big bones, athletic body, above average height, etc. so to ensure that their children will not have the body and face of a incel

- a girl full of estrogen, very cute, with weak bones, very feminine, curvy, average or below average height

Unfortunately, both categories are that 0.1% on the street in real life, so they are not a sustainable option, so all you can do is try to ideally get something above average, and if that happens, you will be truly satisfied.

Basically, you are too aware at this point to choose something you are not attracted to, your body will produce a repulsion towards it, and in the long run the relationship will not be sustainable

Also, you'll always live with the thought that a guy like this sleeps every night with something like this in bed, while you settle for less..

 

[enchanted_elixir]

She is like a chilhood friend like she always liked you?

Met her in a class (was approached, she sat next to me until I spoke to her) in early 2024

 

[enchanted_elixir]

i have experience first-hand as a black guy, when im in public i rarely notice iois probably bc they think im a thug (racism in the big 2025 )

You can’t blame it on that if you’re actually doing things or dressing in a manner that would lead people to make that inference.

 

[enchanted_elixir]

i also get what you mean here, its lowkey my dream situation so i know exactly what i'd do (i think i have a fetish for high mtbs, but also im assuming shes rated below that?)

Yeah, she is. Like LTB, mid LTB.

 

[Mike456]

Met her in a class (was approached, she sat next to me until I spoke to her) in early 2024

I have a dude who is in the exact situation but the girl is a childhood friend

I suggest not getting with her cause you cant ever love her and her looks will go down making feel disgusted

Also you will fuck up your genes

 

[enchanted_elixir]

if shes been eyeing you for years then it makes things 10x easier, you're probably her oneitis and you should move with this in mind and show her enough interest/companionship to always question whether you're into her or not, and theres a 99.9% chance she'll never outright say her feelings bc girls are too high inhib

Pal, I know she likes me. She moved her seat mid semester to sit near me and she asked me for my number a year later “no, don’t leave yet, I never got the chance to get your number!”

 

[enchanted_elixir]

Also you will fuck up your genes

** any offspring I have

 

[PeakIncels]

no you shouldn't

 

[enchanted_elixir]

W enchanted

i get what you mean, but there are potentially other factors to why you aren't getting iois, its not cope thats just what miserable .org users want you to believe so your self esteem is as low as theirs

i have experience first-hand as a black guy, when im in public i rarely notice iois probably bc they think im a thug (racism in the big 2025 )

but when it comes to things like my uni lectures, house parties, even with female friends etc etc, i notice a million more iois than i do walking down the street

its not that my face mysteriously increases by 3 psl whenever im in a lecture or at a party etc, but its bc in each situation theres at least some level of familiarity, so they're not as intimidated and actually feel comfortable giving iois

the fact a girl has you as their oneitis is already a good sign tho

what you could do is instead of waiting to react to iois in order to discern your rating/smv, realistically think about what your smv is and how much you could pull, then proactively go out and try achieve that whether its in the club or on ig, to try and verify whatever conclusion you came to


i also get what you mean here, its lowkey my dream situation so i know exactly what i'd do (i think i have a fetish for high mtbs, but also im assuming shes rated below that?)

if shes been eyeing you for years then it makes things 10x easier, you're probably her oneitis and you should move with this in mind and show her enough interest/companionship to always question whether you're into her or not, and theres a 99.9% chance she'll never outright say her feelings bc girls are too high inhib

she might try to infer it subtly tho, and whenever you see it coming don't avoid it but either act like a single digit iq oblivious bum, or pretend that you think shes joking, either way she wont have the heart to correct you

if you're at least considering dating her she can't be that chopped or annoying, so id say do this for as long as you want then if you get tired of looking for love/cant find a hqnp girl or whatever it is, then this girl is a great backup plan


it depends, but yes and no

i know why you're asking this, its not that these women see you with your girl, chase you bc you have a girl, then lets say when you leave your gf they immediately lose interest

some girls (and guys too) are homewreckers and will act like this but thats weird behaviour and very rare

having a gf is more like a regular halo, it makes them more interested in you bc they have overwhelming evidence that you're desirable enough for someone to want to be with you exclusively, and subconsciously they'll want to experience your desirability for themselves

but in that sense its no different from height or a good physique, the gf halo can get you through the door but its not gonna keep you in the room - however its not necessarily gonna get you kicked out the room either

Thank you so much, man!
This was by far the most helpful answer I’ve received in a long time! Read every word.

