Social advice

[Big Boss]

When you meet someone for the first time/dont know them well, asking too many questions, even 2+ can very quickly put pressure on them and they wont enjoy the interaction.

Its much safer and much better to make statements for the other person to react to. Making statements and reacting to each other is the natural conversation style of humans. It takes the pressure off, shows personality and builds connections much quicker

For example right now we are on .org i could throw anything out there and it doesnt even need to be smart to work, i could just say you know .org is either a 2/10 experience or a 10/10 experience. Thats an example of a statement that invites discussion. Infact, this entire thread is an example of one long statement, and look how many people will easily reply.

If you wanna use it in other contexts the same rule applies, its almost just saying your internal thoughts, for example sat next to someone in a lecture hall and you say “i got no clue what this guy is talking about ngl”

The good thing about statements is that it puts less pressure on you because you are not necessarily expecting a reply. The person might just laugh, respond, or ignore you and it wouldnt matter either way. When you ask a question all of your social power relies on if the other person answers well.

It took me way too long to realise but what made it click was just realising that i feel alot of pressure/anxiety when someones asking me so many questions. It feels like im under a spotlight. Im not special, most humans naturally feel threatened when someon they dont know well starts blasting them with questions, because they have to go through so much cognitive effort to filter their responses to sound ‘normal’

 

[Big Boss]

 

[truefoidslayerpqoqo]

When you meet someone for the first time/dont know them well, asking too many questions, even 2+ can very quickly put pressure on them and they wont enjoy the interaction.

Its much safer and much better to make statements for the other person to react to. Making statements and reacting to each other is the natural conversation style of humans. It takes the pressure off, shows personality and builds connections much quicker

For example right now with you were on .org i could throw anything out there and it doesnt even need to be smart to work, i could just say you know .org is either a 2/10 experience or a 10/10 experience. Thats an example of a statement that invites discussion. Infact, this entire thread is an example of one long statement, and look how many people will easily reply.

If you wanna use it in other contexts the same rule applies, its almost just saying your internal thoughts, for example sat next to someone in a lecture hall and you say “i got no clue what this guy is talking about ngl”

The good thing about statements is that it puts less pressure on you because you are not necessarily expecting a reply. The person might just laugh, respond, or ignore you and it wouldnt matter either way. When you ask a question all of your social power relies on if the other person answers well.

It took me way too long to realise but what made it click was just realising that i feel alot of pressure/anxiety when someones asking me so many questions. It feels like im under a spotlight. Im not special, most humans naturally feel threatened when someon they dont know well starts blasting them with questions, because they have to go through so much cognitive effort to filter their responses to sound ‘normal’

Good advices from chud

 

[Big Boss]

Good advices from chud

Chad*