social anxiety/autism is legitimately ruining me

[vanillaicecream]

id credit my education and career to extreme persistence and willpower rather than a lucky circumstance that i just stumbled into.
my college years were absolutely miserable. i had literally 0 friends, just one or two study partners. this makes things harder academically too cuz more difficult to cheat. too anxious to go to office hours or anything also, i had to grind thru my difficult engineering degree depressed and alone. it took my 9 months of constant searching and applying to get a job. if i could've seen my future, i would've tried harder to take those "opportunities", but at that point i simply wasn't desperate enough, and now ive had absolutely nothing for the past 5 years. im completely invisible to women.

Well yes but what I'm getting at is the fact it takes some degree of social skills and comfortability to achieve those things. You need to get through job interviews, speak in front of the whole class etc. Your social anxiety must not be that bad if you pulled this off.

 

[mogger123]

r u khv or v or slayer

v

ive got to second base before though

 

[mogs_me]

Well yes but what I'm getting at is the fact it takes some degree of social skills and comfortability to achieve those things. You need to get through job interviews, speak in front of the whole class etc. Your social anxiety must not be that bad if you pulled this off.

none of these areas are strictly social interactions there's other aspects to it
in school you can focus on your studies
at work you can focus on your work
you don't really need to interact or make friends with people other than for your own comfort/success, it's not a hard requirement
when you're going to a bar or a party though, the context is strictly social, there's no avoiding it, these are the things that make me anxious

 

[mogs_me]

v

ive got to second base before though

how do you feel about relationships with non-virgin women
i feel like you are lucky in that you probably do not have this mental block whereas i do
i could never date a girl who isn't a virgin to me it's the same thing as cheating i cant do it
i guess maybe i could pretend to date them just for the sex/intimacy but i couldn't actually care about them
not like it really matters it's a moot point for me anyways

 

[mogger123]

how do you feel about relationships with non-virgin women
i feel like you are lucky in that you probably do not have this mental block whereas i do
i could never date a girl who isn't a virgin to me it's the same thing as cheating i cant do it
i guess maybe i could pretend to date them just for the sex/intimacy but i couldn't actually care about them
not like it really matters it's a moot point for me anyways

i could not care less

 

[mogs_me]

i could not care less

what if on your wedding day, you were played a video tape of your wife-to-be, and it was her in college getting DP'd by two guys more attractive than you in every way and enjoying it viscerally in a way that you have never seen with you. would u still say i do, nigga?

 

[mogger123]

what if on your wedding day, you were played a video tape of your wife-to-be, and it was her in college getting DP'd by two guys more attractive than you in every way and enjoying it viscerally in a way that you have never seen with you. would u still say i do, nigga?

idk probably yeah

i feel like im naturally gonna be the one with the power in the relationship so it doesnt matter

two guys more attractive than you in every way

also, impossible

 

[mogs_me]

idk probably yeah

i feel like im naturally gonna be the one with the power in the relationship so it doesnt matter

also, impossible

crazy shit bro, niro tbh

 

[mogger123]

crazy shit bro, niro tbh

i feel like you had a religious upbringing and youve been brainwashed with all that purity nonsense (unconsciously, of course because you will vehemently deny the connection). you need to realise that degeneracy is usually good. for example if a girl has a long degenerate sex history it means she will be better at pleasuring you and more kinky

 

[wollet2]

i feel like you had a religious upbringing and youve been brainwashed with all that purity nonsense (unconsciously, of course because you will vehemently deny the connection). you need to realise that degeneracy is usually good. for example if a girl has a long degenerate sex history it means she will be better at pleasuring you and more kinky

not being promiscuous if shes horny probably means she is retarded

no reason to not have sex with hot stranger if u are horny and able to do it safe

 

[mogger123]

not being promiscuous if shes horny probably means she is retarded

no reason to not have sex with hot stranger if u are horny and able to do it safe

i completely disagree, that's just not how people function irl. behaviour in relationship vs outside relationship is wildly different for both men and women because humans are sentient complex beings and not retarded dogs or monkeys

 

[wollet2]

i completely disagree, that's just not how people function irl. behaviour in relationship vs outside relationship is wildly different for both men and women because humans are sentient complex beings and not retarded dogs or monkeys

they usually believe dumb stuff like being pumped and dumped means the guy does not respect you, i wouldnt vibe with this type of personality, i understand preferring to masturbate over fucking random guy because most men are ogre-dangerous or not attractive but ideally people would have casual sex all the time (given they were horny) this doesnt make them retarded dogs or monkeys.

sex is a good thing and no reason not to have it all the time when horny with the right people, its just most people are shit especially men and not ready for it

 

[mogger123]

they usually believe dumb stuff like being pumped and dumped means the guy does not respect you, i wouldnt vibe with this type of personality, i understand preferring to masturbate over fucking random guy because most men are ogre-dangerous or not attractive but ideally people would have casual sex all the time (given they were horny) this doesnt make them retarded dogs or monkeys.

sex is a good thing and no reason not to have it all the time when horny with the right people

legit but only outside of a relationship or in consensually open relationships

 

[wollet2]

legit but only outside of a relationship or in consensually open relationships

i wish i was horny so i could have respectable and mutually pleasurebale sex with girls all the time, but sadly i have negative libido for years

life is so boring at best being permanently 0 libido, you need atleast some of it to function

 

[apocalypse]

I hover quietly like a retard for the most part in group gatherings but ppl still like me
Really everyone likes me in every way except foids in a romantic/sexual way

 

[mogger123]

i wish i was horny so i could have respectable and mutually pleasurebale sex with girls all the time, but sadly i have negative libido for years

life is so boring at best being permanently 0 libido, you need atleast some of it to function

why do you obsess over sex so much if you have zero libido? surely it would be easy to completely forget about it and do other stuff

 

[Deleted member 22124]

You have friends, so respectfully, stfu. I don't have anyone. Only people I had close to me where abusive, dismissive or neglectful. Couldn't even get a proper childhood. You have no idea how lucky you are. It's as if I'm living in prison, except for the fact that I can take walks and decide when to eat and sleep etc. There's literally nothing positive about my life other than the fact that I have my own rental apartment.

 

[wollet2]

why do you obsess over sex so much if you have zero libido? surely it would be easy to just completely forget about it and do other stuff

its complicating because i was not negative libido since birth, i was actually a "sex addict" and used to be the most excited thinking about sex - women, my entire life and ways of coping were built around that (had crippling depression like forever but girls in general used to make me excited, all sort of interactions with them to not say sex alone like an animal, but it was all fueled by libido)

literally used to say to myself, "should i kill myself or bust a nut" paraphrasing camus quote for fun, thats how i felt about it, and busting a nut was enough to keep me going (lol)

i lost all of that and my genital function/feeling over a few months and it just kept getting worse through the years, my brain and body are damaged beyond repair, from that autoimmune disease that destroyed me

so basically the transition is what has made me so abused about it, i feel like ive missed out on everything, i knew life different, i look at hot women and feel nothing when i know that it would be so much different 5 years ago, a part inside me maybe still wants to do stuff to them but i simply cant. i know nothing will replace the amount of fun i could be having

idk, its pure frustration

 

[Deleted member 29167]

"omg i have it so hard socially. i literally get invited to go out and i say no.. because muh social anxiety!! im so scwared "

 

[subhumantosubhumans]

GL + autism = not over
Not GL + NT = not over
Nor GL + autism = rope immediately