 

[Seth Walsh]

Please don’t say anything if you don’t have any first or second hand experience or are not capable of giving a serious or good response.

No it’s just a waste of time lol

Lots of dudes stay in shitty relationships out of fear. And by “shitty relationship”, I don’t necessarily mean that the girl’s batshit crazy or wild. Can be the case that you’re just not attracted to her, she’s boring, doesn’t bring out the best in you, and you’re just not right for eachother.

There’s way more credence in acting on clarity in realising that, than staying with her due to inertia or fear of upsetting her.

 

[arabcell]

Please don’t say anything if you don’t have any first or second hand experience or are not capable of giving a serious or good response.

Depends on ur situation.

when i moved to a different highschool. I dated some ltb just to get closer to her friends (they were the popular friendgroup) and then got into parties from there.

 

[Cinnamon fan64]

No
Thats very wrong
Same thing for foid

 

[heightmax]

Please don’t say anything if you don’t have any first or second hand experience or are not capable of giving a serious or good response.

No, you’ll just end up wanting to leave the partner or just fool him/her and play with their feelings

 

[enchanted_elixir]

i get what you mean, but there are potentially other factors to why you aren't getting iois, its not cope thats just what miserable .org users want you to believe so your self esteem is as low as theirs

i have experience first-hand as a black guy, when im in public i rarely notice iois probably bc they think im a thug (racism in the big 2025 )

but when it comes to things like my uni lectures, house parties, even with female friends etc etc, i notice a million more iois than i do walking down the street

its not that my face mysteriously increases by 3 psl whenever im in a lecture or at a party etc, but its bc in each situation theres at least some level of familiarity, so they're not as intimidated and actually feel comfortable giving iois

the fact a girl has you as their oneitis is already a good sign tho

what you could do is instead of waiting to react to iois in order to discern your rating/smv, realistically think about what your smv is and how much you could pull, then proactively go out and try achieve that whether its in the club or on ig, to try and verify whatever conclusion you came to

This and the “relationship halo” are the best pieces of advice here.

So I don’t talk that much, I just go to college, go to class, go to the library to do schoolwork, and go home. I sometimes stop by the cafeteria to eat.

I get IOIs by women passing by or staring at a distance (the first one is more common than the second one), but the cost of interaction is higher (cold approaching is required to break the ice), so no thing really happens and it’s harder to discern if a woman thinks you’re attractive from a simple pass by since they’re incentivized to not get caught (sometimes they fail and it’s obvious they’re hiding it, sometimes I feel like I either cant read them because they did such a good job of suppressing it).

But would you say that I should join an club on campus for that or join some social circle such that they can be around me consistently (and have a low social distance, unlike strangers in a library)

 

[enchanted_elixir]

Depends on ur situation.

when i moved to a different highschool. I dated some ltb just to get closer to her friends (they were the popular friendgroup) and then got into parties from there.

Wicked tbh lol

 

[Sovvton]

Thank you so much, man!
This was by far the most helpful answer I’ve received in a long time! Read every word.

no problem bud

 

[arabcell]

Wicked tbh lol

In my situation, it wasnt as bad as it sounds.

i had some form of attraction to her, i liked her personality and she wasnt necessarily BAD looking but just not very good looking, id say she leans more to hLTB.

But i was lucky on how i ended the relationship and how she didnt convince her friends to hate me, so this may not be the same for everyone else looking to do the same thing in a similar situation.

 

[BrutalMogger]

yes due to my LOW LTN nature i can see the beauty within LTBs Subhumans etc.

 

[enchanted_elixir]

yes due to my LOW LTN nature i can see the beauty within LTBs Subhumans etc.

I’m Not LTN so I can’t do that.

 

[true ascension]

Please don’t say anything if you don’t have any first or second hand experience or are not capable of giving a serious or good response.

If it's for a relationship, no, it happened to me and I advise against it

 

[Aryan Incel]

Please don’t say anything if you don’t have any first or second hand experience or are not capable of giving a serious or good response.

No

 

[Clav's Baseball Cup]

foids.org

 

[mrdouchebag]

Slum busting and dumpster diving is fine here and there. Good for practice if you have no experience or are on a dry spell. My dad would give you the exact same advice. My brother would also give you the exact same advice.

But dating? Longterm? Fuck no. I know personally I'll never be invested in a woman that I am not attracted to, so it defeats the whole point of it. I can barely be invested in women I am attracted to after a few months.

 

[enchanted_elixir]

If it's for a relationship, no, it happened to me and I advise against it

Can you give me more details? Like what happened and the dynamics, how you and her felt throughout the relationship, etc.

 

[true ascension]

Can you give me more details? Like what happened and the dynamics, how you and her felt throughout the relationship, etc.

yes, sure. I met this girl through a “friend” of mine at the time. She was actually pretty cute, but her personality was terrible she was way too much of a “good girl.” The worst part was that I couldn’t have any kind of real conversation with her, we literally talked about nothing. When we went out or spent time together, I felt absolutely nothing for her. She was painfully boring. I tried to give it some time, thinking things might get better and hoping I’d somehow fall in love with her, but when I realized that wasn’t going to happen, I decided to end it. I felt bad about it, but aside from the sex, there was really nothing there at all

 

[OneCopDayKepRopAway]

Please don’t say anything if you don’t have any first or second hand experience or are not capable of giving a serious or good response.

Depends on what you want. Sex or relationship, since there is no measure to sex, as long as she isn't deformed she is crackable, but it does depends on guy . For me she has to be at last mtb for me to crack or good body ltb, I can only crush or love htb st minimum While I m mtn

 

[enchanted_elixir]

yes, sure. I met this girl through a “friend” of mine at the time. She was actually pretty cute, but her personality was terrible she was way too much of a “good girl.” The worst part was that I couldn’t have any kind of real conversation with her, we literally talked about nothing. When we went out or spent time together, I felt absolutely nothing for her. She was painfully boring. I tried to give it some time, thinking things might get better and hoping I’d somehow fall in love with her, but when I realized that wasn’t going to happen, I decided to end it. I felt bad about it, but aside from the sex, there was really nothing there at all

Thank you for your response!

 

[gigacumster3000]

hey man, i feel you on that question. dating someone you're not attracted to can be tough

 

[sadcel]

Another thing, can you actually trust the women who are now interested in you because you have a partner? Like is it genuine?

No, they're self-centered/narcissitic. A guy dumping his partner for you would be such an ego boost.

 

[enchanted_elixir]

No, they're self-centered/narcissitic. A guy dumping his partner for you would be such an ego boost.

You mean; girl, her, right?

 

[sadcel]

You mean; girl, her, right?

It's you who have a partner right ?

 

[enchanted_elixir]

It's you who have a partner right ?

No, the girl likes me and I’m deciding whether to reciprocate or not.

 

[sadcel]

No, the girl likes me and I’m deciding whether to reciprocate or not.

Why already being in a relationship right ?

 

[cartonfoirix]

you don't have to be REALLY attracted to her, that's a recipe to be forever alone

you just need to be attracted to her enough that you know you'll be able to smash regulary without it being a chore

that's literally it

everybody else fuk off

the professor is here and in session